Post # 1
Hello Military brides!
I don’t really have any military people in my family, and thought you may be the best to answer this question.
My fiance and I were contemplating potential wedding dates for Fall/Winter 2013 and noticed that November 10 falls on a Sunday. November 11 is a day off for most people, so having a wedding on November 10, people could still stay later and have the ‘benefits’ of a ‘Saturday’ wedding but with potential deals of a Sunday wedding.
My question though, would taking advantage of Remembrance Day to have a longer reception at a potentially lower cost the day before Remembrance Day, would that be disrespectful? Shoulw we just do it on a different day? We had considered the weekend of Canadian Thanksgiving, but then found out that another family member is getting married that weekend…
Post # 3
My British fiance says this wouldn’t be any taboo— first off, you’re not holding the wedding on the actual holiday, and more importantly, Rememberance Day is a happy day, not a somber celebration. True, it’s honoring those who have fallen in war, but it should be a celebration of their lives, not of their deaths. It is a “respectful” time of course. My military brother wouldn’t have a problem with someone getting married on the Sunday of Memorial Day Weekend here in the States, either.
You might want to consider including poppies in your bouquet and for the gentlemen’s corsages, which I think would be a fitting touch, or incorporating a short moment of silence, especially if your ceremony is around the 11:00 hour when many Commonwealth countries traditionally do a moment of silence. If you’re planning to do favors (which, from what I understand, is more of an American custom than anywhere else) you may want to do poppies and a donation to a Veteran’s charity rather than candies or stuff like that.
Post # 4
I think it will be fine. It is not on Remembrance Day itself.
Post # 5
it’s the Marine Corps birthday, so unless you have any Marines attending, you should be ok.
Post # 6
I don’t see a problem with it! Lots of brides have had September 11 or December 7 weddings so I don’t think it’s disrespectful at all.
Post # 7
@DaneLady: We’re in Canada and I can’t think of a single person in my family who is a marine or an ex-marine so I can’t see that being a problem. Thank you for the head’s up. Also, thank you to the other ladies for your advice.
Remembrance Day in Canada actually always seemed to me to not be a happy celebration of the end of the war but a sombre Rememberance of our countrymen and women who have died in combat, which was my hesitation.
I will definitly consider doing something to commemorate Remembrance Day being the next day, if we do choose that date!