Post # 1
Question for the married bees.
We are doing a formal ceremony, it will be small, about 50-75 people w/3 BMs and 3 GM. All are within 2 hours driving distance. We are hoping to not have to do a rehearsal the night before so people don’t have to drive in and drive back or spend the money to stay overnight somewhere. My officiate says it’s not necessary to do the rehearsal as he ends up having to go over everything right before the ceremony again anyways.
Can I hear from any of the bees that opted to not do a rehearsal and how it went for you? Success…fail?
Post # 3
@Sweetnsassy: wow your set up = exactly like mine!
I’m not doing one! My officiant doesnt rehearse the day before usually and the dj doesn’t show up for that either and that’s extra cost for an hour of their time and services.
Post # 4
My numbers are similiar to yours. I’m not married yet, but our officiant told us we certainly didn’t need a rehersal.
Post # 5
@Sweetnsassy: If you are laid back and open to it possibly being NOT 100% absolutely perfect, then no rehearsal should be fine. I assume the FI and GM can stand in place and the BM’s can walk slowly enough without practice.
Post # 6
@Sweetnsassy: I’m no expert in the subject but here are my two cents. I’m not having a formal rehearsal or even a rehearsal dinner, in an attempt to keep the costs of the wedding as low as possible. I will probably try to get everyone at my house a couple of days before the wedding to rehearse the entrance, give everyone tasks for the day of, and such. But most of my party consists of family who either lives by or will be staying at my house. And no one lives more than 20 minutes away. I’m having 4BM,4GM,1 flower maid, and 1 ring princess 🙂
I think it depends on the age of your bridal party and how responsible they are. Are they mature ? Or pllayful and uncontrollable ? Will you have kids ? (flower girl,ring bearer) Are they well-behaved ? Are you a perfectionist ? Or are you the type to just laugh along with minor mistakes ? Also, will the ceremony be formal or more casual ?
Take all of this into account and if you do need a rehearsal maybe having it a a couple of days before the wedding, instead of the night before, might be better. Hope i helped 🙂
Post # 7
I’ve been in a lot of weddings over the past few years and had always wondered if rehearsals were necessary. After having my own, I was SO happy that we did. We had a lot of people in our bridal party (19 including us) and 4 readers. Our priest forgot that we were doing a unity candle and giving flowers to the Blessed Mother. If we didn’t have that rehearsal, all that would have been forgotten and people would have been confused. Honestly, that was the only thing I was nervous for on the wedding day after a disaster of a rehearsal lol
Your case might be different, but I would definitely have one, it can’t hurt!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
As long as he is going to run through it before the ceremony I think you will be ok. In my experience, even with the rehearsals things could go wrong as people are nervous in the moment, or emotional, etc.
Post # 9
If you have groomsmen, bridesmaids, and/or children in your wedding, I think it’s necessary. We had 6 bridesmaids, 5 groomsmen, a ring bearer, and our mothers did readings. I’m so glad we had a rehearsal! It really helped to line up our friends up in pairs in advance, show them where to stand, and tell everyone when to pause for photos.
Post # 10
I did not have a rehearsal and things went perfect! BUT with that being said we didn’t have a bridal party, we did have a unity sand thing and a musician play a song during the ceremony but a quick brief before the wedding handled everything.
Post # 11
@Sweetnsassy: We did a short rehearsal the day before, (we had 2 maids of honor & 2 best men, no other bridal party) & one best man couldn’t make it.It wasn’t formal & there was no dinner after or anything.
The next day before the ceremony we did the run through again & I think that was probably all that was needed, really. The most important thing was getting the music & walking cued correctly so it wasn’t a disaster.
The ceremony was absolutely PERFECT & just how I always imagined 🙂
Post # 12
It really depends on the scale of your wedding. We only want two bridesmaids and two groomsmen when we get engaged so we prolly will skip it and just go over the drill during a dinner without physically doing it. But if you have kids or a large wedding party I would say yes, but three each should be okay