Post # 1
FI and I both eloped for our first marriage. However, I was given a shower and mini reception after my first wedding, which included gifts. Now, we are getting married in my fiancee’s home state. I will likely only have 20-30 people attending on my side, while he’ll likely have close to 100 attending on his. He wanted to create a registry, so we did. I still feel self-conscious about it though because of my previous situation. Is it inappropriate to have a registry for our second wedding?
Post # 3
Our first marriages were 10 years ago btw. We were both married 3 years.
Post # 4
If people don’t feel comfortable giving you a gift that’s perfectly fine, they don’t have to. But many people want the option.
Post # 5
It was not appropriate for us. I’m an encore bride. We’re both in our 40s. We were on our own for years and both had houses full of stuff.
We don’t need anything.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
In my opinion, kindof– the tradition behind the registry is to help a new couple starting out in life… But in this day and age that’s rarely the case; and often times guests just want to give you something to mark the occasion. I think a small registry is fine, and you should share it with the guests that ask, but I wouldn’t “announce” the registry with the invitation or anything the way many people have come to do.
Post # 7
In this situation, I would say no. If one of you had not been married before, I would say yes.
Post # 8
We are both in our mid thirties. We are in the process of moving into our own place. We both have furniture and other items from when we lived alone. How do I make it optional? Do you put it on the wedding invitation that “your presence is your gift to us” but put where we are registered, as well?
Post # 9
You don’t put anything about registry/gifts on your wedding invitation.
If people want to give you a gift from a registry, they will ask or can google to find it. Many times I have just entered the bride’s name into the more common places to register and found the couple.
Post # 10
I was a 2nd time bride when I married last October. Both of us have been living on our own for many years and didn’t think we needed to do a registry until…
I gave a former co-worker an invitation and she asked where we were registered. I told her we didn’t need anything so we didn’t do one. She replied “Who couldn’t use some new towels or a new set of sheets”. I thought about it, talked to my FI and off we went to Bed Bath and Beyond. We recieved about 10 items from our list but mostly got gift cards and cash.
I will say it’s not necessary to register when you’re an encore bride/groom and your guests possibly will give gift cards or cash but it does give them an idea of things you’d like to start your new married life with and after all…. Who doesn’t like new towels!!!
Post # 11
@BrookieCookie9: is correct. You should not make any mention of gifts in your invitation suite.
As for registering, I had never been married before, but my DH had. We were both in our 40s. However, we opted to have traditional registeries that included china, crystal, towels, sheets, some small appliances and kitchen gadgets, and other household items.
Post # 12
If I was invited to someone’s 2nd wedding, I would definitely still want to get them a gift.
Post # 13
Register if you want to. Whether its’ the first, second, or eighth wedding, no one is obligated to give a gift but many will anyway.
Personally, I think prior weddings should hold no relevance to any future ones. Register if you want to. Again, people will do what they want to do with that information.
Post # 14
I think you are fine. In fact, I find it very irritating when people (regardless of previous marriages) don’t register. It’s not like it’s some big surprise that 95% of invitees will want to buy a gift you actually want. If I’m invited to a wedding, chances are I am very fond of the bride and/or groom and want to buy them fancy gifts to show them how much I love and support them. I don’t want to give them cash! I want to give them that ugly casserole dish and those useless champagne flutes they want!
Post # 15
I think it’s inapporpriate.
Post # 16
I hate it when people don’t have a registry so I say do it.