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Why don't you apologize? From what you said it sounds like you were both in the wrong - I know that I can sometimes get stubborn and not want to be the one to apologize first, but I'm sure that if you apologize, he will too.
Sometimes we just have to be the bigger person. Even if that's not any fun. 
I usually apologize- even if it's something like, "Sorry I got so angry." (as opposed to apologizing for whatever started the conflict).
It's usually good practice to deal with the conflicts productively when they are small and stupid so that you can deal productively when the conflicts are major.
I agree with Amanda...sometimes it's best just to suck it up and be the person who says "I'm sorry". Especially when you are tired of not speaking and just want to cuddle =)
Maybe you could be the first one to be like, "Sorry for calling you a jerk" or something like that, and then maybe he'll also apologize.
Oh man I can totally relate. I sometimes FEEL disproportionately angry to how I think I should feel rationally about a situation... and it drives me nuts because I hate being irrational. But sometimes you just DO feel that way and there is nothing you can do about it. Usually the way that I handle it is to be brutally honest. I'd go with something like: Okay so I know that we had a fight yesterday and honestly I'm not even sure how it started or why it escalated and I really want us to be over it. I am really sorry that the fight went down like it did and I wish I could just totally forget about it and be okay but I kind of want an apology from you. I don't know if that is fair or rational, but I feel like that is what I need to be ok.
Generally I-statements (i feel x because of y; i need z because of t) work better than you-statements (you are such a jerk for saying x; you should be doing y) because it makes it all about you and its a lot harder to get/stay mad at someone talking like that. I learned that in law school but I think it applies to relationships too.
Just my 2cents... :)
I think "I'm sorry" is always helpful. Humility and acceptance of responsibility will get you pretty far in a marriage.
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My fiancee and I got into a huge fight last night over something so stupid and silly I can't even remember. We both said mean things to each other and than stopped speaking, we went to bed annoyed and angry and havent spoken to each other all day. About this afternoon I think we both wanted it to be over and each have extended sort of olive brances, i.e. "I am making some pasta do you want some?" "I am going to the store do you need anything?" . We have both been polite to each other today, but I cant help but feel a little angry that he hasnt said i'm sorry, i get the feeling he thinks I should say sorry (even though I cant remember exactly how the argument began I do feel he owes me an apology... I know its childish :(
Am I being a baby? Is sorry always necessary to end an argument?