Post # 1
So I had a friend. She wanted a promise ring, and engagement ring, a wedding band and an eternity ring. She said that is how it is and you need to have all of them. She designed her ring and insisted that her boyfriend spend a few months worth of pay on her ring.
Then there is me. I was shocked when my boyfriend whipped out a ring he got made especially for me – it was absolutely gorgeous – and I cannot believe he spent so much money on it! it makes me feel guilty!
to cut to the chase: I know rings are a symbol of eternity (because they are never-ending) so why do we need all of these other rings? shouldn’t one be enough? is it ok to just have one as I dont want any more money spent on me!
Post # 4
@Cady: I KNOW! I only really need one. I think she was being greedy
Post # 5
Does she drag her hand behind her when she walks?
I don’t think they are really “necessary” if you don’t want to have one. Some engagement rings have wide bands that are awkward for bands. I know that the ring me & SO are ordering wouldn’t look right with a band unless we got it custom made.
Some people can’t afford a band right away, so they want until later (for the bride, anyway).
For the groom, I think the band is an obvious must.
Post # 6
@Torrid: my guy will definately be getting a ring 🙂 not sur if i need any more bling though.
Post # 8
I thought an eternity ring was just the name of an actual band style that women wore as wedding rings. I guess some people see it as something separate to own. I know many women who just wear their eternity bands and do not wear an engagement ring any longer. Truth is, there really is no reason to have so many rings to make basically the same statement. However, since in society there is an engagement ring and wedding band as common practice, I don’t know, tradition? I wanted the wedding band because I like being able to have the symbol on my hand of being married, and in society, that symbol is the wedding band. Like if I walked out of the house with just my wedding band and not engagement ring, that actually makes the same statement to me, that I’m married, not having both on together. However, I know some women who just wear their engagement ring and it looks good to me! I say do whatever makes you happy, even if that means not wearing any rings at all!
Post # 9
None, One… 2, 3 or a half-dozen, it really is a personal decision.
One – E-Ring
Two – E-Ring & W-Band
Three – E-Ring & 2 W-Bands (OR a wrap)
More – Promise Rings are given before an Engagement… but there are also things like School Rings (to show you are going out), Anniversary Rings, Push Rings (given after a Baby is born)…
Honestly, there are as many reasons to give a Ring as there are possible occasions… at my age, I know a lot of married women who have gorgeous diamond rings that their Hubbys have presented them with for various milestones, be they Anniversaries or Birthdays (or Grandbabies being born… usually the latter comes with a gemstone to represent the baby’s birthstone)
Hope this helps,
PS… I had 3 Rings the first time round (Promise – Engagement – Wedding). This time round, Mr TTR has always been one to shower me with jewellery, so I have several rings (gemstones) from when we were dating. I am currently wearing an Engagement Ring, and will wear at least one W-Band (maybe two if one is diamond and one is plain… don’t plan to take the plain one off EVER). Mr TTR on the otherhand, won’t wear a W-Band, he doesn’t like rings. The day we marry, I’ll be presenting him with an expensive watch in the place of the ring (the watch representing the “passage of time ~ forever” and the metal watchband will be a complete unbroken circle as well… much like the symbolism that a ring implies)
Post # 10
Oh and food for thought, in my culture sometimes bracelets are given instead of engagement rings at the time of engagement. Different symbol, same meaning.
Post # 11
Personally I like the idea of a wedding band, if ONLY because then I have the option to wear just my band if I’m nervous about taking my diamond somewhere. Plus my parents always wore their bands… the engagement ring was only brought out for special occasions. I wouldnt want to hide away my diamond just yet, but who knows in the future?
You can get a wedding band thats really simple and not even half the value of the engagement ring, if it’s really just the money that bothers. Or, you could just wear your engagement ring too… whatever youre comfortable with is fine!
And I agree… that is a LOT of rings! 😀
Post # 12
You need exactly 0 rings.
The wedding ring (as least as far as modern Western culture seems to view it) originates from a requirement that the groom present something of value to the bride to legally validate the weddng, that valuable object became the ring because of its symbolism: ancients viewed circles as perfect, unbroken, and therefore a great metaphor for a marriage. Engagement rings are a much, much, much more modern invention. But even in the ollllld days, you were under no obligation to wear the ring used during the ceremony (heck, most people couldn’t afford them, so you had a ring the family or community all used for ceremonies and nobody actually wore day to day).
So yeah, do what works for you.
Post # 13
@star_dust: An Eternity Ring (diamonds all around) was originally marketed by the Jewellery industry an “Anniversary Ring / Band” (show her you love her more today than ever, with a ring that says eternity)…
In recent years they’ve now moved into the Wedding category as an alternative to the traditional wedding band
Hope this helps,
Post # 14
Also (yes I can’t sleep) I know some moms who used to wear their engagement ring and wedding band but then after they had kids decided to put the engagement ring away for special occasions. One family friend I know accientally scratched her little newborn’s head with it and it went off from that moment forward and she wears just a band. This is kind of in relation to what AllShookUp was saying.
Post # 15
@This Time Round: Thanks. My mom actually mentioned something to me when we created my ring. I used some heirloom diamonds so we custom made the setting and the wedding band to match it, a plain band. My mom made mention that since we made up a plain band and didn’t use any of the diamonds we had to make the band that it would give my husband the opportunity to buy an eternity band for me on an anniversary sometime in the future. But I didn’t really engage in that conversation with her LOL
Post # 16
don’t NEED anything and that girl has some probs if she thinks she does. it deosn’t mater if you have a ring or a piece of string it’s the meaning behind it that counts