Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a hard time trimming down the wedding party. We have a lot of close friends and family that we want standing next to us on the big day. So far we have narrowed it down to 11 maids/11grooms. We are planning for 160 guests. Is a 22 person bridal party just too much? Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
I voted “too big” because it seems huge to me. But it is your wedding, so do whatever you want! If you want 22 people, have 22 people!
Post # 4
Honestly? Yes. At least I think so. When I see wedding parties that big I think it’s ridiculous.
Post # 5
I’ve seen/heard of larger bridal parties… My only concern would be coordinating everyone…. ordering attire, fittings, pick up, etc. I know that our 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 4 Groomsmen were hard enough to all get organized.. lol
Post # 6
I think you should do whatever you want, just keep in mind…all of these people have to find and coordinate their attire (dresses seem to be a big issue for BMs). If I were you (not saying you SHOULD, but if I were in that position) I’d probably narrow it down to 8 or so each, so it wasn’t too overwhelming. I do personally get annoyed with bigggg parties as a guest because, honestly, I don’t like having my neck turned that long (stupid, I know).
Keep in mind that not everyone even wants to be in the wedding party, some people prefer being guests and just watching the event. But, like I said, do whatever feels right.
Post # 7
@MissHoneyBun: Completely agree. To me, it comes across like you’re trying to prove something. JMO.
Post # 8
I think it’s too many. But like PP’s say it’s your wedding so ultimately you can do whatever you want. I think that you as the bride and groom will just get lost in the sea that is your wedding party.
Post # 9
I think that is way too many people. Personally I find, the more people, the more drama, the more stress. Just be ready for that.
Post # 10
@MissHoneyBun: I agree completely! I think it starts to look like a circus with that big of a bridal party, and I would be afraid that people would wind up staring at the large bridal party during the ceremony instead of Fiance and me!
Post # 11
Maybe you could have “honorary” bridesmaids and groomsmen who wear a certain color outfit, but sit in designated seats. One of my friends was an honorary bridesmaid with some other girls – the bride told them to wear whatever black dress they like, and they sat together near close family in the front.
But ultimately, it’s your choice and if you want it, go for it!
Post # 12
I thought 5 was already too many for me!
Just my opinion but…
The more people…the more headache.
You have to consider their time (trying to organize a bachelorette/bachelor party or bridal shower where all 11 people can come! If there’s going to be that many people there’s always going to be one or a few people that can’t make it), the look of the dress, BUDGET (not every girl can afford or want to fork out $100+ for a bridesmaid dress), and the more people means the more gifts you have to give out! So the bigger bridal party, the more money you have to fork out too.
Post # 13
totally your choice. I voted too big just because the last wedding I went to there were 10 on each side, I honestly thought the bridal party was never going to end at the ceremony, announcing etc etc. It really threw everything off everytime they had to do something together.
Post # 14
I think that’s a lot of personalities to deal with during a stressful time, but if that’s what you want, go for it.
It wouldn’t have worked for us, because we would have had more people up front than watching 🙂
Post # 15
whatever makes YOU happy! I’m trying to decide if twelve (6 girls, 6 guys) is too many!
Post # 16
For me, it would be too huge. But…it’s your wedding! So really, do whatever you want! : ) The only thing I would be nervous about would be the budget…gifts for all of them, plus more people at the rehearsal dinner, etc. etc. etc.