Is a year too early to send Save the Dates?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m betting you get a lot of mixed responses… this is a hot topic of debate!  🙂

We got engaged 11 months before our date.  I wanted to send a STD as soon as possible but need a venue booked and a date set, plus engagement photos done first.  By the time all that was said and done, 2 months had gone by.  It ended up being around Christmas, so I waited until after the New Year when people were back into the normal groove of life to send my STDs.  It ended up being 9 months out.  I personally think that 12 months is just fine to send them – I wouldn’t do it sooner though.  Most people will put them on the fridge or on a corkboard, so it won’t be forgotten.

Post # 4
3112 posts
Sugar bee

@MrsP0801:  I say send it!  What’s the point of a save the date if not to get your wedding on people’s calendars asap?

Post # 6
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsP0801:  I think it’s fine, and people will appreciate the advanced notice. We’re going to be sending them out even a little more than a year in advance, since we have a good number of people coming in from out of town, and it’s a Friday wedding. Plus, we got STD magnets, and I know that seeing other peoples’ STDs on my fridge was the only way I’d remember their dates!

Post # 7
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BotticelliLove:  Half of our guest list is from out of town so I’m sending mine after the new year or approximately 9 months ahead. I have to make sure people have some time to plan for it after all!

Post # 8
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

as soon as we had locked down the date with the venue, we sent ours out. That was last September – and we’re getting married at the end of this August 🙂


That being said, our family took them to heart – we have only a <5% decline rate.


So be prepared that might happen.

Post # 9
2276 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsP0801:  go ahead, as long as you have a venue booked. You can never start too early.

Post # 10
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think if you’re having a Friday wedding, extra notice is nice. I wouldn’t do much earlier than a year in advance though.

We received a STD last month for a wedding next August, and I thought that was a little weird. It was doubling as an engagement announcement, so I get why they did it, but it was sent 15 months early. So now I feel obligated to keep this STD on my fridge for over a year lol

Post # 12
16 posts
  • Wedding: July 2008

@MrsP0801:  I don’t think its too early. I would.   People plan so many summer vacations, that if there are people you don’t want to miss it, make sure they know in advance. I stupidly did not do Save the Dates and I had so many people that couldn’t come. (Mine was a Fourth of July Weekend Summer Wedding.) But still, summer is such a busy time for people, even in August.  Kids are going to college.   Vacations.  Etc. .  It can’t hurt.    Maybe make it something fun like a magnet so it sits on their fridge so they can’t forget and toss it out.  

Post # 13
2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Id personally forget about it if I got a STD that early on.  I sent mine out 4 months before the wedding date.   Most of our guests are from out of town but we waited to get our engagement photos taken which is why we waited to send out the STDs.  My sister sent hers our 6 months before. 

Post # 14
2694 posts
Sugar bee

The only thing I would worry about is possible falling out or break ups between the save the date and the wedding.  Also, you’ll probably get guest issues earlier on too. I think sending them to OOT guests and holding off a few months for in town guests might be a good idea.

Post # 15
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would wait until at least August. If not you’ll get a lot of people being confused about if it’s this year or next year. If you’re worried about people making plans, give them a call and unofficially announce your date. 

Post # 16
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MRSsrm85:  +1

I think it’s too early. Can you even book a hotel or a flight 1 year out?
We’re sending ours around the 9 month mark and yes, the vast majority of our guests will be from out of town

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