Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
[Obviously on the TTC boards, of course, charting and OPKs and fertility awareness-method-based understandings are the norm.] However when I talk to ladies I know IRL, NO ONE knows what I’m talking about – no one has read TCOYF, no one checks their BBT, mucus is akin to discharge and considered gross, and only one of my friends tried OPKs after 12 months of undiagnosed fertility (she would’t chart because “F*ck that, it was too much of a commitment”).
When I talk to friends and family about all the TTC prep I’m doin, they pretty much all say; “It’s not rocket science, for god’s sake. Have sex a bunch of times in between your periods or use an app.” All except for one got pregnant within 3 months All of them! It sounds so easy when they put it like that.
Do you ever feel like you’re wasting your time monitoring/ agonizing over your fertility signals? Is it worth it?!
Post # 2
Yeah I’d never heard of that before WB. I don’t know anyone who does and all got pregnant on their first or second cycle. I also know sooooo many people who had accidents, it’s like a daily thing anymore lol But I also have a family member who can’t have kids but the doctors don’t think charting etc would make any difference for her.
Post # 3
lealorali: If you want to have a baby, and you’re not yet successful, of course it’s worth it.
I don’t know anyone who had or is having difficulty with fertility so they aren’t following those protocols, but I am sure they would if needed.
I was one of those women who got pregnant easily both times I went off the pill, so I have no personal experience. If I had experienced problems getting pregnant, you bet your boots I would have become more knowledgeable in this area.
Post # 4
lealorali: I was actually just telling my mom I started charting and taking my temp. She told me she charted (on paper) and temped way back when. Other than that, I know some girls who ‘check their oil’ if ya know what I mean, but I don’t know anyone else who uses OPKs. Especially not months before TTC like me, haha. Eye yi yi.
Post # 5
I know two women who charted/etc…. one had done it for awhile while TTA, and one who started doing it when she couldn’t get pregnant. The rest of my friends seem to think it’s kind of weird, but also kind of intriguing. At least one is now going to read TCOYF because I’ve been talking about how cool it is.
I am not TTC yet but charting to avoid, and have been SO amazed at how much you can tell by temps/CM/etc… sometimes I feel like I’m a walking advertisement.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
SaltedCaramel: me too! I’m like OMG OUR BODIES ARE SO AMAZING, THEY TALK TO US!
Ice_cream: I totally am using OPK’s months beofre we TTC too lol! I want to get pregnant on a very small timeframe so it would be awesome if we could time it!
MrsN14: I’m getting the impression a lot of MDs think it’s bunk and that makes me sad.
Post # 7
lealorali: I don’t know the specifics but I think she’s just not ovulating at all so that’s why it wouldn’t be beneficial. I actually plan to give it a shot when we try next year if it doesn’t happen in the first month or two, I’m going to ask my obgyn about it and she what her opinion is.
Post # 8
MrsN14: It’s too bad her doc isn’t more supportive. Last summer at my annual I mentioned to my gyno that I was considering going off the pill and charting, and she got excited and printed out a bunch of info for me. She’s an NP, not an MD, but I was glad to know that she seemed to be on board!
lealorali: LOL, that is exactly how I feel!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I know one friend who charted and one who used OPKs. That’s it. It’s not something I would call “common” at all.
Post # 10
When I tried to talk to BFF (who got pregnant by accident using pull out method) about charting and CM, she lectured me that I’m over analyzing everything and stressing to much and bullshit like that.
Post # 11
Once I started paying attention I realized my sister did it (although we don’t talk about it), 2 of my friends actively do it, and one plans to start after her wedding. I doubt it’s as uncommon as we think. How many people sit around talking about cervical mucous? It doesn’t exactly come up in conversation haha
Post # 12
I am currently pregnant and 2 girls that I work with told me they are going to start trying. I asked both of them if they were going to chart and they looked at me like I had 2 heads. I was actually suprised becuase I know the one girl had been actively TTC with her ex-husband for a few months and never got pregnant
Post # 13
I’d never heard of it before WB. My husband thinks it is way too much craziness. My cycles were wack after going off the pill, so that is what prompted it. My docs have been “underwhelmed” by my charting data as well. Whatever. I find it extremely informative and helpful.
Post # 14
I only know of 2 friends who chart, use OPKs, etc. One friend started using OPKs after a miscarriage, and the other had fertility problems for years before her doctor mentioned/recommended charting (along with acupuncture, holistic treatments, etc.). There could be more people in my circle who chart, but if they do, they keep it on the DL. I’ve been tracking my cycles for years, and have used OPKs for a month before (pregnancy resulted in a MC), but have decided to start again this cycle.
Post # 15
I vaguely knew this existed prior to WB from a super Catholic friend who used it to avoid. But I still don’t actually know anyone who I know in real life that charts to try to get pregnant. But it’s not like I ask in regular conversation.
When we got married and I started looking at the other boards on WB I started to get nervous, like I needed to be charting even though we don’t even know when we’re going to be TTC. On the one hand I think people like it because they feel like t gives them control (and actually gives some control) in something that is very emotional and hard ot control. I also think people are trying to get pregnant faster than in the past. For me, I have decided that I don’t think it necessary for us unless we are taking longer than I we want to get pregnant. But we’ll see once we start TCC. But for now, I’m still on BC.