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ELOPE! I only say that because sometimes I'm your boat too. Like today.
If that's what you really feel in your heart then elope! Just think deeply about which decision you would regret more - going through with the wedding/reception or eloping? You know the answer. :)
I sometimes think about it (because we also are dealing with a fair bit of drama). But when I think about it, I realize I would be disappointed if I didn't have all my family and friends there with me. Just think about it, and somewhere deep down, you will find your answer =)
my FI and I are going to sit down right now and do an Osho tarot reading and figure out what's best and what we really want. will report tomorrow! haha..
For me the money was totally worth it to celebrate with family friends, but the biggest drama I had was trying to find my grandmother a dress... she is so stubborn! That being said if things were super drama filled I would probably elope and go on a sweet vacation!
we are going ahead!!! haha...
the tarot reading helped us realize that it's unnecessary to try to control, and judge things as 'good', 'bad' or give too much energy to our 'wants'.. when the journey is the most important, the only thing. and accepting the love and support of our family and friends will mean so much.
ok, deep breath, stop stressing, just pay the damn deposit and don't look back, right? wedding: full steam ahead!
@mtnhoney: Congrats!! It's great that you both thought about it and ultimately made the right choice for yourselves.
good, you've decided. There will be struggles, you will get frustrated along the way but in the end, it will be worth it!!! I'm ready to pull my hairs going nuts planning and spending but at the same time, can't wait for that special day 
Honestly, a BIG part of me wishes we would take the $$$ and run. A little part of me is thrilled we are going to have a special celebration with friends and family.
And the biggest tie breaker - the fiance really wants the wedding. It is important to him and though I have pointed out the stress and work involved, he is adamant.
So, in the end - yes, it will be worth it. We will have our day, his family and mine will be able to share in our union. Note: We are keeping costs relatively low at <12K (numbers are still flying as not everything is finalized) and we will be splurging later on an epic asian honeymoon adventure (albeit much delayed) :D So everyone is happy!
And congratulations on your decision! Keep us posted these coming months! ;)
We would like to take the money and run but it's a bit too late now as everyone has bought their air tickets.
The whole thing feels like we're paying a lot of money to entertain our guests. It's like we owe them, especially because some are coming from faraway. Most are nice about it but I think some also feel as they are doing us a favour (we only invited, never once said you HAVE to come!). My parents are holding a large reception (250 people) in my hometown later so actually, our wedding+reception (which is in the region of USD$26000 for 45 people) is really... A WASTE OF MONEY.Definitely regretting. We could've gone on an amazing amazing holiday. Part of a downpayment for a house. Furniture. Pretty things. etc.
Oh well...
I've had friends that had a 3K budget up to a 45K budget and all of them said if they could do it over again they would elope. They all had fantastic wedding days and they really loved it but all said it simply was not worth the time and money.
I'm eloping because though I might somewhat regret not having a big deal made out of it...I know for a fact it would be a far bigger regret to lose a ton of money on just one day and know it wasn't worth it.
Elope! Opt for an awesome vacation to celebrate your new commitment to eachother. That is what we are doing. After seeing one of my besties blow 75k + plus on her wedding, and it didn't even show for it plus with all the family drama, I decided I wasn't going to waste my time worrying about a day that should be about him and I turn into a money pit I would soon come to regret later.
We are having a nice family and close friend party and planning a much needed 2 week tropical or european vacation.
If I could elope I would. I tried to talk FI into it when his parents made us cancel our destination wedding. I was like lets do our thing and have a party when we get back. He didn't want to upset his parents or have them mad at me. Guess what? They are still not happy with us even though we're having the wedding locally. So at the end of the day we're jumping through all of these unnecessary hoops and spending all this money to make his family happy for nothing. After another incident with his parents yesterday he said "we should have just gone to the courthouse" DUH!!!! I told you that before we put deposits down!!!!
To answer your question, yes, it was definitely worth it to us. We could have taken the almost $20k that we spent on our wedding and HM and had a nice down payment for a house but we wanted the whole experience. It's a lot of money and it's crazy to think that it was all over in just a few short hours but I wouldn't trade the memories of my wedding day for the world.
With that said, different people want different things. If having a traditional wedding isn't what you genuinely want then don't have one. Do whats right for you and your FI.
I love that you consulted the tarot cards! :) Given the chance, I would go back in time and elope and just have it be about us without all of the DRAMA. But, DH is an only child and I don't think we ever would have been forgiven. So the wedding wasn't at all what we wanted, but our marriage certainly has exceeded our expectations :)
@ColeandAmyT: I love how you said, "So the wedding wasn't at all what we wanted, but our marriage certainly has exceeded our expectations."
beautiful, and poetic!!
well, as I mentioned earlier, we are going ahead with the wedding and not looking back. I will keep reminding myself that comparitively, our budget is kinda small, we are getting financial help from my parents, and we have money coming our way too so we shouldn't be in that much debt after it's all said and done.
We too want the memories, and even more importantly- we want our families to meet! Her family is east in Ontario, and all mine are here on the West Coast in BC. So this will be the one opportunity for them to spend some time together, and that's worth bringing everyone together.
No more stress, or drama. It's all in how your react to it! :)
thanks bees!!!
We're getting closer and closer to the decision to elope daily! We would love to get into a house a few years earlier than we had planned! We are paying for the wedding entirely ourselves and the thought of spending that much on one day gets heavy every day! I guess we'll see!
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we will soon be paying the remainder of our venue rental, which will 'lock us in' so to speak. If we changed our minds now, all we'd lose is the $200 deposit.
I can't help but keep thinking I'd rather be spending 4K on traveling and paying down some of our debt, instead of towards the venue and catering.
this wedding thing comes along with a fair bit of drama and family bs, stuff I never anticipated. My Mom told us to elope from the beginning- why does Mom always know best, I should have listened!
i feel like it's almost not too late... gah- what should I do?!