Post # 1
Although my father is paying for the wedding, I have tried to include my FMIL as much as possible since she has no daughters. She has now requested that she get an equal amount of tables by the dance floor for her guests (52), and that she determines with whom they sit. Help! Am I reading too much into this???
Post # 3
Requesting where exactly their table is in the layout is a bit much. But my MIL did make up her own tables, and it made my life a hell of a lot easier!!
Post # 4
That seems awfully pushy. Wonder if your FI could run interference for you on this one?
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
She knows her guests better than you, I’d let her take care of the arrangements, as far as where in the room they land though, that’s a bit much in my opinion– I would give her a non-commital response on that one and come back to it as your date nears.
Post # 7
She might be trying to help…but sucks at it
Post # 8
I assigned all my guests to certain tables myself and went over it with my husband, his parents and my parents. I did not have a lot of guests whom I did not personally know.
I assigned tables to certain areas of the venue (by the DJ, by the dance floor etc) without input from others.
Post # 9
It was HIGHLY recommended to me, by my previous bride friends, that you do NOT do that. They told me to trust them on this one, so I am. I am having MIL form her tables (i.e group her fam/friends into 10’s) but FI and I will do the arrangement. Yes, we will spread it out as fairly as possible, but sorry, if he doesn’t know who the people are, they will most likely be more toward the back. The day is about you two and people YOU are close with personally. 🙂
Post # 10
I agree that she should be able to arrange which people sit together at a table, etc, but you and your FI should decide where those tables go. If you are close to those members, have them closer, if they are your MILs friends/people you don’t really know, they go farther back.
The two of you should get to decide who is closest to you 🙂 your MIL should understand that
Post # 11
why shouldn’t the grooms side get equal amount of “good” tables? I see nothing wrong with her doing her seating since she knows her guests best.
Post # 12
Yes, like PP said, I would only let her decide the people at each table (since you may not know them) but do not let her pick where the tables are. Obviously, some things you should consider would be not putting 80 year old Aunt Gladys near the very loud speakers but I think I would rather people who danced be near the dance floor rather than just people whom MIL deemed are important.