Is an hour and a half cocktail hour too long?

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Is an hour and a half too long for cocktail hour?
    Yes, it is too long- period : (9 votes)
    26 %
    Yes, it is too long but it would be okay if you had more activities : (3 votes)
    9 %
    No, an hour and a half is always fine : (13 votes)
    38 %
    No, an hour and a half should be okay based on the activities that will be there : (9 votes)
    26 %
    Obligatory Other (please explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    Member
    73 posts
    Worker bee

    HeartsandSparkles:  I personally think that is fine and as a guest I wouldn’t complain. It looks like you will have food, drink and entertainment so 1.5 hours won’t seem that long.

    Post # 3
    coyoteBee
    2051 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    Hahaha, I asked this SAME EXACT QUESTION a few years ago when I was planning my wedding. We ended up having an hour and a half cocktail hour and our guests LOVED it. As long as you have enough food & drinks and places for people to sit I don’t see why they would complain!

    And yes, we also attended the last half hour. It helped free up time during the reception that would have been spent greeting guests. We were able to talk to a lot of our guests during the cocktail hour and it didnt take away from the entrance at all! 

    Post # 4
    Member
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

    HeartsandSparkles:  It’s called a cocktail HOUR for a reason…because anything longer than that is going to make people bored.

    An hour and a half isn’t the worst, but it is the very upper end of what most people will be able to tolerate.

    Question, why do you need it to be an hour and a half?

    Post # 5
    Member
    687 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t necessarily need activities to keep me entertained for a long cocktail hour… there just better be a steady stream of food to keep guests from getting hangry! 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1499 posts
    Bumble bee

    eh, it won’t be that bad. I’ve been at weddings with a 4 hour gap with nothing for the guests to do…that was brutal!

    Post # 7
    Member
    88 posts
    Worker bee

    I went to a wedding where the cocktail hour was 1.5 hrs.  They had an insane amount of food but I still thought it was way too long.  I wasn’t the only one who was bored.. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    A friend of mine had a cocktail hour and a half and we loved it so much we’re doing it at our own wedding.

    Generally, when the cocktail “hour” has felt too long, I’ve been at a wedding where I didn’t t know anyone aside from the bride/groom and/or there was no where for anyone to sit and the space was too small to accommodate all of the guests. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

    HeartsandSparkles: okay, then push back your ceremony start time.

    Yes, the idea of games sounds fun but in practicality most of the people will be dressed likely in suits and dresses/heels which makes games difficult.

    The cocktail hour is to give your guests something to do while you’re getting pictures done.  You’re not meant to attend it and prolonging it so that you can is making your guests wait even longer.

    I had the idea to do an hour and half cocktail hour and got raked over the coals for it.  I revamped the entire day to make sure that guests weren’t waiting around for us instead.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  LDay1983.
    Post # 11
    Member
    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    HeartsandSparkles:  I think what you have planned is perfect.  There will be food, drinks, and entertainment so the guests will have plenty to keep them from getting bored.  My husband and I planned ours this way because we wanted to enjoy cocktail hour with our guests and we are so thrilled we were able to do this.  I think it will work out wonderfully!  

    Post # 12
    Member
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    LDay1983:  #1, she clearly explained in her original post why she wanted it to be an hour and a half. #2 Yes, the tradition of the cocktail hour comes from people taking pictures, but nowhere is it written that you may not attend your own cocktail hour.  I’m sorry people gave you a hard time for wanting a longer one but it’s really not some huge faux pas.

    HeartsandSparkles:  <br />We attended our cocktail hour (took pics beforehand) and it was an hour and a half. We had lawn games (cornhole and my little cousins played soccer, there was a big field!) and people definitely played those regardless of shoes.  Our caterer actually recommended that we have it be that long, in their experience the hour goes by too quickly.  The dinner tables were all available whenever anyone wanted to sit down, plus we had additional tables and chairs outside.  It worked out great.  Even if I did not do this personally, I would not be bothered by a longer cocktail hour whatsoever, unless there was literally nowhere to sit. 

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Our cocktail hour was about that long. And pictures didn’t take as long as we thought, so we ended up attending some of it.

    The weather was amazing, there was food and drinks and chairs outside. Our guests were mostly family with a few close friends. Everyone sat around chatting. No one seemed bored.

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