Post # 1
Shoes, jewelry, etc. Every bride I have talked to said that they have done this. However, online, it seems that is completely unheard of and that jewelry is supposed to *the* bridesmaid gift, even though it isn’t a gift for them at all. And many who have been bridesmaids in the past have stated (also online) that the jewelry they do receive collects dust and is never worn again for any occasion.
Also, since everyone has their own personality and styles, having the same accessories for everyone is not flattering to what looks good on them and it doesn’t fit them.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown
I’m not choosing their accessories. I gave them a color for their dresses and asked that they get black shoes but that’s it. They all have such different styles that I thought it’d be nice for them to accessorize their dresses however they want to!
Post # 4
I bought my BMs their jewelery, but they’re buying their shoes.
Post # 5
I let them buy their own accessories and got them something else (that they ended up wearing- red pashminas) but then again I was pretty chill about it (in my opinion)- I let them pick their own dresses, and they didn’t have to match.
Post # 6
Part of my bridesmaids gifts is their necklaces. It isn’t “bridesmaid-y”, It’s a swarovski shell necklace, they can wear it with anything, it only looks like a shell up-close, from a distance it just looks like a sparkly pendent.
I don’t care what shoes or earrings they wear. (My sister already told me she’s wearing pink earrings, not my colors, but I’m fine with that.)
Post # 7
Of the 4 weddings I have been in, I have been gifted jewelry for 3 of them. Necklaces & earrings for 2 of those & a necklace for one of them. The jewelry was nice and I have worn all of it multiple times. One of the pieces is a very simple silver & cz necklace that’s great whenever I have to dress up.
However, I am not giving jewelry as a BM gift. I want all my girls to be comfortable and be themselves for the wedding, so I am having them wear whatever accessories they want.
Post # 8
I let my girls pick their own everything – dress, shoes, jewelry – and they looked great. For their gift I bought them jewelry, but it was non-matching, not for the wedding and something I thought they each would wear after the wedding in their day to day lives. And they do.
You know your girls best, so do what works for all of you!
Post # 8
I got them all matching fleur de lis necklaces and clutch bags to match their dresses as their bridesmaid’s gift, but while I’d like them to wear/use them at the wedding, they don’t have to.
Post # 9
same here. they can wear whatever they want, as long as they come in a costume. (think halloween in april, lol).
as long as they’re happy, that’s all that matters to me.
i tend to think of jewelry as a very personal thing and don’t buy for anyone other than my mother (and even then, when I knew it was something she wanted but wouldn’t buy for herself) and my fiance. even then, it’s been two rings (his sterling silver was kind bent out of shape from a job he hand, so I got him a tungsten carbide one to replace it, lol).
to each their own, however. do what you feel is best.
Post # 10
I bought them earrings, but more because I thought they were nice than because I thought it was important that they match on the day of. I think people just sometimes think jewelry is an easy option.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Yeah, they can wear whatever they want. I may buy them clutches as gifts, but they don’t have to carry them for the wedding if they don’t want to.
Post # 12
I let my BMs choose everything but the color of their dresses. They chose style, accessories, shoes, hair, etc. As a gift to them, I offered them a “pampering service” of their choice at the salon on the morning of the wedding: hair, make-up, pedicure, massage, etc. And if they opted to do several things (none of which I required), I siomply paid for the highest ticket item.
Post # 13
I was a bridesmaid and we got our bridesmaid gift (a bracelet) after the wedding. I remember asking the bride if she wanted something specific cuz she hadn’t mentioned it and she totally didn’t care. None of the girls went crazy though, we all wore pendants with simple earings and rings that we’d normally wear.
Post # 14
Mine are choosing their own. They all have different tastes, and I wanted them to be comfortable.
Post # 15
Mine are choosing their own accessories. They were just told to try to wear gold shoes and jewelry but other than that it is up to them. I’m excited to see what they are wearing because it will make each one of them unique!