Post # 1
At the risk of making me sound petty and horrible (Im not, I swear!)…Obviously, I put alot of work into my wedding to make sure it was wonderful just as every bride does. I had upgraded linens, chiavari chairs, little details that I hope didnt go unnoticed like the placecards, menu cards and table numbers I made. These things were important to me and having everything flow and match and go together was a big deal for me.
My sister-in-law is getting married in October and half of the wedding guests will have been to our wedding just a few months prior. I feel her wedding is opposite of mine in that she isnt upgrading stuff, no fancy decor or paper elements (which is her style and I dont think badly upon it) I in no way, shape or form want her wedding NOT to be beautiful and perfect. But part of me hopes my wedding will be hard to live up to. Is this horrible? Does anyone else feel the same way with their wedding and a family member or friends wedding?
Post # 3
I feel the same way about our wedding so I don’t think it’s horrible. Or it could be that you and I are both horrible 😉
I think it’s perfectly normal, especially the first few weddings after your own.
Post # 4
My husband and I joked about competing wedding-wise with our friends who got married the weekend after us and his cousin who is getting married in Oct…and of course, we think we beat them. Still, I think if either couple had the wedding we had, it wouldn’t be them. And if we did what we thought was amazing about their weddings, it just wouldn’t be us. What’s interesting is hearing what stands out at weddings from friends who have already been to 7 or so this season. They say it all blends together–though if you press them, they have at least one stand out memory that set them apart.
Post # 5
I don’t feel that way. It’s hard to be competitive when there is NOBODY getting married that’s my closest friends..ha ha we’re older and they’re all married!!!
Post # 6
We are following the heels of a couple weddings, and I hate to admit it, but I want ours to stand out above the others too.
Post # 7
Of course, of course! Within 6 months before and after our wedding we will attend 12 other weddings!! Including two that I was/will be a bridesmaid in. It doesn’t mean I love them any less or I wish bad things upon their wedding — I just want ours to be better then the rest!!
Post # 8
Well I’m not so much competitive about my other weddings I’m in or will be a guest at because most of the brides have asked me to help with their designs. So most of their elements were or are my ideas. I will say though that I’m taking pride in the fact that my wedding planning thus far has not been drama. That’s the thing I’m being competitive about. I want to make sure I don’t have drama at the center of my wedding like I’ve been witness to recently at other weddings.
Post # 9
There aren’t any weddings coming up in our family and friends, so I’m not worried about it. One of FI’s cousin’s got married recently but I’m not worried about people comparing their wedding to ours. They had their reception at a minor league baseball stadium and it was verrrrrrrry laid back, we’re getting married at a mansion, so there really isn’t any comparison.
Post # 10
I tend to notice things about other peoples weddings that i would "never do" which I think is horrible enough, but I guess I dont’ really care if someone’s platinum wedding shows mine up because I’m just excited to marry such a wonderful guy! I know that’s a super cheesy answer, but it’s true!
Post # 11
Maybe it’s a little bitchy, but I def. felt that way about my ex’s wedding. He got engaged after me, but his wedding was the week before mine. It cheered me up to think about how my wedding was going to kick his wedding’s ass!
</bitchyness> Sorry all!
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Hmmmm, this post kind of disturbs me since I think it gives brides a bad rap…I definitely DON’T care if my wedding is "better" than my friends or if we "beat" another couple’s wedding…What I DO care about is that I get to throw a wonderful party where FH and I can commit to eachother and then celebrate afterwards! Personally (and I’m really sorry if this sounds harsh) but I think that mindset reflects insecurity and pettiness….
Post # 13
I am totally competing and wanting my decor to just stand out from everyone else’s wedding. I think it’s natural especially if you are type A and highly competitive like me!!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2009 - Red Fish Grill
I’m like bellenga, lol! Not too many other weddings in our circle these days. One thing that I’ve learned to appreciate through the whole planning process, especially from reading others’ blogs and hanging out on WB, is that we each have different ideas/expectations of what is beautiful and perfect. For us, it was to create a really personal experience that reflected us as a couple and the things that matter most to us. :o)
Post # 15
I second the competeing for the least drama, lol! Its not so much a competition but it is a comparison I was our wedding to be laid back, comfortable, and fun for all involved–especially the wedding party since the other weddings I have been in recently were a bit chaotic particulairly for wedding party members.
I think everyone’s wedding outdoes the ones the attend because a wedding is such a personal thing but I do understand the cometative feeling. Sometimes I think its not so much I want to ‘beat’ or whatever someone else’s wedding but I dont want them looking down on ours because inevitably they make comments of that nature and they get back around. I dont want anyone feeling they can’t measure up or that they totally outdid us–I want them to have fun! Thats why we invited them afterall.
Post # 16
@galandrien — re: "I think everyone’s wedding outdoes the ones the attend because a wedding is such a personal thing" –That is so true, and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Our wedding was so perfect for US, and that was all that really mattered. Really, seeing my ex’s wedding preparations made me realize all the more how wrong we were together and how glad I was to be marrying Mr. Bunny. I hope that my ex’s wedding was everything he wanted it to be (and everything his bride wanted)! It just made me realize that he and I truly weren’t right together.