Is Anyone Else a Mess?

posted 2 years ago in October 2014
Post # 2
Member
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Although, I’m not crying at the drop of a hat, I am always on the verge of a panic attack! So much to do, and so little time now. My FMIL doesn’t even have a dress yet!

Post # 3
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

maniccupcake:  

 

We must have the same date – Oct 4? I’m not a procrastinator, but I am in the same boat for sure.  I realized today that my anxiety is so bad my hair is starting to fall out.  D:   (I had been blaming it on ‘summer shedding’… can’t use that excuse anymore.)

Realistically, I have things under control, but as soon as I finish one task another one pops up to take its place.  I end up wasting time on silly wedding things (on the Bee) because I am not budgeting my time the way I would for work.  Crying everyday?  Yep!  I’m beyond frustrated and feeling helpless.  I need to channel a decisive, calm attitude and not be in this mess of a state.  One step at a time!

Post # 4
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

alysee:  

Don’t worry about your FMIL – I’m sure she’ll find something soon!  It’s not your issue to solve, so wory about what you can do instead.  (Easier said than done, I know!)

Post # 6
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m a November bride and I feel like I’m going to lose it.  I just met with our caterer and rental company for the first time this past weekend.

Post # 7
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m mainly ok… except for FMIL keeping making her ‘preference suggestions’ as she calls them! E.g. who she wants to sign the register, who she wants to do a reading in church (her – we’ve given her this one to keep her quiet!) etc. etc….. I wish she would just realise how much we’re putting in to this, and that her added pressure isn’t welcome! It’s 100% our decision who will be signing the register, and I wish she would let it go! Oh, and (despite thinking we had cleared it up ages ago) she’s still sneakily trying to get FI’s niece to be a bridesmaid – I SAID NO!!!! grrr why is it all about her?!

Excuse the rant… just so many other bits I need to be focusing on/sorting out payment for, and she’s not helping.

She’s not all bad though in fairness, she is helping with table decorations. But we asked her to do that to keep her occupied, and she seems to have gotten bored with it! lol. Perhaps tying the string around cutlery….. 😉

Post # 8
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4596 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m at the 45 day count, and freaked out on FI Friday night when he got home from being out (helped an uncle move) that it was the end of August, and there was still a lot of stuff on the “August To Do” list that hadn’t gotten done.

And in all honesty, some of the stuff is due to him dragging his feet in what I’ve advised he needs to work on – so that added to my fire. Example – He JUST called the place that we’re having the groom’s dinner at, and the area of that place that we wanted had just gotten booked earlier that day. So now, although we’re in the same place, just not in the area that we wanted. Yup, if he would have called on maybe the 10th time I told him too… that wouldn’t have been a problem. Even our back-up place was already booked… on a Thursday!

I’m down to where we need to start meeting with the vendors again to discuss plans, but still needing to find time to do my normal weekly stuff. I am a workout regular, but now need to focus on that more than ever so I don’t gain any weight, and losing 5lbs. would be ideal. The scale has been creeping up lately, so that is not good!

I put off meeting with our catering manager this week so we can meet with the gal that’s doing our photobooth so we can save 10% ($50) on the rental. That $50 is a lot! But then again, it took the catering manager 4 days to get back to me via email, so hopefully by the time she gets back to me – next week will work better.

Time to time manage. Big time.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  Kacie209.
Post # 9
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1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I thought I was losing my mind because i keep fricken crying! Not even from sadness, I’m just so overly emotional right now. I can’t even think about the wedding without tearing up and if I read or watch anything even a bit emotional I cry like a baby. It’s getting exhausting! 

Post # 10
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2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I know how you feel. Luckily (ha), we also closed on our house today, so I’ve been a bit preoccupied. Now we have 2 weeks to pack up and get out of our townhouse, on top of all the wedding stuff. I don’t know what the hell I was thinking.

Post # 11
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4596 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have been really grumpy lately, even this weekend when I had my shower/bachelorette party – and I should have been super excited! I mean, I was… and was probably just grumpy around the FI.

No tears yet, but I still have time for that

Post # 12
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2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Kacie209:  I’m the same exact way. I had my Bridal Shower 2 days ago and I was more annoyed at the separation between the 2 families than enjoying myself. It made me really sad to see my mom and grandma sitting alone when the rest of the other side where pulling chairs to all sit at the furthest away table. Same with my girlfriends. They felt very left out. I hated my shower.

today we are taking pre wedding photos, tomorrow meeting with the hall and renting the tuxes, Friday I have a fitting for a dress that probably won’t fit because I gained weight…… And I haven’t even started with the favors. 

And I am so emotional……….. And very insecure for some reason. 

This is making me sound like I’m nuts!!!!!!! 

Post # 13
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4596 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MrsPiggles:  Yes, I can so relate to your shower! I did think it went OK… but the way we were seated made everyone, to me, uncomfortable because you would really only talk to the people around you and not everyone else. We were at a park shelter, and they had the tables all in a row – so that is how we sat. It was like elementary school lunch, ha.

I did tell one of my friends who didn’t really know anyone else to come sit by me, so she had someone. And then another friend, who only knew a couple people somewhat, at least sat down by my mom so they were together. I should have had her move by me too. I did make sure I sat next her at my bachelorette party during our main thing (we had a painting party), so she didn’t feel left out. Everyone else was good with who they were around – so it worked.

My sister did a decent job of facilitating it all, so things flowed – just awkward at first people started showing up as no one knew what to do. The only family I had come (it was for my side and friends) was my mom and sister (she hosted). And then his mom and sister (a BM). So, it really was friends mainly – and most friends had met FI’s mom from other events, and had met my mom at some point too.

But, I’m always concerned with pleasing everyone when getting different groups of friends together. By the end of the night (bach. party)… everyone was good! *lol*

Post # 14
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m okay for now, but I do have alot to do.. and alot of it needs to be done after I get all of the RSVP’s in, we still haven’t received many, but they are due at the end of the month.

Ive also caught the cold thats going around here, so I’ve been down for about a week.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  jenilynevette.
Post # 15
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Sending you all love and hugs! 

I felt a lot better on Tuesday night after having a mental ‘pep talk’ with myself.  Sounds crazy, I know, but it seems to have helped.  I feel less insecure and more in control.  We have also scheduled all of the final vendor appointments at this point, which is a relief!

I’m beginning to feel like I’m in control – a feeling I haven’t had in a long while.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  Snowmelt.
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