- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
That’s what we decided on, but I don’t want to deal with flack from close friends who may feel slighted that they’re not invited. Has anyone else dealt with this??
This is why we’re limiting it to family:
My fiance has moved around a lot and is more of an introvert than I am; he doesn’t have any really close friends besides his brother.
Neither of us want anything big or pricey or planning-heavy.
Even if I only invited a few close friends, it would be all MY friends. I don’t think that’s fair. All my closest friends live out of town/state and he’s only met them once at most.
Two of my close friends dated at one point and there’s still bad blood between them. I love them both, but the female friend has a dramatic side and I would be afraid to have her at a small wedding with him. I won’t choose between them either.
I have my heart set on a beach wedding, which would not be at all accessible for one of my other closest friends, who is wheelchair-bound.
My fiance doesn’t even know if his entire family will even be able to make it; his brother is deployed and his dad’s health isn’t 100%. Worst case, it would be his mom and my mom/dad/grandma. I don’t want to throw a gaggle of my friends into that mix.
Honestly, we talked about eloping, but I’d like to have my family there – and his too, even though he says it doesn’t matter to him. Plus, I’m an only child. You think I’d hear the end of taking away my parents’ chance to see their child getting married? No way.
I’m going to try to throw a party after we get back, but again, a lot of my friends are out of town, and I don’t know that we’ll have the money or energy to do that on top of a wedding. I’ve been told to maybe reconsider, that I’d want my friends to be there, but with all the above factors, I can’t see where that’s an option. Even though I would enjoy having some friends there, I don’t think it’s a necessity – THEY’RE not marrying us.
What do you guys think? Will I regret this decision or is it a great idea? How do I break the news to those friends who have already been telling me they’re excited about coming to my wedding and will travel to wherever?