(Closed) Is anyone else doing a family only wedding??

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are sort of having a family only wedding but we are inviting our small group of friends.  If he doesn’t have close friends, I don’t think he’d mind you inviting yours.  Usually folks are on their best behavior at weddings, but I understand why you don’t want to invite them. I think since most are coming from out of town, they may not be able to come anyway and it could be a moot point.

Post # 4
216 posts
Helper bee

We are doing only close family and friends. We expect the guest count to be around 40. FH is inviting a lot of friends–I am only inviting 1 (I have much more family to invite than he does).

I think small, intimate weddings are the greatest and I can’t imagine ever regretting it. I prefer spending the money on people I know will always be in my life–rather than spreading it thinly over masses of acquantances.

Just remember–as long as the people that matter most to you will be there, that is all that’s important. If you want to have a destination wedding and invite all of your friends, do it. The ones that want to be there, will be there!


Post # 5
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We are doing a family only wedding; except we are inviting my FI’s boss. Other than his boss and his boss’s wife, everyone else will be family.

Post # 7
348 posts
Helper bee

We had just are parents there, but are throwing a party for friends later.  A couple we’re friends with had a family-only ceremony and a party for everyone the next day.

Personally, I think it might be LESS stressful to split up the ceremony and reception like that – planning a party that’s not actually the “wedding” takes a lot of pressure off, and a ceremony isn’t actully that hard to plan.

Post # 8
30 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’v always considered immediate family and our EXTREMELY close friends, and then having either a reception with everyone after the ceremony, or a big party when we got home from our honeymoon.


There is nothing wrong with wanting family only. I know plenty of people who want family only, and the have a big party (maybe even just casual) wth everyone when you get home. Explain it to your friends.

Post # 9
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re having immediate family only for the ceremony and then a reception where our extended families and close friends have been invited. We’ve had a bit of flack from aunts who want to be at the ceremony but we’ve actually had really good feedback about it generally. It also means that FH and I don’t feel intimidated when we’re actually getting married as we’re not very good in front of big groups of people.

Post # 10
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Guest list for our wedding was:

  • My son
  • My daughter
  • My brother and his wife
  • My sister
  • My ex-husband and his sister
  • Four close friends (invited because NotFroofy didn’t have family there, and wanted someone there to support her)

It was a wonderful intimate celebration!  With so few people, we could involve everyone in the service.  We had them all signing our ketubah (Jewish wedding contract) as witnesses.  We had seven people doing blessings during the ceremony and one doing a reading.  We had another doing a blessing over bread after the ceremony.  We had our photographer take pictures with all our guests, not just the wedding party.  And then we were able to take everyone out for a nice lunch (filet mignon and lobster were among the entree choices) afterward.

We did have a bigger reception back home a few days after the ceremony.  However, it really is a matter of personal taste whether to have a big wedding or a smaller one.

Post # 11
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are doing immediate family only.  My dad and sibling, fi’s parents, fi’s siblins and their spouses, fi’s neices and nephews.  Counting us, there will be 19 if everyone shows.  We finally decided on this because (a) it’s a destination and we aren’t going to ask our friends to shell out $1000+ to see us get married (we may throw a party for our friends when we get back…still undecided) and (b) Fi’s family is huge.  If we were to invite all our grandparents, aunts, uncles, and first cousins and all their spouses, we’d have 300 people.  And that doesn’t even include adding our friends yet.  No thanks!

Post # 12
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m having a family only on my side guest list A because my social circle has tightened to like a couple of friends. My Fiance, guest list b, has a lot more friends than family. So I guess some friends will be allowed but mostly family.

Post # 13
2 posts
  • Wedding: November 2011

As ours is a second wedding, and rather personal for both of us, we have only invited FI’s 5 sons and their spouses. Although a few close friends have hinted (or stated in some cases) their disappointment, we delicately explained our views on the personal side of this ceremony for us.  We will have a celebration dinner upon our return (marriage is in Mexico) with a NO GIFT policy.

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