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I'm just thinking...it's going to be sooo awkward. I'm pretty sure my dad wants to do it, and I know that he said something implying he believed we would, but I'm just not looking forward to it.
I mean, my dad has been a pretty good dad, we're just not really close. I hardly ever hug him, and we've definitely NEVER danced before! I mean...how do you dance alone in front of 200 people with someone you've never danced before?
(Someone may suggest that I suggest to him we have a "practice" or something, well, perhaps. I feel like that would also be awkward. Like, let's just get this over with!)
Anyone else?
Yes, except I'm still really debating cutting the dance. My dad and I are not close and are usually at odds, and he hasn't always been super supportive. We haven't hugged since I was little. All of my family has always done one so I don't want him to be offended, but I REALLY do not want a father/daughter dance... so I'm still not sure what we'll do. FI isn't really close to his mom so he doesn't really want a mom/son dance either, but we'll do both or neither.
@joy2011: I feel the same way. I live at home, see my dad everyday but we arent THAT close...we dont really hug (just not a huggy family) so it will be weird. Im planning on diffusing this by having the mother-son dance at the same time :)
If there is emotion, it will probably come out in the father-daughter dance. I would say that practicing would make it more rehearsed or awkward, less meaningful. You'll probably be surprised at how emotional you both may get. I am Daddy's little girl (I was 30 when I got married!) and he made me a mess, but it was so sweet. I say, just wing it, and if he gets emtional, you'll cherish it always, if he doesn't, you didn't ruin your $$$ makeup job!
My Dad was so emotional on my wedding day, I actually did a "daddy recap." You may be surprised...I hope you are!
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/the-person-who-made-me-cry-the-most-a-daddy-recap-1
I'm not dreading it, but I'm in kind of a similar situation. My dad is a great guy and loves me more than anything (I'm an only child) but I've always been much closer with my mom. My dad and I just don't know how to relate to each other most of the time. I do hug him whenever I see him, but we've never danced - he's not a dancer at all. But I think I would regret it if I didn't dance with my dad on my wedding day. Will it be awkward? Yeah, most likely but I think it will also be a really special moment and the awkwardness won't be a big deal. I've chosen a nice slow song that we can just kind of sway to with no real skill required. I don't think it will be as bad as you're building it up to be. :)
I am dreading it, but simply because I am pretty sure I am going to bawl my eyes out and then I am going to look like a hot fucking mess. I sware, the thing I am worried about most is crying all day and looking horrible in all the pictures.
I think I'm just going to pick the shortest (cute) song possible. 2 minutes or less?
@jholler25: good point!
@iheartnerds: yeah, I'm sure I would regret it too if I didn't do it. so I guess that's not really an option!
I'm totally dreading it, my Dad has never been very supportive of me and honestly I don't think he really "deserves" it. I think I'll probably end up doing it just to keep everyone happy, but it wouldn't really be my choice.
On that same token, I wish I could have my Mum walk me down the aisle instead of my Dad. She's been way more a part of my life, and so supportive of everything I do. My parents aren't together and I think if I choose my Mum over my Dad it would result in WWIII. It is just not worth it.
@QBbride: I feel exactly the same way about all of it! Except my parents ARE together, so it would be horrible if I had my mom walk me up, lol. I think I'll be walking alone.
A normal father-daughter dance would be awkward for us, so I am so happy I talked him into doing Thriller (since the wedding is 2 days before Halloween, I thought it would be fun). We are only doing a few seconds of a normal dance before going into the choreography, and even in practice so far, it's been weird. I love my dad, but we have had a much closer relationship as two adults than we ever had as "daddy and his little girl". SO I hear ya.
I'm so glad to hear this! I was just thinking the other day for the first time about it and realized it will be awkward! My dad and I are actually pretty close, but I'm just not a hugger, or a toucher, or emotional, and so is he. We'll do it, but I'm worried about how it will go.
Yes! I'm with you. It will be SUPER awkward for me. I've never been huggy/touchy with my dad, and I've certainly never danced with him - in fact the only time in my life i've ever seen him dance was with my mom at my parents 25th anniversary vow renewal - to one quick song. I was hoping he wouldn't want to do it - but my mom said he brought it up recently. So now I'm trying to find a short, not sappy song to make it as quick and painless as possible.
@joy2011: Yup, I was a little worried too. We have a good relationship and I lived at home so I saw him everyday, but my family is just not huggy affectionate and I've definitely never danced with him. I've never seen him dance at all! Dont practice, that will just make it weird. I actually didnt even really ask him about it, I just sprung it on him at the wedding and it turned out fine. We did the father/daughter, mother/son dance at the same time. Then half way through the song, we had the dj announce for everyone to join in and come to the dance floor.
well, here's a cute one that's only 2.5 minutes-
Daddy's Little Girl by Al Martino
Anyone have another short one?
I wanted to skip it so badly but I ended up going thru with it. My dad and I danced to "isn't she lovely" by Stevie Wonder and we had a blast! My father is quite the performer/comedian so once the music started playing he brought all his personality to the dance floor. It's crazy but I hadn't even told him what song we would dance to but he came in ready to go! As we danced I even commented to him that people would probably think we had rehearsed because we were so in sync lol. Needless to say he laughed and kept right on dancing and at the end we took a bow lol. It couldn't have gone better!! :-)
THANK GOD! I'm not alone, or a callous bitch... I don't want to do it either. I think it's cheesy and honestly I don't like my dad that much. But here's the thing, my dad is picking out songs for it... has been since the day i got engaged... My parent's turned into psychos over this wedding... the more they but in the less i want to deal with it. All I'm saying is i don't want to do that stupid daddy daughter dance... I hate it. But how do you let your father down... ugh!
YES!
My Dad apparently has dreamed of dancing with me to "My girl" at my wedding since I was born...
there's no way out of this :(
My Dad is dreading it. My Da and I would just ditch the whole thing, except for FMIL is so excited to dance with her son. I think it would just look so bizaare if just they danced, so we are gonna sway to Kermit the Frog's "Rainbow Connection".
We're not having any dancing for this reason! No first dance, father daughter, mother son, anything. This is because my dad is really sick and DOESNT dance (he's a "tough" biker guy, and my FI does not want to dance with his mom lol). We may end up doing the first dance, but it's a morning wedding so we don't know just yet
OP, I share your sentiment. We combined it with the Mother/Son dance and we ended up having a lot of fun with it because all family came up at the end. He certainly had a ton of fun with it. We picked a faster song so it wouldn't be too sappy.
I'm glad to see I'm not the only one... I'm not dreading it soo much... although this maybe the first time I've ever been so close for such a long period of time to my father.... and maybe slightly awkward... I'm picking a short song though... I hope that helps!
I thinky dad is dreading it, lol. He doesn't dance - at all. lol. But I'm making him! It'll be short though... he said "Can you at least pick a short song so I don't look like a fool!" hahahaha
I'm going to do a more upbeat song for mine-- probably "Brown Eyed Girl"? My dad is by no means a dancer, so we'll wing it and cry some and I'm sure it will be fine!
I feel the same way! Except my Dad and I *are* close....we're just not "hold each other in front of people" close, LOL! Combining with the mother/son dance sounds like an ok idea, it would at least take some of the attention off.
My Dad is a great guy and I have always been closer to him than my Mom but we aren't a really "huggy" family and I have been on the fence as to weather or not we would do a Father daughter dance. I have never seen my dad dance (unless you count corigrafed drill steps. He is a retired police officer). I know for a fact that he didn't even dance with my Mom at their wedding. Last year at my cousin's wedding, after 36 years of marriage he actually did dance with my Mom (TWICE!), so I know that he can, I am just worried that it would be akward and look forced.
I was dreading it but my dad really wanted it. I'm not terribly close to my dad, and he has no sense of rhythm. It immediately followed DH and my choreographed dance so it would stick out if we didn't do anything. We tried to teach him just basic 3-count East Coast and hope for the best.
I picked a song that is normally 2-2:30 "On the Sunny Side of the Street" and planned to back-lead the whole thing. Thankfully my dad grins when he's nervous. I managed to get us to fake having an sense of rhythm... Unfortunately, the band kept playing for far more than 2:30, might have been 5!
Here's an idea....at the wedding we went to recently, the bride's dad didn't want to dance for too long because he didn't want to cry in front of everyone. The father daughter was the last of the special dances (after mother son) instead of being second and they danced alone for a minute or two and then the DJ invited everyone to join them for the first dance on the dance floor.
My dad doesn't dance, so we planned to skip it. Later in the night someone mentioned us not doing a father/daughter dance to him and he agreed to do it. It was not planned, but by far one of my favorite parts of the night. It was a little awkward at first, we danced terribly, but it gave us a few minutes to talk...it was great!
I'm dreading it, but for different reasons. My father died 4 years ago in an accident, so of course there will be no father daughter dance. However, my FH wants nothing more than to dance with his Mom after our first dance. I think it will be really awkward, but there is no way I could deny him a dance with his mom just because my father isn't living. Sigh.
@GDub: do you have another father-figure you could dance with? your fiance's father? a brother/uncle/friend?
If you are not close to your father then don't do it, it is supposed to be special moment but if its not then dont. I am very close to my dad and would love to do a father daughter dance, but since we are not having a formal reception thats wont happen. Oh Well. If we were though it would be to "My little girl" by Tim Magraw.
@bookworm88: No, I danced with my Dad at my first wedding, and I have lots of beautiful memories of that. I have no desire to do a special dance with anyone else :)
I shot a wedding where they had a father/daughter dance for the bride who had lost her dad, and all different men in her (and her DH's) family took turns cutting in to dance with her in lieu of her dad. Very 'it takes a villiage to raise a daughter' kind of dance. She didn't know that anyone other than her uncle was going to dance wtih her, so she was really touched and very emotional. I thought that was a unique and special way to make sure the bride didn't miss out on the Father/Daughter dance.
I dreaded it..for the same reason why I cringe everytime I remember it... because I cried my eyes out! My daddy was diagnosed with Stage 4 Cancer, about a month before my wedding. We didn't even know if he was going to be there on my wedding day, but luckily the chemo wasn't so hard on him. So.. I cried out of happiness that he was there..and fears that he may not be around much longer. I wish I would have held back some tears long enough to have a nice picture taken of us where I wasn't hiding my face in his neck! All of the guests (at least from what I heard) were crying too!
I love my daddy, and yes we never had the most affectionate relationship, he was looking forward to both walking me down the aisle, and our dance together.
Here is a picture of us (you can see some of my BMs wiping their tears)
@GDub: That is a beautiful story, it brought tears to my eyes! And I'm glad you have a special memory with your father.
@GDub: Thank you, it really was such a special moment.
@GDub: How beautiful. :) Sorry to hear about your Dad.
What an amazing moment and picture, thank you for sharing it.
@joy2011: I felt the same exact way. I love my Dad, but we aren't close and he never showed affection towards me. So, I made the decision ahead of time to shorten things by having my Mom cut in half way through the song. It seemed to help a lot with the awkwardness...especially b/c my Dad kept asking and commenting throughout the dance, "You don't know how to dance?"..."I can't believe you don't know how to dance!". Little did I know he was such the dancer! lol
Same way.... he's paying for the wedding however and i know he is so excited to walk me down the aisle and already has a song to dance too... it will be awkward for me it is just thinking about it...
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