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Someone please tell me I'm not the only one!!

I started looking for BM dresses at the end of last November. I actually found a dress in a color I loved from Ann Taylor, and ordered dresses for each of my gals (5). Well, I ordered one for myself too, just to make sure I liked it in person. I really loved the color and it was a very well made dress (that we also got on sale!), but, I felt like it just seemed a little to 'bridesmaidsy' and stiffy - just not really me or my ladies. Returned 'em all.

So Back to scouring, hours and hours of scouring! I will be honest here, I could probably pick an Alfred Angelo or Dessy Group dress or whatever, but thats not really getting away from the whole 'bridesmaidsy' thing. It kinda seems like a pain to me since my girls are in CO, MN, and almost Canada MN. So I've been scoping out J Crew, Gap, really anywhere I might be able to find a cute and reasonably prices dress.

I love, love, love the J Crew dresses, how you can do the same fabric and color but let each girl pick a style (I'd die for the dark pacific, organic green or aged driftwood in taffeta) but man are they expensive, and I just don't feel right about it.

But I believe I am starting to go insane spending so much time looking for these things when there are so many other things that need to be done! I'm about 5 minutes away from going mismatched BM dresses.

But first I think I am just going to email them all and ask more specifics on price range, style, or if they think they could find a dress if we went mismatched.

Has anyone else gone crazy with this process? Did you just say 'screw it!' and let them find their own?

I really wanted the same dress for everyone, but my MOH is much larger than the other girls (Size 14, 4, 4, 2), and she is also my sister, so I'm having her pick out hers and choosing one for all of the others to wear the same.  I actually still haven't decided on the dress, but I am just using DB, so I know they will get here quick and easy to order as my BM's are all over the country.  They have actually been very good about it, though and said they would wear whatever I picked.  It makes me happy, but for some reason, still stressful!

I love the look of mismatched bridesmaids. The only thing I think with that is that the length should at least be the same, and similar fabrics or it can start to look messy in pictures. it can look silly if you have a bridesmaid in a more form fitted formal, satin next to a bridesmaid in a flowy loose casual silk dress. so be careful. I also love the look of bridesmaids in different printed dresses. have you checked Victoria's Secret? they have really cute dresses, and also an awesome convertable dress that I've been thinking about.

So I think we're definitely at the same place.  You're not alone!  I thought I had chosen the bridesmaid dresses from JCrew too, even same color options as yours...but for some reason I can't commit.  The good thing to know though, is that if you know someone that is a teacher they can get you 15% off of the bridesmaid dresses at JCrew.  It definitely makes a difference in the prices of the dresses.  I need to stop looking at wedding blogs, because it makes me want different bridesmaid dresses!  Good luck! 

I was super picky and stressed out but then I loosened all the "rules" I had. Now my 3 BMs are picking their own dresses(big size range) from David's in the same color.

I am on the same page. Traditional bridesmaids dresses aren't my style, but I can't find anything in the right color. Its frustrating! I have been scouring anthropologie, gap, zara, banana republic, piperlime, ann taylor, loft, macy's and nordstrom. Keep in mind that most traditional bridesmaids dresses require a few months to order. You still have a ton of time before your wedding, since you are just buying off the rack...at least thats what i tell myself! good luck, and i'd love to know if you find anything!

@mrs.peters.to.be: wow I lLOVE how that turned out for you!

@janicegiraldo: ahhh, i know! It's so hard to make a decision! I do have 2 teachers out of the 5 so that is awesome to know! thank you!

@Brianalaura: being able to go shopping with one or some of them would be super helpful! Booo to living in Dallas and them all being far away! Time to move!

@kellybell: sounds like we are on a similaR search! I will definitely let you know if I find anything great. I've got my sister MOH on the hunt now as well!

Thanks to all of you ladies for your input! The FMIL and FFIL will be in town this weekend for a visit so I think I'm going to take a couple days off from searching and hopefully feel more sane when I get back to it!

what color are you guys looking for? Maybe we can help each other. I'm looking for blue or yellow.I'm also open to a pattern...

So far, here's my top pick:

http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=30621&N=1200007&pCategoryId=3939&categoryId=180&Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_180&loc=TN&gridSize=sm&showAll=true&defaultColor=Petrol&defaultSizeType=Regular

Thanks again for all of your advice ladies! We've got BM dresses now!! They should be arriving at all my girls' houses this week so I am stoked to hear what they think. Ended up going with Jcrew silk taffeta Lorelei dress in Organic Green - I am just in love love love with the color. Hope everyone else the best as well!

@Miss Holly: Oh miss holly, it is just GORGEOUS!!! Love it, love it, and so do the ladies. I kept going back to the Jcrew dresses, but felt they were just too expensive. Then one day, I go to stare (again) and they were on sale from the $255 to $180 PLUS 30% off that and free shipping over $100. So the lorelei in organic green was $126 a dress. I actually told them they could get whatever dress in that color/fabric but they all chose the same dress. It was pretty freakin sweet and it feels great to have it done, although i have NO idea what color shoes, wraps or jewelry would go well...

I would think they will still have it for a while, its back to reg price now! If you go for it im totally interested in what colors you think would go well for shoes, etc.! I see we are both fall weddings! :) Good luck!