Post # 1
Hello ladies. I have two bestfriends that i can’t choose one over the other. I call them lefty and righty, cause thats what they are to me. But however they are not close friends, so if i choose one the other may feel jealous. So the only way i see or feel no jealousy out of them is making one my maid of honor and the other matron of honor.
Now i don’t now what order will fall in? I need HELP!!!
So is anyone else having the both type of MOH? or had to choose from close friends? and if yes how did you guys deal with it?
Post # 3
I’m having two maids of honor! My twin is one, and our mutual best friend since kindergarten is the other. They’re planning events together and such so it works out perfectly. 🙂
Post # 4
A matron of honor is a maid of honor that is married – if neither of them are married you can make them both maids of honor. I am having my best friend be my maid of honor and my sister, who is married with kids, is my matron of honor.
Post # 5
I had a maid and matron of honor. It is totally fine.
Post # 6
I always thought that was the same thing. What’s the difference?
Post # 7
I’m having both! I also have three bridesmaids. One of my bridesmaids seemed kind of “shocked” I only asked her to be a BM, but whne I REALLY needed someone, my two MOH’s were there!
Post # 8
@Atalanta: Matron is married, maid is unmarried.
Sorry, read that wrong. From what I’ve been reading, the MAID is “first”. However, that seems weird to me. I’m putting my sister right next to me (Matron). There are several tasks the MOH’s do (rings, witness marraige license and others), so you can divide the wedding day duties between them. I’m sure they’ll both be honored to be your MOH’s, regardless! 🙂
Post # 9
I have both. My MAtron of honor is married. Maid is still single. MOH is taking on most responsibilities. Who will step up more?
Post # 10
I have both, my two sisters! I don’t see a problem with it!
Post # 11
I had two maids of honor – my sister and my BFF. They were cool with it (I had my sister come down the aisle last, which seemed fine due to the whole “blood relation” thing). Then I was matron of honor in my same BFF’s wedding along with a maid of honor, her best friend from college. We walked down the aisle together, but if it had been one at a time I think the maid of honor would’ve gone last. We entered the reception together with the best man.
In any case, you can definitely have two maids/matrons of honor! I see it often.
Post # 12
@Atalanta: Matrons are married; maids are not.
@jn732: I am having both. I am the maid of honor in my matron of honor’s wedding in September. My maid of honor is handling most of anything that needs handled (only because she is begging to, she *loves* planning things, so that’s fine with me!), but I asked both to come with me when I went dress shopping. I am not really into tradition, so I’m not relying on either of them for much of anything, only because I hate the idea of burdening anyone, and for me, it’s enough that they’re going to both be there on my wedding day! I also have four bridesmaids, and my FI is going to have a best man and five groomsmen.
Post # 13
@jn732: I have a maid of honor and matron of honor.
Post # 14
I have two and they both are fine. They aren’t friends either but they both are a great help to me. Good luck
Post # 15
No, but I’m having two matrons of honor. Except that we are calling them sisters of honor, because we don’t love the word matron. And I’ll have one brother of honor.
Post # 16
Yea, I’m having Maid and Matron. My sister is my Matron, so she will be first, and my best friend is my Maid, so she will be second. I’m thinking about calling them both Maids… but not sure. I don’t really care either way.
In your situation, correct me if I’m wrong but you will have a Maid and Matron? Since none of them are your siblings, I would just order them by age or height. It doesn’t matter if the Matron or Maid is first. And they really shouldn’t be mad about the order–it’s your wedding, not drama for them.
Hope this helps! 🙂