Post # 1
Don’t mean to be the debbie downer on this, but is anyone else having mega difficulty with the idea of wedding dresses?
I just absolutely cannot bring myself to spend a lot of money on a dress that I will only wear for like 7 hours. But, I still want to find something that I like and that feels like “me” to wear. I understand that this is a once in a life time event, but even $1000 for a dress seems INSANE. It’s not that I don’t have it in my budget to spend this, it just seems wrong to spend money on something like this to me.
Does anyone else feel like that?
Post # 3
I felt like that, but knew that it was something I was just going to have to suck up and do. I have decided to sell my dress after the wedding. I actually already sold it and my wedding isn’t for 5 days. LOL. As long as nothing major happens to it, it’s going across the country 2 weeks after my wedding. The fact that I was able to recoup some of the money justified the price to me. I know lots of people keep them, but for what, my future daughter isn’t going to wear it, the same way none of my family wore my mom’s.
Post # 4
I do feel the same way. Don’t get discouraged though!!! There are alternatives to buying an expensive gown. You can find rental places. You can buy online (like, preownedweddingdresses.com) Or you can go to like a Davids’s bridal and order a bridesmaids gown in white or ivory. It’s all about thinking outside the box.
Post # 5
Mine cost about 1/2 what you are talking about, and I decided to donate it after the wedding so that someone else (either who couldn’t afford one on their own, and/or the money from the donation place selling it could help someone with cancer) could benefit from it. That way the money spent on it goes to good use!
Post # 6
I found mine brand new on ebay for $200. No alterations needed 🙂 I am thinkin of chopping it to a knee length to wear on future vacations!
Post # 7
I felt exactly the same way,to me it seemed like so much money for just one small element of the day,however I shopped around immensley and got my dress for £100 as it had been reduced as it was the last size in that style and had been continued. I was really lucky to land on that one,but have a really,really good look around,and also ask staff at stores if they could show you any lines that were discontinued or the last in the stock/style that they have. hope you find something!!
Post # 8
When I found “the” dress, or once I had it on…I cried…because it was over budget! I just kept saying No NO NOOO! Its a RIDICULOUS amount of money! Mom soon stepped in and said “Stop crying in that beautiful dress” lol and she said is this it?! And I said YES and she started bawling! My mom is NOT a cryer so solidified my decision for me!
Post # 9
I felt that way until I tried my dress on. I was going to make mine LOL, thats how much I despised spending money on one.
Post # 10
@missfireslayer: Did you get it yet? Is it a “real” one or china one? I’ve always wondered how those turn out!
Post # 11
@SummerCamp: I have always felt this way. It is hard for me to justify spending a lot of money on anything for 1 day actually. I found my dress on the sales rack for $100 and then alterated it to my liking. I would have spent $1500 on the same dress if I hadn’t found this one.
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Post # 13
@SummerCamp: I feel you! I could not get excited about dress shopping and I worried I’d fall in love with something I can’t afford. I ended up buying a dress online from J Crew for well under $400 and that still feels like a ton of money for something I’m going to wear once.
I do love my dress but I’m freaking out because it’s strapless and it keeps slipping down when I try it on. I want to see if I can add straps but don’t know where to find a good seamstress. Anyway, that’s off-topic and I started my own thread about it.
Hope you find a dress you love at a price you can handle. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 14
At first I didn’t really feel this way, but was looking for a cheap dress anyway. I got the dress for less than $500, but now with alterations and undergarments it’s up to like $800+…. and now I’m like “Why am I spending all this money???? I’m only wearing the dress for ONE day.”
Post # 15
I really struggled with the concept as well. I am a fairly simple person in my everyday fashion sense. I like retro silhouettes with clean lines and minimal decoration. Anyone whose been in a bridal shop knows the overwhelming masses of giant dresses covered in pickups, rosettes, and bling. I had a really hard time finding something that didnt make me feel like the dress was wearing me, instead of the other way around.
In the end, I bought my Allure 8771 for $335. It made me feel like me, and was a reasonable price. You can totally find dresses under $500, you just have to look. Check out brands like Allure, Mori Lee, Casablanca, Jasmine, etc. My second choice dress was the Mori Lee Blu dress that everyone on WB loves and the shop where i tried it on had it for $400.
Post # 16
you are not alone, i capped my budget at 600…its the most i was willing to spend without feeling terrible…luckily i found one for 599.00 i also found another i liked for 400.00