(Closed) Is anyone else having two ceremonies?

posted 8 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Yes…we’re having 4 ‘weddings’ – legal ‘wedding’ at the embassy (completed last Friday!), traditional Korean wedding here in Seoul, an Orthodox church wedding (I’m Orthodox – but nobody else is), and a Canadian wedding for my family.  It’s …. insane, but also kind of cool.^^  A lot of people do fusion weddings, but since we knew we had to have a traditional Korean wedding that couldn’t be modified, and since we knew that we would have to have ceremonies in two countries, we went with ‘traditional’ weddings at different times. 

As to your dress, I’m technically plus size, and compared to Koreans…super plus size!  I had a horrible time finding my white wedding dress here, but finally I found a woman who would make it, and it’s been a great experience thus far.  It’s actually kind of cool getting it made just for you.  As for fabric – is there any way she can send you fabric samples? … or Skype with you before she actually purchases it?  Or maybe go shopping together where you are now and look at different fabrics to see what you like and don’t like?  Just some thoughts…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How long will you be wearing the Sikh outfit? If it’s not for too long, I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m changing into a Thai outfit for about 1.5 hours during the day and while I normally would never let my mom pick something out for me, she’s just going to have it made in Thailand and even if I hate it, I figure I can suck it up for an hour.

If you have to wear it for longer, I would at least give your FMIL some guidelines. Tell her the things that are important to you, like you don’t want it to be too heavy or scratchy or whatever. Actually, what would be great is if you can visit a fabric shop with her here so that she can get an idea of what you like and hopefully pick something similar.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes, we’re having 3 ceremonies!

I’m hindu, he’s christian; I’m British, he’s Canadian. Two relgious ceremonies and the legal bit. Hindu one and legal one in the UK on consecutive days, then Christian service a few months later . So much planning….I understand where you’re coming from!!!

Re: wedding attire – depends on how much you know/trust her judgement or whether you are chilled enough to just go with the flow…. My mum has already bought one sari for me when she went to India – I told her what I liked, showed her some pictures and left the rest to her. (I did tell her not to buy any others, but she did anyway!!!).

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah, I’m having two full-blown weddings as well. One in Korea and one here in the States.  I ended up buying two dresses, although the one for the Korea wedding I got a used one (the one here is what I’m considering as the “real” wedding for me and my FI). Both weddings will also have the Korean traditional wedding ceremony incorporated into it, so I’ll be changing my attire on both occasions. And then my FMIL is throwing a reception party for her friends who can’t make it to our Baltimore wedding (my in-laws live in Indiana) after we come back from our honeymoon. So it’ll be like 4 weeks of wedding celebration…….Not really looking forward to all the flying back and forth madness….

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’m also having two weddings. (i’m glad i’m not the only one). we’re having our “american wedding” on saturday and then our indian wedding the next day. basically we’re doing the indian wedding for his parents as he’s not big into their culture. they’re planning the entire thing from food to ceremony to our outfits, etc. basically we’re just showing up. i’d like to have a bigger hand in helping to plan it, but they seem happy enough doing it themselves. i guess we’ll just have to wait and see!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nice to see the multiple-ceremony-thing isn’t totally left-field…

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re also having more than one wedding.  We’re going to have an intimate beach DW with the white dress etc… The DW will only be symbolic since the paperwork requirements are a pain!  Then we will do the legal part of it at the courthouse.  Then we will do a Nikah.  We’re looking forward to all of our weddings! 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well kind of!!!!

We’re having the legal wedding here in the UK, then flying to Brazil (not on the same day though :)) to have the church ceremony….

Then we’re having a party in the UK for our family and friends who can’t fly to Brazil, but it won’t really be a real wedding by then..

 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Whoaa… 4 weddings is craziness!!

We are having a legal union in Switzerland that my parents are flying in for next month, then next year we will have a proper Catholic wedding in the States so the rest of my family can come.

Seemed the most fair way for both families to be involved… plus we didn’t want to rush into planning a church wedding this year. Gives us time to do the big to-do. 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We had 2 ceremonies.  🙂  One was a legal ceremony to comply with the legal requirements for our fiance visa and the other was our “official”/family/religious ceremony that we had 6 months later when both of our families could be there to celebrate with us.  🙂  I’m very very glad that we did both and didn’t just leave it at the civil ceremony!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Glad to see that we are not the only ones! We are planning on doing two full weddings: one here in the US and one in Europe. I have a lot of family that live in Europe (that’s where I’m from), so I really wanted to do it there, but we also wanted to include all of SO’s family and our friends here in the US, so we decided to just do two full weddings. Will be very challenging, but I think it will be worth it in the end. In a way, this is a true marriage of two cultures by doing weddings in both countries. The only thing that I am concerned about is the rather long gap between them: the European wedding will be some time in August and the US one in October…

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