Post # 1
A couple we know have set there date for two weeks before our wedding. I know as I bride you only get one day but I feel well a little overshadowed. 🙁
People are saying they should have called us out of respect before setting there date so close to ours, YES that would have been really nice!!
I know there is nothing I can or would do, so I’m being happy for them and focusing on our day.
Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar thing happen?? It would make me feel better in knowing i’m not alone here.
Post # 3
My cousin is a month before us, my mom’s best friend’s daughter is a week before us, and my stepsister is two months after us. You just have to remember that you get a day – maybe even a weekend – for your wedding to be yours. You have to share the rest of the summer.
Post # 4
I don’t think they should have called you before they set a date. Two weeks is plenty of time, especially for a couple who isn’t family. Last spring I had a wedding Saturday and Sunday for two consecutive weeks straight . And yes, all the brides were close friends of mine, and part of my inner circle. It was a great month and no one felt overshadowed! Don’t worry, you’ll get your day.
Post # 5
My cousin announced that her wedding would be two weeks after ours three months after we’d booked our date. I was fuming to begin with, but in some ways it has been nice that we can talk about our plans together.
Post # 6
One of my closer college friends got married the week after us. I actually had given them a heads up, because they got engaged after we’d set a date and before we sent STDs. Not like “BEWARE OUR DATE but, hey, btw, we’re getting married 9/17 and inviting you… I don’t know when you’re planning on getting married, but we’d love it if you could come to ours.”
They ended up choosing the Saturday after ours, and I was disappointed they couldn’t come to our wedding, but I understand there’s a lot that goes into these decisions and it wasn’t about me and didn’t take anything away from our wedding. The travel may have been a little hard on the few people who went to both, but other than that it really wasn’t that big of a deal.
I also have a coworker who got married the same day as me. It caused a little bit of office coverage shuffling and such, but really I thought it was exciting having friends planning things at the same time.
Post # 7
Its a bummer, but like PP’s said- not much you can do about it:( Just think of all the “last minute” things you’ll know about so you don’t have to stress on YOUR day:)
Post # 8
I got engaged a year before one of my bridesmaids did. She ended up choosing a wedding date three weeks before mine. I was in her wedding, too.
And honestly? I was totally, 100% fine with it. It was one of the most fun and exciting months of our lives.
It may be hard to accept now, but I promise that never ONCE during her wedding and my wedding, did either of us feel overshadowed.
Please try to be happy for them just as you want them to be happy for you. You don’t want to spoil any part of your engagement being upset about an occasion that should be joyful! 🙂
Post # 9
Since I’ve gotten engaged, several relatives have gotten engaged and since married. I’m glad my engagement was long so that they could get married way before me. Some friends/relatives were already engaged before I was. I purposefully planned my wedding to occur far away from theirs, out of respect. I could not imagine just up and deciding to get married the day before someone that I am close to when I got engaged after them and knew their date. However, I am highly suspectful that someone else in my family is going to spring a wedding up before mine. Hell, my mom just sprung her wedding up three months after mine! She was supposed to be paying for a portion of my wedding. But, there is no way she can do hers AND mine.
Post # 10
Yikes! I feel like a ton of people are getting married next year, and one of my BM’s weddings is August 4th, while mine is October 6. I did take her into consideration and tried to have a bit of a gap after hers so she wasn’t totally overwhelmed and stressed out (and same for me!). But this same BM is also a BM in two more weddings earlier in the summer, so I can only imagine how crazy it is going to be for her!
Post # 11
Yup! I know something like four or five people (ranging from pretty close friends to casual acquaintances) getting married in Spring/Summer 2012.
I’m pretty psyched. I certainly don’t expect invites to all of them, but if I do, I’m sure they’ll be a blast!
ETA: This is going to come off rude, and I do apologize, I don’t mean it to be… but IMO, the idea of a courtesy call before setting a date close to someone else’s is kind of BS. We checked with a few friends to make sure we weren’t choosing the same date, because we knew our guest lists would overlap, but the only group we actually scheduled around was immediate family. And had that availability put us on a weekend after or even a day after someone else we knew? Well.. we would have chosen that, because we cared most about our family being there.
Post # 12
One of my BMs is actually getting married 6 days after me! She did check with me first about the date and I have no problems with it at all. I think its a great opportunity for us to plan our weddings together and really I only need one day to be special! I can’t monopolize a whole month !
Post # 13
One of my closest friends is actually getting the day after me. Unfortunately, it’s in Europe while my wedding is in Canada so we can’t go to each others.
I’m disappointed, but only because I really wanted her to be able to be at my wedding.
Post # 14
I know several people getting married next summer. One couple chose a date 3 weeks before ours, another 3 weeks after ours. It’s actually a lot of fun seeing what other brides are doing and talking about plans.
Funny enough, my wonderful aunt and uncle called my mom when they found out our date and asked if I’d mind if they had their 25th anniversary celebration the weekend after, or if I’d feel overshadowed. Um, HECK YES have an awesome anniversary! I’m super excited for them and it wouldn’t have bothered me if they hadn’t asked, but they’re just too sweet not to 🙂
Post # 15
Do I think they should’ve called you? Absolutely not. We ended up having our wedding a week after one of DH friends wedding. However ours was family only and frankly trying to get a date together that would suit everyone bc each of our families own and run their own businesses was stress enough. Maybe they didn’t know? I know I got engaged in March and had the date set beginning of April. His friends who had been engaged since the June prior didn’t tell anyone their date even when asked. Got the invite 4 weeks prior to their wedding, sorry my wedding was already planned. Point is picking a date can be stressful and many things can factor into it. 2 weeks is nothing in my eyes and if it happen in my circle I’d still go to both.
Post # 16
I am in my best friends wedding this Saturday and my wedding is in 31 days and she is in mine!!!!