Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
So here is the thing..I had always been a shy girl growing up and didn’t date…in fact I didn’t have my first/only serious relationship until I was 21 years old. My mom and friends moms always told me not to worry about dating and that I would essentially meet the perfect guy the first time around. I suppose I did have opportunities to date and did go to lunch or dinner with the occasional guy, but nothing ever really developed. I suppose I was too picky in just committing to any guy and had always had the dream that I wouldn’t have to search for the right guy and that somehow he would just find me and things would just feel right. In come my FI..we met and started dating nearly 4 years ago and we plan to marry. I have no doubts that there is anyone else I am meant to be with. I truly feel that I have met my soulmate and that everyone was right…I am marrying my first and only love! I admit I didn’t see it coming initially (though within a year my father knew I would marry him). I guess it goes to show that my family knew what they were talking about.
Post # 3
Nope. I kind of wish I was but my experiences have made me the person I am. My fiance and I have talked about this and we both think if we had met 10 or 15 years ago, we wouldn’t have dated. Of course, he is 7 years older than me, 10 or 15 years ago it would have made a bigger difference than it does now.
Like you, I didn’t start to date until I was 21/22 years old. And if I had found the “one” then, I would have been so happy to miss out on 10 more years of crappy dates and bad boyfriends!
How lucky for you to have found the right guy early on. Moms are usually right even when we don’t want them to be!
Post # 4
Well I had been in a serious relationship before but as for my FI I am his first real GF. IT was a little hard when we became soo serious, well him realizing he had missed his chances of being in the dating world but he realized that all the bad breakups and not so great past realionships people have had…he would have had it no other way. Funny he thinks he is perfect and he now just laughs and say he is soo perfect he didn’t even have to make any wrong decisions in his past;) And yes our parents knew we would marry before us as well!
Post # 5
FH is really the only serious boyfriend I’ve had (we also started dating when I was 21). Before I met FH, I was definitely one to kind of flee right before that time where you would need to talk about if you were just hanging out or actually dating before. Ironically though FH and I had talked when we started hanging out that we “wanted to keep things casual”. Summer was coming and he was suppose to study abroad the following semester but turned out there were other plans for the two of us (thank goodness!).
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
Another thing that I just thought…has anyone had issues where there partner fears that because this is your first serious relationship you are having stronger feelings that might fade. For example my FI has worried that I love him so much because it is my first relationship and that this has influenced my feelings for him. He has been in prior relationships and has his fears that my love may fizzle out or may just be infatuation. He hasn’t spoken of these concerns in a long time, but did have these fears. I think he finally realizes that I do truly love him for who he is and not because he is my first serious BF.
Post # 7
For what it’s worth, my oldest brother and his wife have been together for 25 years this month. They are each others first and only everything and they got married when he was 18 going on 19 and she was 17 going on 18. And they are still crazy in love.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2012 - Our backyard!
I just posted a thread similar to this the other week. *Raises hand* Mr. CC is my first and only boyfriend! 🙂 I didn’t start dating until I was 18 because my parents were really overprotective.
Post # 9
That is my story, expect we have been together for 5 years…i knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him shortley after we started dating….
Post # 10
I started dating my fiance 2 months shy of my 16th birthday. He isn’t the first boyfriend I had, but I consider it that way because he is the only serious relationship I’ve had and well, you just can’t count that boy you kissed once when you were fifteen and dated (okay said you were dating but hung out with about once) in a two week relationship. The situation is the exact same for him. He had gone on dates and dated one girl that basically used him for a month, but no real relationships. Sometimes we get lucky and find our other half right out of the gate.
Post # 11
Bluebutterfly-congratulations! I too, am marrying in October of 2010! woo!
Although I won’t be marrying my “first love” I am of the mindset that there can be a few “the ones” for us and it’s up to us to make sure that a marriage works and that the love doesn’t “fizzle”. I think if you explain to your FI your commitment to the relationship and that you fully plan to work hard at the marriage even if some days you don’t feel the love as strong 😉 that you two will be in it for the long haul.
I think there are some difficulties of entering a marriage without having experienced other relationships, but again, I think if you are willing to work at this, and are willing to work hard sometimes….it will work out!
Post # 12
I’m not, but I am my FI’s first relationship and my FSIL married her first bf as well. = )
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I had one really not serious BF before falling for Mr. Bruschetta — so, um, technically no, but in my heart, YES.
Post # 14
Yep… I am my fiance’s first girlfriend, and he is my first boyfriend…we got together senior year of high school and have been together since…7 years!
Post # 15
FI was in a few serious relationships before me. I had a few “boyfriends” of a few months before him, and dated countless people he he, but he’s my first love, and I was 26 when we met!! I ALWAYS said when I was younger, the first guy who can tolerate me and who I can tolerate for more than 6 months is the man I am going to marry. I remembered that at our 6 month anniversary. It’s true!!
Post # 16
My FI was my second boyfriend.
It sounds like you’re really sure, and four years is a lot of time to grow together and know each other – but, I just wanted to mention that in having previous relationships, people tend to learn a lot from their mistakes and are able to use that to better handle the one which grows to marriage. Although, on the other hand, if you’re doing it right the first time – good for you! I just want to say that rough times will come and without perspective on working on stuff from before, it may be trying – but if you both want to work through it and don’t give up, I believe all will be well. 🙂