Is anyone else not excited about wedding band?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Bah, I’m just getting a plain, white gold, 2mm wedding band and calling it a day.

It’s not that I’m not excited, I think I just have SO MANY other things going on in my life right now that the wedding band got pushed to “stuff that isn’t a priority right now” and so I’m not too worried about it.

But the way I see it, the wedding band is MUCH more important than the e-ring. I will wear mine with the e-ring for a few years I’m sure, but when I’m ready to stop wearing my engagement ring I think I’ll get a nicer band (plus, I’ll have had a few years to think about the kind of wedding band I’d want to wear!)

It’s just a ring, don’t fret about it too much. 🙂

Post # 4
179 posts
Blushing bee

@yehyehgirl  Yes I’ve had similar feelings, but not about the wedding band. I actually enjoyed that part. He got to pick the e-ring, I got input on the bands…so I did look forward to that. I’m not very excited about the wedding dress..I just felt kinda blah. Didn’t have the aha  teary, ring the bell, yes to the dress moment like I’ve seen or heard from others.

So it’s normal to be excited abot some things, and just “check the box” about other things. If you’re not a big jewelry person, it makes total sense. 

Post # 7
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


I would have been excited to go wedding band shopping but I didn’t have the chance. I found out that when FH proposed, he already had our wedding bands purchased because he bought the matching items and was just sooooooo excited.

I feel like I will be much more sentimental about my wedding band than my e-ring because of the vows and the symbolism behind the wedding band. I see my e-ring more as a bauble and shiny piece than a real promise of anything. Anyways…  when I saw my wedding band, it was blingy and kind of chunky and, I don’t know, not what I pictured. I really want just a simple, white gold, thin and non-blingtastic band. I tried to tell FH about this last weekend and his feelings were hurt. WTH.

I like my e-ring but I am excited to wear my set together, be it blingy or plain, because I want the world to know that I’m married and happily so.

You should get what you want now and forget upgrading. At least, that’s my plan. Who knows, I may see a jeweler before too long about my band and see if he can cast the gold into a band and we mount the diamonds in a new piece. The idea of upgrading/changing in the future is a neat notion but I wonder how many people actually do it. I think you will get the band, love or learn to love it, get sentimental and keep it. So yeah, get what you want now. Speaking of which… I should probably go down to my jeweler! 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 8
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Maybe use your engagement ring as your only ring? You can just have him put it on you at the ceremony. I wear my upgrade alone on my left hand without an additional band and I love the look!

Post # 9
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I definitely wasn’t excited while ring shopping!

I ended up getting an heirloom ring that I’m obsessed with–but I think when you buy a ring, yu don’t have any sentimental attachment to it until after you’re married!

Post # 10
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m with @SunflowerGarden.  I don’t wear a wedding band because I’ve never been a ring person and didn’t like the idea of having to wear 2 of them.

We agreed from the start that my engagement ring would become the wedding ring when we married, and I love it!

Post # 12
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Eh, yea I guess I wasn’t that excited about getting a wedding band.  To me, it was more about finding a simple and understated ring that would compliment my engagement ring, the real shining star. It does bump up the bling factor, so I am happy about that! 

Post # 13
397 posts
Helper bee


I’m not even going to get a wedding band…I figure the E-ring is enough….you don’t need to prove to anyone you’re married, just cuz you don’t have another band on that finger. They’d get the point by just seeing a bling ring 🙂

Post # 14
2062 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

The wedding ring is definitely the most important ring. 

I think you have three choices:

1.  Get something you really love and then put the engagement ring on the other hand. 

2.  Use the engagement ring as a wedding ring on your wedding day.  No one says that a wedding ring has to be a plain band or even a ring of diamonds.

3.  Get a band that matches your future husband’s wedding ring so that you have a pair of rings.

Post # 15
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think most erings look better alone so I dreaded looking. I found one and chose it but thought for a while for ditching the whole idea. It is just distracting from center stone 

Post # 16
179 posts
Blushing bee

yehyehgirl  Lol at “faked it a little” I’m sure this wont be the first time we have to fake some excitement for our future hubby’s ego…so it’s good practice. 

LilRhodyGem I had to agree with you. I’m just ready to get them both on at this point, to announced that I’m a married lady!!! 🙂



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