Post # 1
I’m beginning to feel like an anomaly here. Is wedding planning in my blood or am I doing everything wrong?
We were engaged last April and the wedding is this October, so I’ll have had a total of 16 months worth of time to plan this. I think I am doing a good job. I’m definitely ahead of schedule and have everything ready to go. I haven’t had any breakdowns though. I’m reading of all the stress and horror stories that go hand in hand with wedding planning. I keep hearing about the future MIL trying to get involved*, about everyone wanting their input, about people complaining and making this period difficult.
None of it. Nada. Bupkis. Is it because I’m far away from almost everyone (our family is mostly in VA and NJ, we’re in NC)? Is it because I’m AWESOME? Am I just not doing something right? I’m not asking for stress and difficult times, but I’m a little worried at how smoothly everything is going when I have been prepped for combat.
*She had an issue with the wording on my invitations, but a few days later she called back and said I was COMPLETELY correct and apologized!
Post # 3
We got engaged in June and we’re getting married this Sept. I don’t feel stressed, I LOVE wedding planning! I was made to plan a wedding!
Post # 4
You may just be freaking awesome!! I’m not stressed but I’m not getting married til Oct 2014. We have a lot of the little details worked out and we have a venue but I have plenty of time.
Post # 5
I think your awesome!!! LOL…Everyone responds to planning differently. I love it, and it doesn’t stress me because that is the person I am.
Post # 6
I stressed out at the beginning, but it was my own fault. I was expecting my husband to care about things he didn’t, and I was taking everything on myself.
After I leveled out, nothing really stressed me anymore.
My mother does, though. She’s the one freaking out at the drop of a hat.
Post # 7
I actually have been enjoying this too – so you’re not the only one. I will have only had 8 months from when we got engaged to our wedding, but I’m totally cool with it and not stressed. I’m also severly behind, but that doesn’t really bother me because I’m sure it’ll all get done. And whatever doesn’t get done, well who cares? 🙂
Post # 8
No stresa here rsally. We got engaged V Day and wedding is in 75 days. I was a very good budgeter, planner, and extremely organized so even my friends have commented how stress free our wedding has been to plan. Ask me around March if I am still not stressed though LOL.
Post # 9
I’m enjoying the general planning, like picking out what feel and what kinds of things I want and finding awesome personal touches. However, when I start to think about more strategic stuff like where people will stay that night, whether we need to shuttle them around, who is going to set up the ceremony area, etc., that’s when I get overwhelmed and annoyed.
ETA: I think that not feeling crunched on budget is really in my favor in terms of stress. I was able to book a DJ to deal with the musical choices and stereo equipment rather than that being on me, and a day-of-coordinator (friend of my mom’s), for example, to minimize stress, which I wouldn’t have if I had to cut all possible costs.
Post # 10
I’m enjoying it, too! People keep asking me if I am getting stressed out yet, as we get closer, and they are kind of shocked when I say no!
Post # 11
Whew, I was thinking I was just blissfully ignorant/doing everything wrong, but now I see I am not the only one!
HOWEVER, the wedding nightmares SUCK. Anyone else start having those yet?
Post # 12
Give it time. You’ll have your share of stress. Everyoones does. Just enjoy the quiet times as much as you can.
Post # 13
It’s possibly to get by with no stress at all. The only stressful thing I had to face was picking a date and venue cause of all the “rules” I had to follow. (I’m Asian and that’s a post of it’s own). But after that, nothing effected me. My SIL kept telling me it’d be stressful and to just wait if I wasn’t stressed yet, and down to the last day, I was stress free. I’d waited till the last 3 weeks to start looking for bouquets, wasn’t a big deal, I knew I’d get them somewhere. The day before the wedding when FIL was picking up his tux, he got to the local Mens Warehouse and found out they’d sent this tux to the wrong state and there was no way to get it in time. The lady working there was shocked that I wasn’t losing it. Whatever, he got a tux that fit there, his vest color wasnt what we originally wanted it to be, but it worked. I just didn’t see anything about the wedding to stress about.
Post # 14
I’m not stressed. We’re having the wedding WE want and the wedding WE can afford. My mom has offered some money so that takes some of the financial worry away. I don’t really discuss the plans with anyone other than FI and to a lesser degree, my mom. No one offers unsolicited advice or opinions. I understand that no one other than us cares about our wedding, so lack of interest doesn’t bother me and if anything is probably a blessing.
Post # 15
We were engaged in May and having our wedding this April.
Not stressed at all!
Post # 16
@karineh: Congrats! Date Twin. I am not stressed either. I have a day of coordinator, as well. When you are stressing, you fail to enjoy your FH and the whole planning process.