Post # 1
Mr. Tea and I have decided to join the ranks of those TTC, with the slight exception that we aren’t planning to chart/temp/check CM.
We want to enjoy this time, while also hoping for our BFP. I do have fertility issues- PCOS and endometriosis- but we aren’t going to let that worry us right now. We are content with being together as a couple for as long as it takes to conceive, and won’t stress out about this. After the first year (or around January 2015), we will consult my doctor if we haven’t had any luck with conception.
If anyone else is doing something similar, or did something similar and conceived, will you share your story? I would love to hear from everyone! (Also, I’m fairly new to the Bee, but am a longtime lurker of the TTC boards).
Post # 3
We will be pulling the goalie in a few weeks!
I want to say NTNP but I know if the first cycle ends with AF, I will probably turn to charting.
I have also been a long time lurker! Always so emotional reading the boards but never felt I had anything worth contributing.
BUT I’m looking forward to joining the POAS December group 😀
Post # 4
@morecowbell: Me too! I currently have AF, and I’m CD 5 now, so if AF ever stops (it’s prone to lasting 2+ weeks at a time), we will begin BD (no schedule, just doin’ it a whole lot, lol) and POAS in December as well! 🙂 GL!
Post # 5
We are NTNP! 🙂 we TTC in October but didn’t really have a good month because he was away for some time. Then he was sick. Then I was sick. Lol.
Post # 6
You can definitely be trying to conceive and not checking your temperature or charting or any of that business. I think people who spend a lot of time on Weddingbee think that this is the way that most people go about trying to have a baby, when in fact, no one I know has ever done any of it. There’s no harm in pulling out all the bells and whistles, and for some people it’s necessary due to problems with conceiving, but if you’re hoping for a baby and having unprotected sex, you’re trying to conceive in my book. Good luck!
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Post # 8
We are TTC. However, I am really trying not to get myself too involved. To keep from being hurt when or if AF shows. She showed this month and I was fine with that. We will just continue to have fun and see what happens. I really don’t want to stress DH out about timing and conception. Next month will be our one year anniversary and my body has just regulated after being on Depo. (Thank God) So, I am charting because I want to keep track of AF but that is it. Just lots of BD after this cycle ends. Also, I’ve noticed that the times that I was not pregnant were the times that I’ve had every symptom in the world. A few years ago, I was pregnant (ended at 9 weeks) but I had no symtptoms until about week 6. Long rant but I have basically realized that what is meant to happen will happen and I do not want to stress my way there.
Post # 9
I come off my BC in 3 weeks and this is definitely the approach we are taking. I want it to be fun and relaxed – not stressful. My little sister jumped straight to the charting & OPK’s and it only stressed both of them out more. I have enough stressful things in my life already!
Post # 10
@BellaDee: Being sick really sucks! Hopefully you’ll get your BFP when you want (I’d say soon, but I saw on the other thread that you don’t want to be super pregnant in summer- me either, lol)
@ColoradoGirl: Absolutely. I don’t want to add stress to something that’s supposed to be fun and exciting! If there is cause for stress later on, then I’ll deal with it later on.
@cmbr: That’s how I view it as well; if you want to get pregnant and aren’t preventing it, you are TTC- regardless of the other measures you’re taking. Thank you!
Post # 11
Maybe NTNP is really something we just tell the hubbies so they aren’t stressed! That’s the way I look at it. To me, it’s TTC, but I will say NTNP to take the edge and stress off, and let whatever happens, happen!
Post # 12
I’ve tracked my period for a few years on an app just because I had an iud and didn’t know when it was coming, but one of the automatic features is telling you when you are in your fertile window. So while I didn’t chart or anything I did know when it was “around that time” so I initiated sex without telling my DH. It only took the one time for us fortunately. But, had it not taken I would have been ok with it as we were just going to go for it and see if we hit it for awhile. I only would have charted or tempted after months of BFN’s.
Post # 13
@mrstea83: We are planning to start NTNP for a few months for a couple of reasons even though I will continue to chart to achieve the best chance to conceive. I am highly aware of my body, so even if I wasn’t charting, other signs such as CM can help me learn about my fertile window. Given some of DH issues, we might not be able to conceive without much effort, so we are just going to go with the flow and try our best during my fertile window for a few months and see what happens. Then if nothing happens after a few months, we will have to do something to help the situation. In that sense, there is a difference between TTC and NTNP.
I am very excited nonetheless to start trying in a few months!!
Post # 14
I was pregnant years ago, but when my husband and I decided to “try for a baby” we just chucked our birth control and had at it. I had no clue about charting at all. We were lucky in that I got pregnant the following month.
Post # 14
We just hit this point…after 6 months temping/charting/ etc. we are ready to just relax and enjoy the process….
Post # 15
We’re kind of relaxed NTNP right now. I had thought we’d be TTC actively at this point, but the short sale of my old house is really dragging out. He wants to have that taken care of before actively TTC, and I don’t think that’s such a bad idea.
I went off BCP in September, and we used other protection for a while, but honestly we just don’t like to. I told him it’s up to him when and if we use it. That way hopefully he feels some participation in the decision process. This past month, we didn’t use protection, but we also didn’t hit the fertile window, and I didn’t push it.
We got into an argument over the weekend because it feels like the bank is not only interfering in our finances but also in our reproductive choices. He said he was ok with just taking the approach that if it happens, it happens. That’s harder for me to do because I have really regular cycles and generally know when I’m ovulating. So, I’ll be aware of whether we hit the fertile window or not. I’m just trying not to let him know too much or push it too much to hit that window right now.