Post # 1
It seems that everyone has received the advice: “this wedding is about my you and your fiance and so you need to do what make YOU happy and stop trying to accomodate for everyone else.”
Although I’ve had more than my fair share of families trying to butt in (yet no one is coughing up any money!), I still find myself focus on the cost of everything and not that fact that we are getting married!!!
If this wedding was about US…. then we’d be having a full meal with a live band. But alas, due to cost: dessert reception here we come.
Post # 3
I know the feeling big time. We’re cutting dj/band and plugging in the iPod. We’re also likely cutting favors, and definitely cutting OOT bags. We’re also likely going to cut a limo and borrow his parents’ Lexus. The list keeps going on cuts, so don’t feel bad, you’re definitely not alone!
Post # 4
even though we want the wedding to be about us, we want to have money for our future. that makes me ok with sacrificing and cutting the costs for the wedding. i guess i’m one of those who thinks it’s “just one day,” yes it’s one very special day, but i’d rather have the money for later on in life.
Post # 5
I am sacrificing my dream of having a shutterbooth, still trying to find a way to make it happen
probably cutting the limo too, thank God we have friends that are willing to photograph and dj for cheap, and they are professional!
Post # 6
yes, a few things here and there but we are making things work. My mom keeps saying “ultimately, it is waht you want” but i feel like i am accommodating others – especially family
Post # 7
I’m trying really hard to find out where I can “cut” and still have a beautiful wedding. I have a pretty set budget from my parents and anything outside of that is out of my pocket which is not something I want to do rather I am doing things like having a friend DJ, trading services for a cake, having a friend do the ceremony music ect. so that budget is freed up for things like an open bar and a full dinner. It’s almost fun! Next is flowers. We’re like, if we spend this much on flowers, something else has to give so we’re researching cheap flower styles, online flowers even fakes, though I will NOT budget on having a real, lush white tulip bouquets for me and my girls. FI wants an ice luge for the bar (rolling eyes) so we are going to try to find someone with a nice car to borrow instead of a limo. It’s all about give and take for us and it’s been nice knowing our wedding is going to involve so many friends and family members instead of professional vendors. I didn’t cut on my dress though nor will I on my tulips!