OP, I think your worries are valid, but I also think women worry way too much about this. All we ever hear are the horror stories, so people think pregnancy and having babies is going to destroy their body.
I was 112lbs, 5’2 pre-baby.
I am now 113lbs post baby.
I have no stretchmarks
My vagina is not ruined.
Yes, my breasts shrunk from a 32B to like.. a negative cup size, but I’ll take it.
Aging will ravage your body just as much.
You may be one of those people who don’t experience dramatic, long-lasting changes to your body. I figured I would get stretchmarks and saggy skin..(I have some marks on my breasts and theighs from puberty), but I didn’t. I looked after myself, ate healthy and was able to pretty easily get back to where I am happy, body-wise.
If you really want kids, don’t base not having them on the fact that it will change your body. I understand how scarey it seems, and how crappy it is to adjust to a new body all of the sudden. Your worries are valid, but please don’t let them take over your world!
Before you have kids, start training yourself to disregard the things you don’t like about your body, and focus on the things you DO like. I have done this my whole life, and I think it’s given me a happier outlook on my body.
Sure, I have NO boobs now, but I love that I have a small waist, post baby.So I focus on that.
And look after yourself now. I find that no matter what my weight or size, when I am eating healthy I feel good about myself. I feel strong. I feel vibrant. That in turn really makes me satisfied with how I look.