Post # 1
- Wedding: December 2014 - Venus Garden @ Caesars Palace
I didn’t think planning a wedding would be so hard. As someone on a budget, there are some very harsh realitives I’ve been trying to come to terms with about prices of things. But perhaps even more irritating is my complete inability to make “decisions” about all the various things that need to be decided on. I think sometimes the internet makes it worse. For example, after looking at wedding porn on pinterest, I could see myself having a beautiful winter wonderland wedding with the fur wrap and seasonal centerpieces and pictures frolicking on the snow covered grounds. But 10 seconds later I could see myself having a beach wedding with a simple chiffon gown and a floral hippie style headband. We could have a destination wedding, or we could have a wedding in his or my hometown. Urban wedding, or rustic barn wedding. We could have a spring wedding, or a fall wedding. We could do a traditional wedding, or we could have a small intimate nontraditional one. We could have a casual wedding or a formal wedding, I’m just genuinely confused about people make these kinds of decisions. Plus, everything is crazy expensive. I’m not big on planning things to begin with. I don’t know if I’m gonna make it. HELP! Can you guys share how you narrowed things down a bit?
TL;DR: How do you make decisions about your wedding. Are you inspired by something or did you just already “know” what you wanted?
Post # 3
Haha, I know how you feel! There are so many pretty things out there – dresses, decor options, colours, hair styles, veils, shoes, flowers…. It’s near impossible to make up your mind sometimes. Wouldn’t it be great if weddings were like birthdays so you could marry the same guy once a year?
Post # 4
Happily for me, FI has helped in planning many weddings before, so he was already good at this stuff. Also, it helps that we already had the main framework planned before I started looking at “wedding porn” (funny term!) and basically all I’m picking now is photo ideas for the bride and groom.
Most important, I’m very disciplined when it comes to budgets, so if I can’t afford something (or if I think it’s a waste of money), I just look at it, think “Pretty” and move on.
It helps that I live in a country where the crazy wedding mania we see on American TV shows hasn’t yet come!!!
Post # 5
Just sit down without pinterest and decide what you want. Pinterest is great for ideas, but people are going overboard with some of the stuff they see on there. People planned amazing weddings before Pinterest, so I’m sure you can figure out what you want without it.
Post # 6
I have to disagree with @abbie017: use pinterest! I’d make a board for each “type” of wedding (ie, a winter wedding board, a spring wedding, a beach wedding) and add all the color palettes and dresses and flowers, etc that would fit each tiem of year and vision. Then, I’d let it sit for a few days, and then go over the boards with FI and pick out which overall concepts best suits you.
When FI and I were deciding between our top two venues, I made pinterest boards with as many photos of weddings in those venues as I could. It really helped us compare our vision with what was best suited to each venue. 🙂
Post # 7
The best thing we did was price everything out for a wedding we wanted which was about the time we realized we couldn’t afford it.
So we changed our plans.
There’s a reason we’re getting married in March, and it’s partly because the price was right! Winter weddings are cheaper, but I’m not treating our wedding as a seasonal thing – no snowflakes or holiday decor, no sleds or whatever.
It’s just a wedding that happens to be during March!
BTW, one of the best things we did in the beginning of wedding planning was divide tasks. Since my FI wanted a big wedding, he took on the bigger responsibilities – calling & emailing venues and vendors, scheduling appointments, etc. I took on the little details, like decorations, invites, attire, etc.
It worked out so that most of his work came at the beginning, and most of mine is happening now (at the end).
This worked out aweseome for us, but might not work for everyone.
But if you’re feeling overwhelmed already, I’d suggest sitting down and dividing up some tasks!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
could have planned about 10 different weddings, and each one would have been amazeballs. Why? Because I like pretty, and weddings are inherently pretty. What helped me was getting practical. iIcan make anything pretty, but only some things are practical. So I need a venue that is wheelchair accessible. Welp, there goes my sailboat idea and my rustic mountainside idea. I need a venue that does not require much travel due to health issues of key guests. There goes my dw idea. I need a venue that feels right for our guests list size (35 people). There goes most traditional wedding venues that are sized for 150 people. I need to not have a winter wedding because my brother is on call all winter and may have to miss my wedding if I did. I need to not be sweating like a pig in my dress, so no summer wedding either. Once I started looking at what our needs were, I was immediately able to nix a lot of possibilities and fantasies. From there, Mr. Lk and I were really able to define our vision. “Intimate, elegant, dinner party” Then, using those keywords, I was able to narrow the list even more.
Also, avoid Pinterest for now. Once you are confident in your vision, it will be a useful tool. But until you reach that point, it’s pretty much the devil.
Post # 9
you’re not being schizophrenic, you’re being indecisive. there’s a difference.
Schizophrenia is a mental disorder characterized by problems with thought processes and by poor emotional responses. Common symptoms are delusions including paranoia and auditory hallucinations, disorganized thinking reflected in speech, and a lack ofemotional intelligence. It is accompanied by significant social or vocational dysfunction.
Post # 11
@colorofmyheart: I was thinking the same thing.
How insensitive and ignorant.
Post # 12
Stay off pinterest. Close your eyes and imagine what you really want for your big day. I’m not spending a lot of the time deciding about the decor (or theme) for our wedding because at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter to me. Once I found our venue and we selected our colors, a lot fell into place. Talk to your FI about his wants too.
Post # 13
I think the OP is thinking “Bipolar” instead of “schizophrenia”.
Either way, neither disorders are a fitting name for your indecisiveness.
Post # 14
If you’re trying to exaggerate OP, you’re doing it wrong. Or you just don’t know what that word means….
Also, I have to agree with @abbie017:. If your problem is that you can’t decide on one thing, stay away from looking at 2973495 ideas because it will only confuse you more. Go look at venues and that should narrow it down for you.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I know what you mean, OP!!!!
It was easy for me to decide on the season: had to be summer b/c of traveling. And my EXTREME small budget makes nixing gorgeous stuff easy. I’m using friends any way I can. So I guess those things took some of the big decisions out.
i still go on pinterest, though. There’s lots of diy stuff on there that is inspiring. 😀
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