Post # 1
My SO has been overseas seeing family since last month, and he’s due back this week, which I am extremely excited about. But I haven’t heard from him in a few days, and I know very well that he’s in a place where internet is not readily accessible, but I can’t help myself but worry into a fit.
In a span of about five minutes I can convince myself that he’s seriously hurt or something worse. And I know in a few days I’ll look back onto these episodes and think I’m kind of crazy, but I really, truly, honestly don’t know how to change that.
I have mini panic attacks all the time, and there are a lot of times where I can just feel my heart rate shoot up at the tiniest thing.
It’s really hard for me to talk about. I’ve always been like this, but when I try to express it, most of the time people just brush it off and tell me I’m being ‘ridiculous’ and that I’m over-reacting. If I could teach myself to ‘under-react’ I totally would, but I just don’t know how.
Post # 3
I 100% understand!! I have always been a worrier, over the stupidest things too. FH is a police officer and I remember last year one night when he was working 3-11 it was about midnight and he still hadn’t come home. I started texting him, calling him, nothing. I thought he had been shot/was in the hospital/dead. Finally about 15 minutes later he called me and I just flipped out on him. He said he had been talking to his Lt. about studying for his Cpls. test and that Lt. was being super nice and giving him all kinds of advice. I felt awful. If I call him and he doesn’t answer, I immediately think the worst. I know it’s stupid, but I can’t seem to help it..
Post # 4
Ugh same here. 🙁 hopefully we get some good advice here… Sorry I don’t have any tips :/. Today for example I have become totally obsessed about a black speck on my tooth that I am 99% is a piece of pepper that just refuses to budge. But in the course of 5 minutes my mind jumps to thinking I’ll need the tooth pulled. I hate hate hate this about myself and don’t know how to stop it. Every time that an issue gets resolved, I swear to myself that I won’t let myself freak out next time… But I still do.
Post # 5
@BCPDmrs: I am the exact same way. SO and I are usually in touch 24/7 so this whole not being able to text/call thing is really getting to me. It’s not that I don’t trust him, I just don’t trust anything else on the planet.
@sleepyhead22: I am also very paranoid about strange new bodily happenings. I pulled a muscle really really good from Zumba last week, and I had just about convinced myself that I had something seriously wrong with me.
Post # 6
Bump. Really any advice at all would be appreciated.
Post # 7
I have no advice, but I’m super high strung too… DH was supposed to get off work at 4:30 a couple weeks ago, and I didn’t hear from him for like, two hours. and I was CONVINCED he was dead in a ditch… turns out he just had to work OT…
Post # 8
@mrshunnybunches: I’m the same way. I try really hard to keep myself busy so I don’t think like that, but sometimes i just have a few free hours with nothing to do but worry.
Post # 9
@misskittenn: You sound like me!!!
I’ve been convinced that: 1) FI was in a serious accident 2) I’m pregnant 3) I have cancer
.. I think you see a trend. None of these things have actually happened. lol! I haven’t found anything that makes me stop worrying, but at least I can relate! I try to watch videos about 3rd world problems and just talk to my family. It makes me see how good I have it, and my family talks some sense into me.
Post # 10
FH lives ten minutes from me, and if I don’t hear from him within 30 after he drops me off at night, then I start getting crazy worried.
I’ve also practically convinced myself that I was pregnant. I definitely wasn’t.
I have no advice, but you’re definitely not alone!