Post # 1
This might seem old fashion, but my fiancee and I are both virgins. We’ve been dating for 2 years, got engaged a few weeks ago. People are always so shocked when we say we decided to wait.
But we were each others first serious relationship, each others first kiss, everything. We figured why not make the wedding super special and wait, and be each others first and onlys. 🙂
I know a lot of people will think it’s dumb, but I’m wondering if I’m the only one who decided to wait…? 😛
And we’re not like those weirdos on TLC either who kiss super weird and are awkward. People are always shocked when they hear we’ve decided to wait. We’re like any one else.
Post # 3
There are definately people here that have or are waiting and those that have not. On both sides of the fence there are strong beliefs about the practicality as well as religious aspect of it.
Post # 4
Yeah for sure! I don’t want to offend anyone. I was just wondering who are/aren’t waiting and why or why not! 🙂
Post # 5
I definitely can relate to your choice as well as the reaction you’re receiving.
I chose to wait until I was married, too. I was 47 at the time of my wedding, and I had dated a lot when I was younger and had several long-term relationships (two to three years each) and was even engaged once and broke off that engagement before I, many years later, finally met and married my Darling Husband. I had people tell me that they thought I was “wasting” my life because of this. They just did not understand.
Post # 6
It’s a lifestyle choice, certainly isn’t weird! While I didn’t dance to that tune I can certainly admire and applaud the two of you! If it makes you feel good do it!
Post # 7
@silkspectre94: I just saw your updated post asking why or why not, so I will add that my reasons were both faith-based (first and foremost) as well as practical, just as @ThreeMeers: suggested.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If this decision is important to you, then I commend you on your willpower and I’m sure you wedding will be amazing and wonderful, but it will be either way!
I started having sex when I was in college, yet strangely enough my first was the man I am now married to, but we were not together that entire time. I’ve had two other relationships in betweent that involved sex.
Virginity is not exactly an outdated concept becuase –depsite common belief–it didn’t exist in the ancient world. The virtue of virginity was promoted to contain womena dn out of fear that women were rampantly sexual if allowed to give free reign to their sexuality. I reject those notions.
But, there is something very special for some people about sharing your first sexual experience with someone else and you will probably be very excited to share that moment with the man you are marrying, whether tonight or on your wedding night.
Post # 9
That’s really interesting! I have no doubt it was first put in place to like, restict woman from being too free, which I hate. If you’re in a relationship and you love that person, go for it. It’ll be beautiful and lovely, and I have nothing against it.
It just so happens we both just never got into serious relationships before each other, and were like… Wow, why don’t we wait and make it completely special?
But I agree with you. If it’s tonight or the wedding night, it will be amazing either way! 🙂
Post # 10
I was waiting. and luckly I did give it up to FI-
but now I am so glad I didn’t wait beacuse for me the wedding would have been that much more stressful!
but go you!
Post # 11
We are waiting because of our faith. It is definitely difficult sometimes, but God gives us strength.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
People are always so shocked when we say we decided to wait.
I think I’d be more shocked if someone brought the subject up! Yo. Made the choice that was best for you.
Post # 13
My fiance and I have been together for almost 8 years and we have been intimate throughout except for the last 7 months. We decided to stop having sex and wait for our wedding night to resume. I think it will bring more meaning our wedding night and to the rest of our marriage. I can’t wait! I think it can sometimes be easy to take sex for granted, especially when life gets busy. This break has made us realize the importance of our intimacy, the place it has in our relationship, and ulitmately how attracted we really are to each other both physically AND mentally. I think it’s nice that you’ve waited. Don’t let anyone call you crazy. They are probably just jealous. Who doesn’t want to erase some of their past?
Post # 14
My FH and I are also waiting until marriage. We’re not virgins, and for the first 6 months of our relationship, we did have sex. But around the 6 month mark, my FH sat me down, and explained that he wanted to stop, and wait until we’re married.
We both believe in God, and attend church on a regular basis.
He said that we wanted to try and do things right – and that he felt very strongly about waiting until we were married (we were not engaged at the time, heck – we’d only known each other for about 7 months) but I agreed – since I do understand that in our religion we’re asked to wait and the thought of it was endearing.
In any case, I had grown quite fond of sex and so I am not always the happiest about our decision BUT I think in the long run it will be good for us 🙂
It can be hard, when my friends talk about sex – and want to know about me and FH… and then I have to remind them it’s been over a year since we’ve had sex and another year before we will (ARG! depressing just saying that). They don’t understand – and don’t know how I can even stand it. They assume something is wrong with us – or him – or me – to not want to have sex. But it’s nothing like that 🙂
Post # 15
haha, we don’t bring it up, because it IS awkward. haha, I would never bring up sex. but when people find out they react a certain way, is what I meant to say.
Post # 16
I did not wait until marriage, but Darling Husband is the only man I have ever been intimate with, in any way. That does mean a lot to me, so I understand the appeal of waiting for the right person. We waited until we knew we were serious about each other, and I am glad we did because we dated for more than 7 years before we got married, so we just had more time to enjoy sex with each other! So I am glad that we didn’t wait, but also glad that Darling Husband and I are each other’s only partners.
That said, we were also high school sweethearts, so it wasn’t a struggle to wait for years for each other. If I hadn’t have fallen for my high school sweetheart, I doubt I would have put as much stock in waiting, and would have been okay with being intimate with serious boyfriends in college/ as an adult.