Is anyone else working their children/stepchildren into the ceremony?

posted 2 years ago in May 2015
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

<h3>CinnamonToBe:  You could do a unity painting. Have 3 ketchup type dispensers with 3 different colors. As a mother, I can relate to the jaw drop. You could take a moment to slip on a cover like the do in kindergarten for finger painting. One of the adults could make sure the paint is down in the tip before you squeeze.</h3>

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - local park

My stepson will be 4 at the time of our wedding.  I see the wedding as a promise between his father and me, so there is no official part during the ceremony when he does anything (besides be the ring bearer).  We’ve been a family for almost 2 years now- I don’t think the wedding makes it official because family isn’t a legal thing, it’s a love thing.  We are doing a sand ceremony, though.  My color sand is pink and my fiance’s is orange.  The “complimentary” color at our wedding is yellow, so I have mixed the orange and yellow together ahead of time so that my fiance is pouring yellow and orange, symbolizing how his life was already mixed with his son’s, and now it mixes with me (and as the sand cannot be poured back into the original containers, neither can our family).  The officiant will mention this explanation before we do the sand pouring…but that’s all that my son is being mentioned in the ceremony.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - local park

Very interesting!  I had kinda wondered about visitation wtih my stepson if something happened to his father (or vice versa- his visitation with his stepdad if something happened to his mom).  Interesting to know there are probably rules regarding this!  If when his mom had gotten remarried she made a big deal about him, I probably would have put him more into the wedding too.  I think it’s sweet hat your stepdaugther is excited and wants to be included- my stepson basically has no idea what is going on (he doesn’t really know what marriage is) and just knows  his mom “took him to the church and they had a party and then “steven” came to live with them.” It’s even less involved with me marrying his dad since we’re not the custodial parents.  I think it’s really sweet you’re thinking of ways to include her, especially since she’s so interested.  Sorry if my other post came off the other way 🙂  Not the way I meant it, just the way we’re handling it!

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