Post # 1
So I was the last one to get married out of all my friends. And to be honest, it was their weddings that helped me decide that I wanted a destination wedding instead of a traditional wedding. My FI and I had always talked about marrying in St. John USVI and made it official shortly after our engagement in July. All our friends and family were on board and excited. However, since that time, 3 of my closest girlfriends are now pregnant and expecting this spring. I am so happy for them, but can’t help but feel sad that they will not be a part of my wedding and that all the fun wedding stuff will be overshadowed by baby showers. I have never wanted to be the center of attention (hence the DW wedding) but I feel like when I was in their weddings (one each yr) that they had all my attention and support.
Can’t help buy wonder if I am being unreasonable. Two of my friends are due in March and April. My BF who is due in March said her parents would stay home and watch the baby but she hasn’t made a commitment because this is her first baby and doesn’t know if she will be able to leave him for a few days. She means the world to me and can’t imagine her not being there. Do I convey this to her, or just leave it alone? So far, I have told her that I will support and decision she makes. Anyone else in this situation?
Post # 3
One of my bridesmaids couldn’t make it to my wedding because she was scheduled for a C-section just a little over a week afterwards, and travel just was not a good option. She is one of my best friends and it was hard to imagine my wedding without her. Believe me though that she hated that she had to miss it. Let her know that you’ll miss her and wish she could be there, but that you completely understand her situation. It’s okay for her to know that she’ll be missed as long as no guilt is being portrayed in the action.
Post # 4
I totally worry about this same thing – My FSIL, who will be my MOH, is getting married about a year before us… They are going to be our wedding party and I know she wants to get pregnant very soon after the wedding, if not before! I would support her, but of course I want her to stand by me.
You arn’t being unreasonable… Just explain that you want her with you. The baby is out, so she could go… just be gentle and supportive. I know it’s your time, so hopefully she can understand and be there for this once in a lifetime event!
Post # 5
I pushed back my wedding two months so my best friend could attend (she was going to be giving birth in the month that my wedding was supposed to be)… is that an option for you?
Post # 6
another route to go would be to tell you completely understand that she might not make it & if that is the case, if she could be extra supportive/there for you for all the pre-wedding events that are local – like your bridal shower and/or bachelorette party. You might get the opportunity to be really creative with your BP – I’m in a similar situation (most of the babies are out, but my girls are all moms), so instead of the “traditional” BP of clubs & drinking, we’re doing a “slumber party” making rice krispie treats (some to take home to kids), private manis & pedis, & private karaoke…all at one of my girls’ parents’ house (they have a hot tub, too!). Maybe something like that will let you include all your preggo friends, at least at the pre-wedding bashes.