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If so, what are serving? How vegan are going?

I've been to a wedding that was vegan local food, all made by friends of the bride, and yes, it was a 100+ people reception (though I think there may have been homemade bread that wasn't actually vegan). I don't remember all of the food anymore--the tomato soup sticks in my mind because it was really garlicky. The wedding cake was vegan as well. Would the food there have been my firstchoice for dinner that night? No. Did I eat it, enjoy it, and have a great time? Absolutely!

I think with vegan food you may have to make a little more effort to be sure that there is enough filling food for guests, but I don't think its "unfair" (and yes, I eat meat). Its your party and you are gracious enough to invite and feed your friends, I think you can feed them whatever you want!

I am not a vegan.. and my family is most defintly not. But FH's sisters' and their children as well as his best man are.. so I have to find a way to cater to everyone. If I did not serve a vegan option--I expect certain people would not eat. I am just curious what others have done to accomodate everyone.

Another thought. In general, we're ok with a couple who don't agree with drinking not serving alcohol at their reception, even if most of their guests drink. Why aren't people of with a couple who don't eat meat not serving meat?

I don't see not serving meat as "forcing your practices on others"--they are hosting a party and can serve what they prefer. Just because you prefer steak but I only serve chicken, I'm not forcing a "no-red-meat" policy on you, I just chose not to serve it. Now, if a vegetarian comes to your house or out to a restaurant with you and demands you not eat meat, thats forcing practices on you. But merely choosing not to serve you meat? You're getting a free meal. You don't get to complain about it. Eat it or don't.

At my wedding, I only have 2, maybe 3 vegans attending, and a large number of vegetarians (FI and I are neither). We have one vegetarian entree, and all of the side dishes are vegan. We could have done a vegan entree, but we decided it would appeal to a larger number of people if we included cheese, and we have far more vegetarians than vegans. So, there will not be a vegan entree, but the salad, two veggies, rice and potatoes are all vegan, so I think that should be ok. If we had more vegans, we would have done one vegan entree and two meat.

really, bamm??? Maybe it's because I live near NYC where there are tons of great vegan bakeries.. but honestly I haven't been able to tell the difference between many vegan versus traditional desserts!

I am planning on having a traditional wedding cake and then vegan cupcakes (from Whole Foods or Babycakes in NYC) for the ones who can't eat the cake.

I'm vegetarian, FI is not, and because the majority of our families aren't vegetarian friendly (I can't tell you how many cow jokes I hear during big family dinners) we aren't having a vegetarian wedding. However, I think the people that freak out because you are having a vegan or vegetarian wedding are ridiculous! I just really can't believe that people can't suck it up and enjoy one meatless meal. I understand you being expected to take care of your guests, but if I were having a dinner party at my house, would it be a faux pas if I made eggplant parmesean instead of turkey? No! And for the same reason that guests shouldn't expect beef at an Indian wedding or pork at a Jewish or Islamic wedding.

I say go for it and make sure it's an awesome meal! 

My sister is vegan, lots of my friends are vegetarian, and FI and I eat very little meat ourselves.  Most of the rest of our families, though, wouldn't know how to cook a meal without meat.  If we were doing a meal, we would probably have a vegetarian entree and both meat and vegan sides.  Luckily, we're just doing heavy hors d'oeuvres and desserts, so there will be some of each.  I'm hoping it will be obvious and easy for vegetarians to find the non-meat stuff, and I will tell my sister ahead of time what she can eat. 

My fiance is a vegetarian and I am not. We have two friends who are vegetarian and my fiance's cousin, who will be an usher, is vegan. We're having a buffet style meal, but the vegetarians will be served vegetarian plated meals and the vegan will be served a vegan plated meal. We're also getting a vegan cupcake for the cousin so he's included. I would say unless you have a ton of people who are vegan, just work with your caterer and get special meals for the people who require them. But, what it all comes down to is you and your fiance! Whatever you two want is what you should do. If your family/friends love you they'll eat a vegan meal for one night :)

@OCTYB:  I know, like one meatless meal is going to kill someone. Jeez. If you can't go one meal without meat you really need to think about your diet anyways.