- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
My parents do not have a lot of money, but from the beginning my Fiance & I have been helping with the wedding expenses – when all is said & done, we will pay just about the same amount as my parents. Yet, despite this, all my dad has done from day one is complain about how expensive everything is. It isn’t even extravagant or super fancy, but he has complained about everything. Not a single time has he said “oh that sounds nice”, or “it should be a good day” or anything – just whine whine whine about how he has to pay money for it. When we sent him the tux details, he complained even more about the expense. It feels like he doesn’t even want to walk me down the ailse or be there at all. The lack of enthusiasm and all of the negativity is a real downer. There have been times when I feel like he could care less – I’m his only daughter and one of only two kids … but he seems to care less about that fact, or the fact that this is his only daughter’s only wedding and only happens once so you should be excited. Instead it’s just a big pain in the butt for him. I’d be willing to bet that when my brother gets married, my dad will be jumping for joy. That’s just how it works, my dad has always favored him more …
As if my negative dad wasn’t enough – it feels like none of my relatives even give two craps about our wedding. A few have had the nerve to complain about the date we chose because it’s “really inconvienient” … we didn’t pick our date to convienience everyone – we picked it because the venue was booked every other Saturday that month and that date was open and we liked it. We did try to be accommodating, but you absolutely cannot accommodate every single person, realistically. And, every time I talk to my Mom I get another list of “oh so-and-so said they might not come, they aren’t sure if they’re coming … I’m not sure if they’ll even come …” – gee, thanks family for the overwhelming excitement.
I by no means expect everyone to be extremely giddy and calling me every two seconds to say congratulations and we can’t wait – but at least one or two “hey how are wedding plans coming?” or “Hey, we can’t wait to see you” – but no, it’s just a big inconvience for everyone and no one is excited. Even my grandparents aren’t planning to come. I’m one of two granddaughters they have, but the other is their obvious favorite (they’ve never made that a secret) so my wedding is definitely not high on their priorities.
I don’t mean to sound like I want everyone to make it all about us and all about me, but jeez people … could you at least fake a smile and say congratulations so I don’t feel like a complete loser and like everyone hates me? Dear family … what did I ever do to any of you? 🙁
At least my FI’s side of the family and all of our mutual friends are excited. We’ll just celebrate with the people who care to share our day and in the end the ones that support us and come to share are the ones that matter anyway. That statement makes this rant seem completely pointless … but I have been feeling really sad about it lately.
Thanks for reading if you’ve stuck it out so far. I just needed to get that out of my brain to move on with the day … …