(Closed) Is anyone including handfasting in their ceremony??

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is what we’re using:

CELTIC HANDFASTING

Bride, take Groom’s hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you:

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you today, tomorrow, and forever.

Now Groom, please take Bride’s hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you:

These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to love you today, tomorrow and forever.

Now, please join hands so they may be fasting in the ways of old.

Remember then as your hands are fasted, these are not the ties that bind…

The love already shared by your hearts has been strengthened by the vows you have taken.

You will be bound by your love as you are bound by your clasped hands, from now until the end of your days.

[As the following is recited, hands are wrapped with cord]

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other. 

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as you build your future together.

These are the hands that will hold you whenever illness, fear, or grief may find you.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours.

[Binding is finished and cords are knotted]

Remember these hands that you see before you this day.

May they always reach out with love, gentleness, and respect.

May they build a loving relationship that lasts a lifetime.

May they always be held by one another.

If you follow these words and heed this sacred binding, your hands will heal, protect, shelter, and guide.

Now, the cords will be removed, but remember the knot as a lasting symbol of your binding and commitment.

[Cords removed and stored]

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My husband is Irish too and we did a handfasting ceremony.  I got my wording off the internet and the officiant added some of her own.  I didn’t save the site but it went something along the lines of, “will you hurt her. yes. is that your intent. no. will you anger her. yes. is that your intent. no. And so on.  I really liked the wording.  I just Googled “handfasting ceremony” and found a bunch of vows. But I liked the tone of this one best.

Don’t know if that helped you at all. lol

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Thanks!  Im pretty sure 95% of it or more is straight from the good ol’ internet 🙂 

We’re following it with an Irish Blessing right before the pronouncement.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’re going to do the infinity looking thing… holding our hands so it’s shaped like an infinity sign. His palm side up with one hand crossed on top of the other, and mine palms down the same way, then we hold hands.  The ‘cord’ which at this point is leftover sash from a dress my mom made for the flowergirls, haha will  sort of weave around our individual arms and meet in the middle where it’ll just get one tie/knot. 

We’ll definitely be practicing a few times, once we figure out who will be doing it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Don’t mind me chiming in again:) I found the directions for tying the actual knot a little vague too, so we let the officiant, who had experience do the job. But we did the figure 8 “infinity” hand formation and instead of leaving the cord tied, she whipped it off in kind of a “ta-da!” Apparently, in ancient Celtic tradition you are supposed to spend the entire night tied together, so we took a pass on that:) Oh, one last thing, I made our cord with directions I found on Offbeat Bride. Go check it out:)

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

http://www.squidoo.com/Handfasting-Wedding-Ritual

Here is some awesome information about handfasting and some good information. As far as my vows..for the handfasting ceremony were writing our own..But it is going to be an intertwind part from both my fiancee Irish side and my Native side and mix them together. I know that you blessed the ribbons so that there blessed and made (holy) per say.. So I am getting a Native American to bless the ribbon before and after and I also got some Lavender like the sage the Native burns and were blessing the ribbin while we do it more of a spirtuail thing but I like when the ceremony goes around that the blessings and the burning of the lavender is pretty awesome…But it is an awesome ideal and I love your vows that is really neat and personal I love personal stuff…

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