Post # 1
I think I’d like to have a bouquet for pictures, but not so much for the ceremony. Did anyone else NOT have a bouquet for the ceremony?
But, if I decide to have a bouquet – any idea what I should do with it? I won’t be having a bridal party or a MOH standing up with me.
My mom will be walking me down… I guess I could hand it off to her…. but the more I think about it, the more I don’t really want anything in my hands for the cermony/walk down the aisle.
Post # 3
I think it would be nice to carry something so you don’t have the awkward sense of not knowing what to do with your hands. That said, I’m not sure I’m going to have a bouquet at all, so I’m torn on this issue too. I think if you are going to have a bouquet at all, it would be nice to make the most of it and carry it and pass it to your mom, but if you really don’t want to carry anything, that’s totally fine.
Post # 4
@melodicsighs1 – curious as to the reasons you might not have/want a bouquet. Care to share?
I’m not too worried about the awkward hand thing – I figure I’ll be arm in arm with my mom going down … holding hands with FI during the ceremony… and then arm in arm with hubby after.
As a BM, on the other hand, I found it INCREDIBLY awkward to not have a bouquet – for one wedding I was in, we were given leis as a surprise, and I had no clue what to do with my hands during the ceremony.
Post # 5
if you do have a bouquet for the ceremony, i think handing it off to your mom is a nice idea. it does give you something to do with your hands as you’re walking down the aisle, but on the other hand i don’t think it’s necessary. people have walked before without having something in their hands (i don’t mean that in a snarky way, i mean that in a comforting way).
for me, i’m not having a bouquet at all. our ceremony is a little unusual so any aisle i walk down is going to be pretty damn short, and it wasn’t worth the few hundred it was going to cost me (i’m not a diy kind of person). don’t get me wrong i think bouquets are GORGEOUS and it would be nice to have one, but i didn’t want to spend the money just to have something to do with my hands.
for photos, i will make bunni ears, the “ok” sign, jazz hands, and maybe flip the bird.
Post # 6
I’m not having a bridal party, but I’m going to carry a bouquet. I’ll probably give it to our daughter or maybe put it down on the ground. LOL I’m not sure, but I couldn’t imagine not having flowers. I love them!
Post # 7
I’m not sure about a bouquet simply because I’m not sure about any wedding traditions until I’ve decided they’re right for me. FI and I are questioning everything to make sure we’re not doing things for traditions sake but because they mean something to us. plus, I don’t know if it’s worth the cost (we won’t really need a florist minus the bouquets – im making the centerpieces and bouts), and I don’t know what flowers would even look right with our colors and my dress.
Post # 8
i didn’t carry a bouquet!
i researched the traditions and was ok with idea behind the bouquet (mainly superstitions: ward off evil spirits with herbs in the bouquet, good notions represented by choice of flowers).
while i had saved many ‘inspiration’ pictures of bouquets, i wasn’t THAT excited abt flowers after all.
i did worry a bit about portraits and the whole “omg what WILL i do with my hands?!”.
i bought a red parasol for some fun photos, but the rest of the time, it was surprisingly unweird.
in fact, i think it gave me more confidence to pose for pictures rather than just clutch the bouquet so tightly!
when walking in — mine was a long ‘outdoors’ walk from a car drop-off point to a French restaurant — i carried my black clutch purse instead.
our wedding ended up being floral-free (no boutonnieres/corsages either), and guess what?
Not a single guest noticed, until I mentioned i didn’t have a bouquet, then they went, “OH! Now that you mention it…”
So I say, you don’t HAVE to have one 🙂