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My second child I didn't my first it was kind of a family bbq co-ed no games nothing frilly.
If your friends aren't in baby-mode, have you thought of doing more of a party - with male and females? An evening of appetizers (and cocktails for those who can drink!) to celebrate your upcoming life change? You could still register and people would likely still bring gifts.
We sort of did. My friend really wanted to throw me one, but since I was looking at a baby shower as basically an invitation to buy me a gift, I only wanted super close friends invited because I didn't want the friends I am not as close with to think that I was just trying to get a gift from them. So, I would have only felt comfortable inviting like 2 friends, I live about 30 miles away from my work so would not feel comfortable asking coworkers to make that drive, I have no relatives at all that live in my state, and my husband's relatives are notoriously flaky and half of them wouldn't show even if they had RSVP'd. So, my friend would go to all that trouble and maybe have like 6 people there, and I would have felt like a huge loser. On top of that, I am pretty shy and hate being the center of attention.
So, my husband's sister and I organized a joint party which we very carefully did not call a shower, just a celebration for the baby and also for her son's second birthday. We had about 15 people show up (naturally about half the guest list on my husband's side either cancelled at the last minute or just didn't show at all) and had a BBQ and my nephew opened all the presents (even those for the baby). That was great because my nephew really kind of took the heat off of me and we still got a nice day with those who bothered to show up.
Honestly I am pretty iffy about showers because I do think they are basically asking for gifts, and as someone who spent their lifetime surrounded by gimme pig family members, I am pretty touchy about that.
I'm not having one before the baby. Maybe after the baby though when we go back to my hometown. One of my friends did this and it worked out well. I've had one of my friends offer to do one here, but I don't really know many people here to make it worth it.
I have two kids, and no baby shower for etiher of them. And the games that some people play....guess the melted chocolate in the nappy....I am sorry, but that is just gross.
I also did not have an engagement party, and won't be having a bridal shower.
If I want a gathering of my friends, I just have it to enjoy the pleasure of their company. I don't need an ulterior motive. :)
We just moved across the country and I left my whole family behind. I'll only be back home once in February and it will only be for like a day for work. I don't suspect anyone here will throw me a baby shower - we still haven't made many new friends, so I'm pretty sure it's just not happening.
My BFF didn't, although several of us wanted her to, lol. If you don't want to have a full-out shower, maybe you can still register? I know BFF did that because several of us still wanted to get her something and she got a free gift card or the like for registering.
I'm not even pregnant yet, but I don't know if I would have a shower. I'm pretty sure my MIL would organize one for me because gifts are her "love language", but I don't have that many girlfriends, and I wouldn't really want them to feel obligated to travel to the party or bring a gift.
I actually like the idea of a really small get-together with your inner circle of women. Sometimes it is really important to older women (like our mothers or aunts) to be part of this special time in your life and maybe share some wisdom. What if you just had lunch with your MIL and SIL?
I didnt have a bridal shower and I dont plan to have a baby shower if I can help it. My SIL mentioned throwing me one but I'd rather not have it. I am thinking of having a formal party after the baby is born instead, it is common in my area and this way its more of a celebration that the baby arrived safe and sound and people can bring gifts but usually would give gift cards or money. I prefer that to a shower.
I didn't have a wedding shower and will probably just have a pre-baby cookout or something. I hate showers. I have a lot of people asking me where I'm registered so we will still be registering if people really WANT to get us something for some reason.
We didn't have one with Addie, and we won't with this one, either. Honestly, I'm a little sad about it, but whatever. Our parents bought Addie's big ticket items (travel system, crib/changer combo, and mattress), and we did get a bunch of "Welcome, baby!" gifts after she was born, so that made me feel a lot better. I just hope baby #2 gets some of the same treatment. Not that we need a lot of stuff, but I want a big fuss to be made over him/her, too!
We probably won't. I think people will send us some things but our family is so far away. We'd have to drive over two days or fly which would be kind of expensive. I'd love to make the trip down there but it just seems like overall it'd be more of a hassle than it's worth. We are still registering mainly for our parents but my husband's family loves babies so they'll probably send some things too.
@Mrs. Spring: That's my thing, I don't even really care about getting a lot of things (although it helps). I'm going to miss having a party that's all about our little baby girl and celebrating her upcoming arrival.
I'm not having a baby shower. I had 2 bridal showers and didn't really enjoy the experience so I've decided to just skip the whole thing. My DH and I don't communicate with his family anymore. It doesn't help that I live 6 hours away from all my family and friends.
We aren't! I also didn't have a bridal shower. For this it is partially because of Jewish tradition, but mostly because they make me uncomfortable and i hate going to them, so I wouldn't make anyone else come to one.
I had a baby shower for a friend on saturday. There were 4 of us there. It was fun tho. We visited and painted some onzies and had some snacks. It was a good time.
EDIT: We also had it after the baby was born so every one came for some cute little baby snuggles. I thought it was the perfect little shower. It wasn't sitting there watching some one open presents for hours or anything like that. It was just a nice little get together. Almost like a birthday party lol.
I didn't care about having a wedding shower, but I was really excited about a baby shower. I felt like the wedding was the time to celebrate the wedding, so a party about gifts felt unnecessary to me. But a baby shower was the only time to really celebrate the baby with the people I loved, so I had a very low key but fun baby shower.
We didn't have a wedding shower and it really doesn't look like there will be a baby shower either. Like OP, our families/friends are really spread out, and we're the first of our friends to have a baby. It makes me a little sad, because I would like to celebrate the baby coming with everyone, but I know the economy is hard and it really isn't worth it for the family to drive to come together. My mom and dad are going above and beyond with their support though (they surprised us with a crib today!) and my MIL is making us embroidered bibs. We definitely feel the love even without the cute invites and favors :)
We are skipping the baby showers and hosting a "Sip & See" after our baby is born. We're thinking about hosting a pool party/cook-out and keeping it simple. My family has been very supportive of this decision but my DH's family thinks we are bizarre for not wanting a baby shower.
Perhaps you could host something once the baby gets here!
I'm not having one this time (second baby, no shower it's all on us!). First time I didn't plan on having one either, but SIL surprised me with one!
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I didn't have one for my wedding and I am not sure that I will have one for the baby either.
Truth is I don't have that many friends that I think would come. Most are child free and the thought of going to a baby shower is last on their list of things to do. I don't have very many family members in the area. If I had a shower it would probably be my MIL, SIL, and I.
Did anyone else skip the shower completely?