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Who is going to walk you down the aisle instead? Or are you walking by yourself?
My dad died when I was 18. Right now, I'm thinking of three options:
I'm leaning towards #2 but I like the idea of #3 - entering the ceremony area with the boy sounds so nice.
Wow, number 3 is really cool! FH wouldn't like it--he's surprisingly traditional, he wouldn't even consider a first look.
I am going to have my mom walk me down the aisle. I know she was hurt that my sister had only my dad walk her down the aisle, and I think it's only fair. Plus, it's something that I really wanted since I was a kid (weird, I know), I just never had much of a relationship with my dad. I just always thought that my mom deserved the spotlight for raising us, no matter what tradition says.
I am fairly certain I am going to walk down alone. My Dad is around, but we don't have a fantastic relationship... I would just be more comfortable going it solo. I don't need/want anyone to give me away, I feel it will be more symbolic for me to go it alone. Good luck deciding!
My dad died when I was a teenager. I have a very small family - my mom and my brother (no aunts, uncles...). So, I'm having both my mom and my brother walk me down the aisle. Seems appropriate.
Hi Danadelphia!
My dad died when I was 12 so I had the same options...
Personally, I wanted to come in by myself OR with FI. FI didn't like that idea very much. bleh. hah - I've seen a couple pics where they walk in together and I just think its a beautiful sentiment. Coming in together... Another bride on here was thinking through the same issue and I think she decided to walk half way down by herself, and then FI would come up and meet her and walk the rest of the way. Its so sybolic I want to cry haha
My 19 yr old brother ended up asking if he could walk me down. It was too sweet to turn down. Not my first pick, but it'll be nice.
Do you think your mom would want to walk you down? I asked mine if she'd want to walk me down or watch me come down. She wanted to watch!
Have you asked the boy about walking in with you? - the halfway thing might be nice b/c he'll get to see you come in AND walk with you.
My dad died in November, so I'm going to have my grandfather (my dad's dad) walk me down.
My mom & I think it would be too hard emotionally to walk down together. We'd probably be sobbing by the time we got to the altar
I do like your #3. It seems very modern & empowering. Great for the bride who hates the idea of being given away.
I'm having my little brother walk me down the aisle. We're 10 years apart, we have a great relationship. My dad isn't involved in my life we have'nt spoke in 7yrs :( I do have a step-father and a great relationship with my grand-father but I didn't want to choose between them so I figured my little brother would be the best choice.
My dad walked me while his mom walked him to the top of the aisle and then me and the groom walked the rest of the way together.
I'm sorry for all of the bees that have lost their fathers. Hugs all around. My father is alive however, we don't really have that father-daughter relationship. My son is walking me down the aisle.
I've seen all kinds of options and I think a bride walking herself down the aisle is both powerful and beautiful (and totally acceptable). If that's how you're leaning, go right ahead!
I've had two friends who lost their fathers, both had their mothers walk them down. I've also had a friend who walked down with her FI and regretted not being able to have her "first look moment". They had chosen to do it because they wanted to walk down with their child.
Personally I think it's very dramatic to have the bride walk down on her own, if you can handle it. I know personally I am a blubbering mess (for both happy and sad moments) and need someone walking me down to keep me from tearing up too much.
Although I have both my parents, I walked together with the boy. It was a very special and powerful moment. This way we reduced the show effect that usually comes with the grand entrance (especially if you're not into the "look at me" moment). So I would recommend option #3.
My younger brother is walking me down. My father left when I was 5 and we were never close.
My friend is walking by herself and her mom will meet her at the alter to give her away. Mine is doing the same.
My girlfriend lost both of her adoptive parents at a young age and she wasn't close to any of her siblings, so she walked down the aisle by herself. It was lovely! :)
My Mom and my step-father are walking me down the aisle. I don't have a father in my life. I asked my step-father, not because we're particularly close, but because he's been really good to me lately. He's helped me when I needed him (it only took him 15 years to want to do that) so it felt like I'd be snubbing him if I didn't ask. And my mother insisted if he could do it, so could she, and she's right! I've seen people have their uncles, their grandfathers, their brothers, their friends. Anything goes. Just choose what feels right. I would vote for your Mom.
My dad passed away a few years ago, so I asked my brother to walk me down the aisle.
I walked with my mama! My dad and I don't really have much of a relationship, and though I have a wonderful stepfather, I have always been really close with my mom and thought her walking me down represented how she has had such a strong and supportive impact in my life.
My dad passed away too so I am having my brother walk me down. If I didnt have a brother I think I would go it alone. My mom isnt really into the idea of walking me down and mostly thats why I wouldnt choose her. She doesnt like all the attention on her. So sorry to hear about your dad. I hope your able to pick something that makes you happy, thats what matters!
My dad passed away 3 years before the wedding, and this question was a hard one for me to deal with in regards to my wedding. I ended up asking a good family friend to escort me down the aisle, and he was absolutely thrilled by the request. We had considered me walking down the aisle alone and husband walking up the aisle to meet me half way and then walking the rest of the way down. I didn't want to walk alone. Whichever decision you choose to do, it will be beautiful and (I hate to add) whichever decision you choose, somebody will question. My sister was upset that I didn't want my mom to walk me down the aisle or a different family friend who had been close to our family longer.
My father also died when I was younger, and my Godfather is going to walk me down the aisle.
My dad died 10 years ago. In Jewish weddings, both parents often escort the bride, so it will be just me and mom. FI is not Jewish, but loved the tradition so much that he is having both of his parents walk him down.
My dad wasn't inviting to the wedding (hasn't been in the picture for years), and my mom walked me down the aisle, and I couldn't have been prouder. I never even considered another option. We're pretty close.
I *did* think about that whole "I don't want to be given away" thing, but in the end, no one said, "who gives this bride away" or anything, so I didn't look at it like that. I decided it represented my mom approving the marriage. She always had to the our dad growing up, so it suited her to take on this role as well. She loved every minute of it, too.
My father passed away 8 years ago. I couldn't decide between having my mom walk with me, or going it alone. I've decided to walk alone and have her meet me at the end to still "give me away". I want my solitary-ness to represent the loss of and yet and "presence" of my father with me...nothing can ever take his place! But I love and adore my mom, she's been wonderful and a fabulous friend, so I want her to "be there" too.
You should do whatever you feel like! If you can walk alone- power to you!!! I'd never make it, ha ha. Personally,I so love the idea of walking in together with the guy...my guy would have none of it so my bother is walking me (Dad dies 20 years ago). I think my Mom really wants to walk me but I'm just not feeling it, she can be goofy.
My mom is too shy to walk me down the aisle (I don't speak with my father) so I am going to have my grandfather (mom's dad) walk me instead! When I thought he wasn't going to be able to make it my brother was going to do it.
My older brother walked me down the aisle, & then took his place as a groomsmen. My father died when I was 15. I would have liked my mom to walk me, but she passed 2 weeks before I became engaged. Do what feels right. I just didn't want my husband to see me until I got to the altar.
I am walking myself down! I am a little nervous to be alone right before, but I love the message it sends.
I lost my dad when I was twelve, so I've thought about this alot. I was going to have my grandfather (dad's dad) walk me, but his health took a turn for the worse and he passed away last fall. My mother was adamant about not wanting to walk me cause she thought she'd be a tearful mess. I also thought about walking in alone, but I'm worried I'd be too nervous myself. SO, even though I'm not especially close with him, I'm asking my uncle (dad's brother and also my godfather). It just seems like the right choice for me and I know it's what my grandfather would want and I'm pretty sure what my dad would want.
I haven't asked my uncle yet, but my sister keeps telling me to get a move on. My wedding is in October, so I wasn't feeling rushed. He lives in another city so I wanted to travel there to ask him in person, but wasn't planning on going for another month or so. That's enough time, isn't it???
I asked my fiance about walkling together; he prefers just standing there while I walk down to him with my mom
I'm very close with my father but don't plan on having him walk me down the aisle. The boy told me early on he wanted us to walk together. I love the idea. I mentioned it to my parents recently and surprisingly they loved it as well - I was worried that my Dad might be hurt, but he understands my total distaste for anything that feels like him giving me to the boy.
If you are close to your momma, I say do that, but I am having my brother walk me down the aisle. My dad walked out when I was 13, we just recently mended our relationship, but my mom would freak if my dad walked me down, so I chose my brother. He is my best friend and I couldn't have made a better choice. :)
My older brother who only lived with us for a month or so every year growing up will walk me down the aisle (he lived in England we were in LA). He feels so honored that I'd choose him for something so special, it's even more special because we share the same father who was pretty terrible to both of us but it only brought us together and gave us an incredible bond.
I already gave my two cents but I wanted to say how sorry I am to all of you who lost your father. It's just heartbreaking to read all of these.
my mom is walking me down the aisle. i wouldn't have it any other way!
My mom is walking me down the aisle. Can't wait! (Father and step-mom made racial, disgusting remarks while we were first dating and they are NOT invited.)
I think I'm walking myself. I mean, I'm 44, so it's not like my Mom is giving me away! LOL. My Dad died many eyars ago, and we were not close.
I am responsible for myself financially, emotionally ,etc....so I think I will take the walk alone and join my man in the garden we are likely using.
My Mom is walking me down the aisle as well. My Father died when I was younger and it was just my Mom and I for a long time, as my siblings had gone away to college. It seems natural to have her walk me down the aisle. Though we are including a rememberence during the ceremony to honor my Dad, just a little moment to give to him. My older brother and older sister will be giving the toast at the wedding as well as my Mom didn't think she'd be able to make it through that part.
My father isn't invited. Haven't decided yet who will walk me down the aisle. It will either be one of my uncles or a close male friend.
For what it's worth, I am anti-giving away of the bride because she's an adult responsible for herself, but having an escort down the aisle in no way whatsoever is the same as being given away, even though countless people believe it is. Not everyone is comfortable walking by themselves, no matter how independent they are otherwise.
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