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    beachwedding92509    09/25/2009   Southwest Michigan

    I am six weeks out from the wedding and I'm losing my mind. I'm quite sure of it. We still have so many details to hammer out and issues to resolve and I don't have the energy to think about the wedding anymore. There have been so many last minute changes--people dropping out of the wedding, our vendors dropping out (I lost my stylist and wedding consultant) that I just wonder if this is a sign of worse things to come. Our living room is filled with boxes of wedding decorations and we don't have anywhere else to put them. I am terrified that my vision for the wedding will flop and things won't come together. I need a cocktail and a Xanax!

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    Try just the cocktail and avoid mixing it with Xanax for now - We're six weeks out too, but instead of wedding decorations filling the living room, it's moving boxes. We're moving to Europe one week after our elopement and the volume of clutter is beginning to drive me batty. There's absolutely nothing I can do about it since we have to pack and we can't move the boxes until we move... so we live with the boxes. I imagine it's pretty much the same with wedding decorations, but prettier than cardboard. And I know this isn't much comfort, but I also worry that our wedding won't come together and it's an elopement!

     
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    FutureMrsD    August 4, 2010   Vancouver, BC, Canada

    I think this is a fairly normal feeling. It must have been stressful losing your coordinator - can you find someone else? Just take a deep breath and remember that you've been working hard on this and it would be a shame to allow yourself to compromise on things that were at one point very important to you. Think about what you were doing 6 weeks ago... it doesn't seem very long ago, does it? In that same amount of time you'll be joining yourself to the man of your dreams and setting off on your life together - and isn't that the whole point!? I hope you have a really great day - I know that everything will come together for you.

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    psst, FutureMrsD, beachwedding will be marrying the woman of her dreams :-)

     

     
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    shnoogles    Sept 26, 2009   Toronto

    beachwedding, my wedding is the day after yours and I know how you feel! Besides the wedding, I have my x-ray technologist licensing exam in mid-September, and I'm having to apply for my first real out-of-school job! It's just too many life changes at once. I'm so stressed out that it feels like I have permanent PMS!

    I try to remember that "this too, shall pass." Before we know it, our wedding days will be here and we'll want to relax and absorb as many memories as we can. Getting lots of sleep, exercise and a balanced diet helps, too. It makes me feel better knowing that there are other brides out there feeling the same way. Thanks for sharing!

     
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    Br1tSh1n1ngStar    10/17/09   New Jersey

    Ahhh i have even a little more time than all of you and it's hitting so hard. What is this some kind of sick joke that they tell you to plan a wedding, pack and move, and learn to live with someone new all in a matter of months!!!

    Hang in there, hopefully stay calm enough to enjoy the "experience" or that's what people tell me anyway.

    Thanks for posting your stress, we can def relate.

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    ((HUGS)) everything will be just fine. have you tried to find another wedding coordinator yet? i definitely think that this would relieve a lot of your stress. does your previous coordinator have any recommendations?  where are you getting married? i may  have contacts in the area you're going to (i'm an event designer/wedding planner)

     
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    loveardently    July 19, 2008   Dallas, TX

    I didn't have a wedding coordinator on my wedding last year, so I can totally remember those few weeks before the wedding when I felt like losing my mind! I felt so nervous everytime I remembered anything about the wedding. Having a coordinator would totally shed some burdens off of your shoulder. If I can relive my wedding day again, I would totally hire a coordinator! :)

    However, whatever will happen at your wedding, it IS going to be the best day of your life INDEED! We didn't have a perfect wedding. Most guests were late. Ceremony ended earlier than it supposed to be so guests had to wait for the Catering to arrive at reception. And lots of other messed up things. But all in all, I loved every minute of our wedding and wouldn't trade it for anything :)

    Hope it comforts you a little bit!

     
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    kayakgirl73    October 31, 2009   Virginia, (wedding in WV)

    I think this might be a common feeling. I have bouts of being overwhelmed with wedding stuff, selling my condo and trying to move. ack.

     
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    Lorienne    January 1, 2016   Los Angeles, CA

    List and delegate!  Also, give yourself an entire day off wedding stuff, if you can - you will come back to your wedding day tasks feeling refreshed and ready to take it all on.   

    Also, try not to sweat the small stuff.   I've heard so many brides say, "I worried to death about X and it didn't work out anyway -- and it didn't even matter!"   

     

    You will be fine and your wedding will be awesome!  Can't wait to hear all about it an see your pics!  Smile

     
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    Fieryspirit    3 October 2009   South Africa

    I'm getting married the weekend after you and believe me, I completely understand how you feel. My family could not really help me with anything because they are so far away, so it was up to me and C to do everything. My list get longer and time seems to dissapear without anybody noticing! Some days I feel calm and happy with what we did, other days I feel anxious, wondering if everything will turn okay, if it will look stupid or maybe overdone.....Idon't know, it seems there's a million things going through my mind at the same time! To top it all, the lady making my dress has not even started yet, but it is such a gorgous dress, a little different than most you see nowadays but exactly what I want! Keep your chin up, smile and tell yourself EVERYTHING WILL BE PERFECT! Good luck!

     

     

     
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    tag117    August 29, 2009  

    Wait until you are 11 days out. I thought I was going under pressure 2, 3 months ago, but now... I'm taking Excedrin PM to go to bed! I'm so excited, but there are so many last minute things that come up or that you have forgotten about in the 10 months of wedding planning. Good luck ladies!

     
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    northernazbride    August 1, 2009   Arizona

    Totally normal. I found that throughout the whole wedding planning process, right up to and including the day of the wedding, things were falling apart and then coming back together again. It's an emotional roller coaster and it's so normal to feel everything you are feeling. Just remember- things will work out the way that they are supposed to and that it will all come together one way or another in the end. The most important thing is that you are marrying your best friend. I can't tell you how awesome I feel now that the wedding if finally over. It's like this huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Hang in there lady!!

     
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    hcritton    09/06/09   Seattle, WA

    I am majoring freaking with 19 days to go. My FI's ENORMOUS family has been visiting from out of state for the last week and a half to celebrate his grandma & grandpa's 60 wedding anniversary so every evening is jammed packed with family fun. The problem is, I've gotten nothing done lately for the wedding. All my projects are just sitting there waiting for me but I've got no time! I know everything is going to come together just in the nick of time so hang in there and know you're not alone! :)

     
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    fizicsGirl    8/1/2009   Michigan

    I was a wreck 6 weeks out...but things calmed considerably in the last few weeks.  Well not in my life, looking back, it's insane all the things that happened during those last 3-4 weeks.  But at some point I just said, "I'm getting married, the rest will happen or not, who cares?"  And guess what?  Some of the rest of the details went beautifully, some of them did not...we even had one near disaster.  And in the end, we got married and that's mostly what I remember :)

    The stress and axiety are normal...but no matter what, you will get married.  In a way, the transition from stressing to "I'm married" makes the second part more exciting :)  I guess that's why we do this to ourselves (or at least what I'm telling myself).

     
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    beachwedding92509    09/25/2009   Southwest Michigan

    Just as an update, I am feeling much better now. I ordered the last of our decorations and now the only thing left on our "To-Do" list is to order the tuxes and have my alterations done. I spent a ridiculous amount of money yesterday ordering what we needed, which usually would make me a little nauseous because I hate spending money (LOL), but I am so glad to have all of the big things taken care of. I've been so stressed I actually have gained weight despite eating healthy and working out 3-4 times a week. This madness has got to stop.

     

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