Post # 1
I am six weeks out from the wedding and I’m losing my mind. I’m quite sure of it. We still have so many details to hammer out and issues to resolve and I don’t have the energy to think about the wedding anymore. There have been so many last minute changes–people dropping out of the wedding, our vendors dropping out (I lost my stylist and wedding consultant) that I just wonder if this is a sign of worse things to come. Our living room is filled with boxes of wedding decorations and we don’t have anywhere else to put them. I am terrified that my vision for the wedding will flop and things won’t come together. I need a cocktail and a Xanax!
Post # 3
Try just the cocktail and avoid mixing it with Xanax for now – We’re six weeks out too, but instead of wedding decorations filling the living room, it’s moving boxes. We’re moving to Europe one week after our elopement and the volume of clutter is beginning to drive me batty. There’s absolutely nothing I can do about it since we have to pack and we can’t move the boxes until we move… so we live with the boxes. I imagine it’s pretty much the same with wedding decorations, but prettier than cardboard. And I know this isn’t much comfort, but I also worry that our wedding won’t come together and it’s an elopement!
Post # 4
I think this is a fairly normal feeling. It must have been stressful losing your coordinator – can you find someone else? Just take a deep breath and remember that you’ve been working hard on this and it would be a shame to allow yourself to compromise on things that were at one point very important to you. Think about what you were doing 6 weeks ago… it doesn’t seem very long ago, does it? In that same amount of time you’ll be joining yourself to the man of your dreams and setting off on your life together – and isn’t that the whole point!? I hope you have a really great day – I know that everything will come together for you.
Post # 5
psst, FutureMrsD, beachwedding will be marrying the woman of her dreams 🙂
Post # 6
beachwedding, my wedding is the day after yours and I know how you feel! Besides the wedding, I have my x-ray technologist licensing exam in mid-September, and I’m having to apply for my first real out-of-school job! It’s just too many life changes at once. I’m so stressed out that it feels like I have permanent PMS!
I try to remember that “this too, shall pass.” Before we know it, our wedding days will be here and we’ll want to relax and absorb as many memories as we can. Getting lots of sleep, exercise and a balanced diet helps, too. It makes me feel better knowing that there are other brides out there feeling the same way. Thanks for sharing!
Post # 7
Ahhh i have even a little more time than all of you and it’s hitting so hard. What is this some kind of sick joke that they tell you to plan a wedding, pack and move, and learn to live with someone new all in a matter of months!!!
Hang in there, hopefully stay calm enough to enjoy the “experience” or that’s what people tell me anyway.
Thanks for posting your stress, we can def relate.
Post # 8
((HUGS)) everything will be just fine. have you tried to find another wedding coordinator yet? i definitely think that this would relieve a lot of your stress. does your previous coordinator have any recommendations? where are you getting married? i may have contacts in the area you’re going to (i’m an event designer/wedding planner)
Post # 9
I didn’t have a wedding coordinator on my wedding last year, so I can totally remember those few weeks before the wedding when I felt like losing my mind! I felt so nervous everytime I remembered anything about the wedding. Having a coordinator would totally shed some burdens off of your shoulder. If I can relive my wedding day again, I would totally hire a coordinator! 🙂
However, whatever will happen at your wedding, it IS going to be the best day of your life INDEED! We didn’t have a perfect wedding. Most guests were late. Ceremony ended earlier than it supposed to be so guests had to wait for the Catering to arrive at reception. And lots of other messed up things. But all in all, I loved every minute of our wedding and wouldn’t trade it for anything 🙂
Hope it comforts you a little bit!
Post # 10
I think this might be a common feeling. I have bouts of being overwhelmed with wedding stuff, selling my condo and trying to move. ack.
Post # 11
List and delegate! Also, give yourself an entire day off wedding stuff, if you can – you will come back to your wedding day tasks feeling refreshed and ready to take it all on.
Also, try not to sweat the small stuff. I’ve heard so many brides say, “I worried to death about X and it didn’t work out anyway — and it didn’t even matter!”
You will be fine and your wedding will be awesome! Can’t wait to hear all about it an see your pics!
Post # 12
I’m getting married the weekend after you and believe me, I completely understand how you feel. My family could not really help me with anything because they are so far away, so it was up to me and C to do everything. My list get longer and time seems to dissapear without anybody noticing! Some days I feel calm and happy with what we did, other days I feel anxious, wondering if everything will turn okay, if it will look stupid or maybe overdone…..Idon’t know, it seems there’s a million things going through my mind at the same time! To top it all, the lady making my dress has not even started yet, but it is such a gorgous dress, a little different than most you see nowadays but exactly what I want! Keep your chin up, smile and tell yourself EVERYTHING WILL BE PERFECT! Good luck!
Post # 13
Wait until you are 11 days out. I thought I was going under pressure 2, 3 months ago, but now… I’m taking Excedrin PM to go to bed! I’m so excited, but there are so many last minute things that come up or that you have forgotten about in the 10 months of wedding planning. Good luck ladies!
Post # 14
Totally normal. I found that throughout the whole wedding planning process, right up to and including the day of the wedding, things were falling apart and then coming back together again. It’s an emotional roller coaster and it’s so normal to feel everything you are feeling. Just remember- things will work out the way that they are supposed to and that it will all come together one way or another in the end. The most important thing is that you are marrying your best friend. I can’t tell you how awesome I feel now that the wedding if finally over. It’s like this huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Hang in there lady!!
Post # 15
I am majoring freaking with 19 days to go. My FI’s ENORMOUS family has been visiting from out of state for the last week and a half to celebrate his grandma & grandpa’s 60 wedding anniversary so every evening is jammed packed with family fun. The problem is, I’ve gotten nothing done lately for the wedding. All my projects are just sitting there waiting for me but I’ve got no time! I know everything is going to come together just in the nick of time so hang in there and know you’re not alone! 🙂
Post # 16
I was a wreck 6 weeks out…but things calmed considerably in the last few weeks. Well not in my life, looking back, it’s insane all the things that happened during those last 3-4 weeks. But at some point I just said, “I’m getting married, the rest will happen or not, who cares?” And guess what? Some of the rest of the details went beautifully, some of them did not…we even had one near disaster. And in the end, we got married and that’s mostly what I remember 🙂
The stress and axiety are normal…but no matter what, you will get married. In a way, the transition from stressing to “I’m married” makes the second part more exciting 🙂 I guess that’s why we do this to ourselves (or at least what I’m telling myself).