Post # 1
Hi guys! When my FI and I first got engaged I was only 19 and in my first year of University (UK poster here), but since then I transferred, took a year out and have just finished my first year at my new University. We only set a date earlier this year for March 2016 and it has just occured to me that not only will I have to skip a week of classes to even attend my own wedding, but the date is pretty much exactly when my dissertation will be due. Yikes! So I’m just looking for anyone else who balanced studying/a working life/wedding planning so I know it’s not impossible.
Post # 2
We started planning in October of last year, our wedding is in 2 months. I have been in school the whole time (start up again next week). It is not impossible, and I have 2 young children. Our wedding falls the week after midterms, too. I am a little distracted, but at the end of the day I know my education will benefit our marriage so it is still a top priority. You can do it. I am only taking one day off from school and we are postponing a honeymoon. I think it is completely worth it. It may feel a little overwhelming, but you will find your balance. Or, you could consider setting a date during a break (if you have one).
Post # 3
I recently took my boards, and the wedding planning definitely slowed/halted the last few weeks prior to the test. Fortunately, we’re getting married next year, so it wasn’t really a big deal. When we picked the wedding date, we did consider when my FI’s and sister’s final exams would be. I have a feeling having the wedding be so close to the dissertation and maybe other exams could be difficult, but if you have a particular reason for picking that date, I suppose you could still make it work.
Post # 4
I also got engaged at 19 but was in my second of three years of university. I took 18-19 credits a semester to graduate a year early. planning wasn’t too bad even being hundreds or miles for DH and where the wedding was, but we had a 19 month engagement. I was also working every spare hour I had in addition to clinicals. We got married three works after graduation from undergrad and one week after starting grad school. I missed a week of grad school but it was early in the summer semester so it wasn’t too bad. Time management is key but it’s totally doable. Just don’t sweat the small stuff or let planning one day get in the way of studying for what you’ll do the rest of your life! That’s more important
Post # 5
I’m currently in grad school and planning! The wedding will be in between summer and fall semester though so I won’t have to miss any school. FI is also in grad school so it works out well for both of us.
Post # 6
Yes but I picked my wedding date based on mid year holidays. It’s also in winter so it won’t be busy. I did this so all my friends studying could also make it.
Post # 7
Not engaged, yet (soon!), but I will be planning a wedding while in a Ph.D. program. I’m just starting my 3rd of 5 years, and so far I hope to have the wedding next September. It makes most sense since I’ll be pretty low key yet this year, just trying to get my research together for conferences and I’m only TAing and taking a single class Spring semester…. Then one small key milestone.
But if we wait any longer than next September, I’ll have to worry about planning a wedding while doing last-minute (panic) research for conferences, travelling across the country for the conferences, travelling out of the country for field work for 3-6 weeks, and likely spending a week or two at another conference less than a month before our wedding (I really want a September wedding).
I think I’m most worried what my advisor will say about me having a wedding… at all… in graduate school. I’m in the sciences, so our advisors are like our bosses (sort of…)
Post # 8
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I got engaged when I was 21 about 3 months before I graduated from my university. I have taken a year off and im now going back for my teaching credential and my masters. I will get married about a month and a half before my student teaching begins. Im feeling worried about going to school and working and planning a wedding but I feel I can do it..with a lot of stress but its doable.
Post # 9
Yes, I’m a perpetual student.. we got engaged over Christmas and I’ve been in school all year but I am taking the next semester off to tie up loose ends for my November wedding and for the honeymoon. I also work full time and am planning this shindig by myself, it can be rough sometimes, but its doable! I have my last final in an hr! Good Luck
Post # 10
Studying for the biggest test in my life MCATs. I am also finishing my three degrees and will God willing be applying to med school next year. Our wedding is for 05/13/2016 and I will be starting med school literally a month later. Honestly between school and planning this wedding I am always busy. We cant even do engagment pictures until my winter break.
Fortunately for me my fi isn’t currently in school he has a biomedical engineering degree. But he is considering going to law school and will be applying next year… Grr. He will also be working full time as a regional supervisor for his biomedical company. So he won’t be any help for this wedding.
I am just trying to stay on top of things.
Post # 11
CarlyPalmer: I was in my last semester of school when my FI proposed. He proposed on March 17th and we had almost two more months of school. It was my senior year of college and I had three huge final projects to do while planning the big parts of the wedding. It all worked out though. 🙂
Post # 12
MrsClumsy: Wow, that’s so impressive, AND you have kids! I hope the next few months run smoothly for you. Unfortunately the day was already booked before I realised but its the week of Good Friday so there’s a strong chance my University will be on holiday that week, so fingers crossed.
craigslistgirl: It’s definitely going to be difficult so I just have to hope that I can be really on top of things and get my disstertation in early. It’s probably easier said than done though.
MrsN14: It’s nice to meet someone else who got engaged at 19 🙂 I’m definitely going to prioritise my Uni work, I’ll just have to delegate tasks and trust that my friends and family can get things done. I’m a total control freak so it’s going to be strange not being 100% in charge.
prettyinpink11: That’s handy 🙂 My FI just graduated this year but he’s putting off doing a PGCE (an extra year long course that qualifies you to teach) until after the wedding so he can work in the meantime to help with money.
crystal.rae.96: Oh wow, so you’re in your final right now? Good luck! 🙂
Etassy: I suddenly feel like I have it easy after reading all of that, you sound like a champion! My FI did biomedical science too 🙂 he’s just started the job hunt though. You should definitely lean on your MOH and bridesmaids for help, it sounds like your planning is going to be hectic.
MissPhish: That’s so sweet 🙂 I love hearing about young couples who met in school and college.
It really is nice to know I’m not alone in this. A lot of your situations sound similar to mine (not honeymooning until later in the year etc), I’m just hoping it’ll all work out in the end.
Post # 13
CarlyPalmer: I don’t know if I’d call us a young couple. We are both 27. We didn’t meet in school. We met as he was going back to school and I had just started back up. We both graduated from community college and transfered to the same four year university. 🙂
Post # 14
I work 40 – 50 hrs a week, take 1 grad class per semester, and am planning the wedding. I think the key is to get an idea for the wedding, decide to go with it and stick with it. Wedding planning takes up so much more time when you are going back and forth about little details. Frankly, the wedding planning is on the bottom of my list. For me my priorities lie with a job I love, my relationship with FI, furthing my education, and spending time with friends and family…wedding planning just happens when I have bits of time or when I need a distraction from the other areas of my life.
Post # 15
yes. i’m getting married next december (2015) so i can finish my master’s before then. so far, i haven’t done much planning except book the venue&church. but i’m assuming next year it’ll be wayyyy more hectic… i’m bracing myself haha.