Post # 1
When a friend of mine learned that I was hoping to be engaged soon, she said, “don’t get diamonds” and gave me a lot of valid reasons for her position. Another friend of mine also doesn’t want a diamond in her ring.
I decided against a diamond e-ring as well for various reasons, but this post is NOT to go into a debate over what’s best. (Note: I may get a diamond eternity wedding band – likely Canadian diamonds or more ‘ethically sourced’ ones – I know, there’s lots to consider.)
Do any of you know anyone who’s against diamonds?
If you have a diamond or a stone that looks like one (e.g. moissanite, CZ, sapphire etc.), do they shun you for it?
Just wondering 🙂
Post # 3
Yes, I know people who refuse to support the diamond trade, whether it be for uncertainty in the reliability of the Kimberley Process, or just frustration with DeBeer’s monopoly on diamond prices. Also for some it’s more appealing to have a rare gem rather than a diamond, which most people own and are not rare unless we’re talking massive size and perfect color/clarity. I myself would only buy a diamond if it was an antique. I love the older cuts!
ETA: I should add that yes, these are real life opinions, not internet ones, but I’m kind of a curmudgeon anyway so maybe I just attract other curmudgeons? 😉
Post # 4
I don’t know anyone in real life who is against diamonds. I’ve only seen this sentiment on the internet.
Post # 5
My mom is. But let me explain. She thinks they are beautiful and has nothing against the trade, product, cost, etc. She’s just super low maintenance and (her words) “doesn’t understand why someone would want some big stone on their finger banging into things.” This doesn’t mean she’s against large diamonds. She’s against anything other than just plain gold bands. 🙂 And she’s old fashioned and isn’t spun up on alternative stones/gems and thinks the only stone that goes on a ring is a diamond.
Long story short, she’s functionally against them. But she can appreciate them on other people. 🙂 It’s cute.
Post # 6
I love the way diamonds look and think they are beautiful stones. If I was given a diamond that was passed down, I probably would accept it without a problem. However, I just can’t bring myself to ever purchase one. I have a few environmental causes I’m fairly passionate about. I do my best to recycle and compost, not purchase factory farmed meat, and use less energy to name a few. Somehow a while ago, diamonds got added onto the list and I vowed not to contribute to the diamond trade as some of the common practices interfere with my attempts toward a more “green” lifestyle. Sometimes I wish I could have a diamond but I made a promise to myself never to own one. I’ll be getting an Amora instead – it fits more with my hippie ways 🙂
Post # 7
I probably do know people that are against diamonds…but they’re either not outspoken enough about it, or the topic has just never come up. I don’t have a real diamond, but hardly anyone knows that, and I’m perfectly happy to keep it that way! 😀
Post # 8
I voted no but then I remember my friend’s husband is. They actually got into a fight about it because she thought that he main argument was primarily about the unnecessary cost of a diamond ring and so she went out and found a diamond ring that (she thought) was inexpensive. Then when she showed him he got all angry.
In the end her wedding set actually ended up being far more expensive than what she’d initially chosen, so I guess he really was just against the diamonds! lol. Although both her e-ring and wedding band were diamond eternity so I guess he wasn’t totally against them but more just against a diamond center stone. She got a beautiful yellow sapphire instead.
Post # 9
I’m a bit against diamonds, but only for me, and only when they’re the only stone. I just find them a little boring when there’s no colour in there. I think they make awesome accents though, and I would never judge somebody else for liking them.
Post # 10
I think diamonds are beautiful, but I can understand why someone would choose not to support them. Personally, I can’t understand why people spend the money they do on diamonds (or anything else) when there are those who go to sleep hungry and cold every night. My fiance bought me a diamond e-ring and I hardly wear it. I picked out my own wedding band from James Avery and I can’t wait to wear it every day. To me the e-ring just wasn’t me. I’m a simple girl.
Post # 11
I was hesitant about buying diamonds and prob would have bought a Polar Bear diamond, but once I saw how awesome CZ’s are, it just didn’t seem worth it.
I have a CZ and most people could care less. The one friend who I think secretly talked badly about it behind my back can suck it. She spent years (and I meand YEARS) paying hers off and it looks the same as mine. My family is Japanese and very snobby about appearances and they didn’t know it was a CZ and would have pointed it out to me if they knew. But all they did was ohh and aww over it. (I’m pretty open about the fact that its a CZ, except my Mom’s friends and family. They are pretty snobby and would look down on my Mom.)
Post # 12
I’m not and I don’t know anyone who is. It might be a bigger issue in America. Fair enough if people choose not to buy them though.
Post # 13
i love my diamonds, all sparkly and pretty and i didnt ask where they were from, just their quality and value. i would be super upset/embarrassed if my then Fiance gave me a moissanite/cz stone (speaking for my own feelings here). i do like a lot of the gem stone rings – so pretty and so many choices
Post # 14
I’m a bit against diamonds. I’d definitely prefer not to have them. But I’m also not going to make demands of my SO on what he should or shouldn’t buy me. He knows my preferences, so we’ll just see what kind of ring I end up with when the time comes. 🙂
Post # 15
Nope. I doubt any of my friends or family would know why some people are against diamonds! I mean, they think I’m practically a tree hugging hippy just for being vegetarian (not that there’s anything wrong with hippys) As for the rights and wrongs of the diamond trade, yeah I doubt it keeps them awake at night!
Post # 16
I am not against diamonds, but they just don’t do anything for me. I have a very nice diamond my Fiance bought for me because he is traditional and that is what he wanted to do.
He’s had to get over the fact that on a daily basis I only wear my $5 2mm titanium band I bought off of amazon.com. As someone else stated…I’m a simple girl too!!