Post # 1
My FI doesn’t care about most of the details of our wedding and so I’m taking care of the bulk of the planning. He chips in here or there when I ask but most of the legwork is on my end. So I told him he should plan the honeymoon since I’m planning the wedding and he agreed. Someone asked me today if it was going to be a surprise and I hadn’t considered that but thought it was actually a pretty cool idea, show up at the airport with no idea where we’re going and find out at the terminal. Anyone out there do that? Or if it sounds like the stupidest idea ever let me know that too!
Post # 3
@jennmariee: I understand where you are coming from. I actually considered doing the same thing but my fiancé wasn’t comfortable with the idea. He was concerned that whatever he chose may not be what I wanted and he wanted us both to have the honeymoon of our dreams. I guess that is the risk you take. I liked the idea of being spoiled and surprised and not having to make any choices (after all the wedding planning) but in the end we decided to pick our honeymoon together. In my opinion it’s romantic to have your fiancé do that for you – but it does have risks!
Post # 4
We’re going to book our honeymoon, if we end up being able to afford it, last minute, so we don’t even know where we’re going!
But, it’s funny, because I am big on surprises. The proposal was a surprise, and for her 21st I took her to Las Vegas as a complete surprise – she thought we were just going out to drink. For the honeymoon, though, I didn’t want it to be a surprise for her; I really wanted to make sure we did something she wanted, and that she had input in planning it. It’s ironic, because I’m such a surprise type of guy, and the honeymoon is traditionally just planned by the groom as, more or less, a surprise. But, we decided together to have this random honeymoon adventure.
Post # 5
@jennmariee: …as long as he doesn’t take you to Duluth….should be fine.
Post # 6
I would totally do it if my DH was actually capable of planning a whole vacation on his own, lol. I think a surprise would be fun, although I might maybe set some general guidelines (like beach, no beach, relaxation versus lots of activities, etc).
Post # 7
@Nona99: Hey Duluth has a great Irish pub, and a great brewpub, and … no wwait that’s it.
Post # 8
Fi is planning our honeymoon. I don’t even know when we are having it because FI has classes the week after the wedding. I am sure I will get him to tell me before we actually go, although maybe I should tell him to just surprise me! I know he is thinking southern France.
Post # 9
@jennmariee: It could definitely be fun! We won’t be taking that route, because we have family obligations (yes, on the honeymoon) and need to both be aware of what’s going on/which dates. We may actually attend another couple’s wedding during our honeymoon…
A friend of mine didn’t know until day of. She absolutely loved it!! Her wedding was a destination affair in Italy and their honeymoon, it turned out, was a rental car and driving around the Italian countryside with her new husband (who happens to speak fluent Italian). She was so thrilled when they got home. Her experience definitely sold me on the idea.
Post # 10
@Duncan: …wow….they bumped it up a notch then…good for Duluth
Post # 11
@jennmariee: Traditionally the groom’s family pays for the honeymoon. In my case, my FI paid for it with the help of his host mom. It’s all a surprise. I had to pick the location but he set up all of the accomodations – hotel, flight, activities, dinner reservations. All I have to do is pack. I love the idea of not worrying about the details of that too. The wedding gives you enough to think about.
Post # 12
I think it would be really sweet for him to surprise you with the honeymoon. My BIL did that for my sister. When they got to the airport to leave he gave her a charm bracelet with charms that represented each place they were going to visit. She loved it! I think the surprise would be fun!
Post # 13
FI surprised me with a honeymoon to the Galapagos Islands. Let him do it… he may blow u away!
Post # 14
In concept, I think it’s a wonderful and exciting idea to have your groom surprise you with the honeymoon! In the spirit of full disclosure, however, I must confess to having been a bit of a complete and total control freak when it came to my honeymoon, so this would have never worked for me for that particular trip. 🙂
Post # 15
@Nona99: Haha aww poor Deluth.
We’ve talked about it briefly and Europe and New Zealand are the two we’re considering. I’m not picky about it and don’t have any specifics in mind but you’re all right, that wouldn’t be fair to him to make him choose if I thought I’d be disappointed or upset if he didn’t magically conjure up the honeymoon I was secretly hoping for. What I’m really hoping for is to not have to do any work for it because I’ve been investing a lot of time in this other thing I’ve been planning…I bet I’m the only one feeling that way 😉
Post # 16
@jennmariee: ….don’t feel bad for that place, seriously. And honestly, there’s nothing wrong with it, but not for a honeymoon.