(Closed) Is Blood Thicker than Water?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should familial relationships be prioritized over friendships?
    Yes : (27 votes)
    35 %
    No : (38 votes)
    49 %
    Other : (12 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Blood is thicker than water, but sometimes you lose blood. Get it? I think family is always thicker than friendships, but not all family, and sometimes family can leave your life just the same as a friendship. 

    Post # 4
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    “The family you choose is always better than the family you were born with.”

    I agree. I have a close friend that I would choose over most of my family any day. I’m not close to that side and rarley see them.

    Post # 5
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    there is no such thing as a definitive answer. for me, blood is thicker than water but if I had the family from hell then I’d likely have a different answer not to mention if my family dissapproved of my husband, I would have took off and married him anyways… so in that sense “the water would be thicker than blood”

    Post # 6
    717 posts
    Busy bee

    it’s an interesting topic.  you really can’t choose your blood-family so you’re stuck with them: good, bad, everything.  there’s family and then there are people you are just related to, something I learned the hard way.  with friends, you choose to have them in your life, like your mom says, and that’s such a special bond.

    Post # 8
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Family is not necessarily “forever.” After my grandparents died, I lost complete contact with most of my cousins- only one out of thirteen was invited to our wedding. Why should someone I haven’t seen or talked to in five years trump a friend?

    Post # 9
    1750 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @beeks: My family is very close. I have a few true friends but my family does come first.

    Post # 10
    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Tough question, and it depends on the circumstance.  My immediate thought was of my relationship with my sister.  We have had ups and downs, from being best friends, to hardly speaking for months.  If she had been just a friend, we wouldn’t be friends anymore.  But I do think in some cases blood is thicker than water in the sense that you can forgive and get past a lot more with family than with friends.  Even if the relationships are sometimes strained, I think you work harder to make them last.  At least that’s been my experience.

    Post # 11
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I really think that depends on your family. For my family, I’d say yes. But I’m very, very close with my family. Lots of people have crappy families or just never were close with them, so I could see how they would say no.

    Post # 12
    2254 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I love my family, but there are some individuals I would never speak to if not for the fact they are family. In my case, I do cherish my friendship with certain people more than those of some of my family.

    Post # 13
    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

     “The family you choose is always better than the family you were born with.”

    I agree with this 100%.  I’m far closer to my best friend then my blood sister.   

    Post # 14
    2966 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @beeks:  It’s tough to give a definitive answer, however when it comes to my parents – they will always be forever. Anything beyond that, like cousins and whatnot, is all dependent on the situations. Life gets in the way sometime.

    When it comes to life partners, if my parents absolutely hated the man I picked, I would simply break it off. I completely trust their judgement and would not want that kind of tension in the family. Luckily that is far from the case. 

    I was taught to always be nice to family. You never know when you will need them and I strongly believe in keeping ‘blood’ close; no matter how much they annoy you. 

    Overall, I think my answer is “yes”. I’m also an only child and come from Eastern Europe – where family is above all. 


    Post # 15
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    I voted other as I really think it depends on the family and their individual relationships. For me, I would absolutely say blood is thicker than water. Many of my family members are my closest friends and confidants. They know me in ways no friends ever could. To go against what a PP just said… I am far closer to my brother than my best friend.

    On the other hand, a dear friend of mine has been treated horribly by her family and recently told me that her friends are her only family now.

    Post # 16
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    As others have said, it really depends on the circumstances. I’m very close with my family (even my “distant” cousins), so I can’t imagine cutting them out of my life. If they were somehow toxic or really damaging to my own life, I would probably limit my interactions with them, but try to keep things civil for the sake of the rest of the family.

    I only have a handful of close friends (I’m inviting about 13 friends to the wedding to fiance’s 37 friends), and I tend to interact with them on the same level as my family. I’m very close to them, I talk with them as often as possible, etc. In my family, someone that has been a friend long enough is basically family (I grew up thinking some people were my cousins – they were my dad’s neighbours when he was a child!).

    If it came to someone asking me to prioritise a family relationship over a friendship, or vice-versa, then I’d have to weigh it up pretty carefully. Chances are the family would win out, though, just because some of them live so far away.

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