is BM dress cost worth it?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We were looking at non bridal stores, but we couldnt find any dresses below $175 that worked. It didn’t help that dh was wearing a kilt with a weird shade of blue, or that we didn’t have much time. But for the most part we couldn’t even find anywhere where we could get enough of the dresses besides bridal stores!

Post # 3
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

its hard finding a dress off the rack that has all the sizes of the girls you would need

Post # 4
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2455 posts
Buzzing bee

chica95110:  I’m probably not much help because I’m not having a bridal party (making people buy a useless dress is one of the reasons).

But AS a bridesmaid, I kind of expect a dress to cost between 100-200 and that sucks but it’s just *normal*. I have never worn the dresses again no matter how much everyone says “They can wear these again!”…bleh

Post # 5
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571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

chica95110:  I agree, making your BMs spend that kind of money on a dress that can only be worn once is ridiculous. So we got our BM dresses from Nordstrom. They weren’t cheaper than BM catalog dresses, but can (and have already) been worn again. If you’re going to buy from a store like Nordstrom, look early in the season and order as soon as possible because the sizes will sell out. Nordstrom has a great return policy so I ended up ordering 8 dresses for 5 BMs because we weren’t sure about sizes, and just returned the extras.

 

Post # 7
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11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

chica95110:  Is it worth it to the BMs? No, not at all. They are buying dresses that they most likely will never wear again. Is it worth it to the bride? Most likely. Is $200 a reasonable price for a BM dress? I think so.

In the end you are paying for a dress to be part of a special occasion. When agreeing to be a BM one must know that there are expenses involved. The cost of the dress isn’t really “worth it” persay but the overall experience is usually worth it in the end. I wouldn’t worry too much if you are planning to keep your dress price at $200 or below. It’s when they get to the $400-500 mark that I roll my eyes a little.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I think that agreeing to be a bridesmaid is agreeing to spend up to $200 on a dress you don’t really like that you will never wear again. It just kind of comes with the territory. Even my friends who have tried so hard to have us get dresses we liked. There was one in particular that I loved but I really couldn’t shorten it and how often do I go to formal affairs? umm never.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

As a different perspective, I just want to say that as a guest to a wedding, or to other events, I have often bought a dress upwards of $200 that I have never worn again lol.  I don’t think it’s too big an ask. Something more expensive however would need to be negotiated I think.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ve stood in 2 weddings and am standing in a third this summer.  All of the dresses were about $200.  The first one was floor length and I never wore it again.  The second was a green knee length Alfred Sung that I’ve actually worn several times since.  Its an awesome dress.  The third is a black Alfred Angelo cocktail style dress that I figure I’ll also wear again.  I’ve been pretty lucky.

Post # 14
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1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Well I asked my bms what their budget was. However, I was lucky. I only had two and I was already in each of their bridal parties. For those dresses, I paid between 130 and 150. Neither gave me a budget and I fell in love with a few styles of dresses around $200. We went to a store that sold them for $190 and also found them online for $150. (My sister got it online, my best friend preferred the store).

Will they wear them again? Probably not. But I never wore the dresses for their weddings again. I also gave them $100 visa gift cards before we bought the dresses as their main bridesmaids gifts. So if they wanted to put it toward the dress they could have. 

All that being said, I only asked my sister and my best friend to be in my bridal party because I didn’t want people that I wasn’t as close to spending all this money on me. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Look here is the thing – there are no nice bridesmaids dresses under $200. I realize this is just my personal opinoin, but that is how I feel. I tried to find one – it does not exist. I tried to find a cool off the rack dress, but it is nearly impossible to find a wedding appropriate one that will look good on everyone, especially since, unless you are willing to wait until the last minute to get the dresses, you are usually shopping during the wrong season.

Being a bridesmaids is OPTIONAL. Of course if I had a friend who really couldn’t afford a dress, I wouldn’t just like kick her out, I would offer to pay for it. But the vitrol bees seem to feel about brides “forcing” their friends to buy something expensive they will only wear once is way overblown. It’s one of your best friends weddings. If you can afford it, just buy the damn dress and don’t complain. If you can’t afford it, tell the bride and work out a solution. its not that hard.

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