Is Cake Necessary?

posted 3 years ago in Food
  • poll: Is Having A Wedding Cake Important?
    Yes : (52 votes)
    50 %
    No : (46 votes)
    44 %
    Other (Explain Below) : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2145 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ve heard of people going with pie instead…but I kind of expect cake when I go to a wedding. You could always get a sheet cake; you could get a small fancy wedding cake and then a sheet cake to serve the guests, or forgo the small fancy cake and just do the sheet cake. I wouldn’t judge you. But I’d still expect cake.

    Post # 4
    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had cupcakes instead.  We like different flavors of cake, and did not care about doing the cake cutting thing at all.  I wanted something delicious.  

    Post # 5
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I don’t think it necessarily needs to be cake, but it would be odd to not have dessert.

    Post # 6
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @HopefulSim:  I don’t think having a big fancy traditional cake matters as long as you provide an alternative, like cupcakes or pie or a sheet cake. I’d think it was a little odd and disappointing if there was no cake or cake alternative at a wedding. 

    Post # 7
    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    nothing at your wedding is “necessary” unless you want it to be!  That being said, I’d be bummed if there wasn’t some cake/cupcakes or some sort of dessert after dinner!  But, I also hae ea bigger sweet tooth than most 😉

    Post # 9
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Wedding Cake is traditional, but not required or essential.

    And lots of Brides now opt for something else… Cupcakes, Dessert Buffet etc.

    Personally, I couldn’t imagine my own Wedding Celebration without Cake… but that is because I see all Celebrations in life a chance “to eat cake” (Birthdays – Weddings – Christening – Anniversaries etc)

    There are certainly ways to save money.

    My First Wedding (circa 1980) my Mother baked our Wedding Cake (cheaper considerably… but very time consuming… in that WCake has to be made in the few days remaining just before the Wedding itself)

    This time round…

    We went with a Commercially baked WCake… but a very simple design (white cake, buttercream ivory frosting, 3 tiers, no extra embellishments… classic & beautiful).  I didn’t find the price too prohibitive (actually good value for the money compared to some other things we bought for the reception).  For $ 225 we got a cake that fed 100 people.

    It looked great on our Cake Pedestal and the Cake Table was laid out with our colour coordinated linens, cake was topped off with a cute “all us” cake topper from WeddingStar

    Baking such a cake, would have been a huge hassle compared to the cost… so I didn’t mind the expense.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 10
    573 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted no.  I don’t actually care for cake, especially fruit cake or sponge which is the norm in the UK for wedding cakes… plus I cannot have nuts so I opt out anyway.

    At my wedding, I would either go down the cupcake route or have a pie.

    Post # 12
    2145 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @HopefulSim:  That is a great money saver, it really is. And beautiful.

    Post # 13
    2620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    i would expect something– cake pie cupcakes smore bars donuts something sweet! cupcakes might not be a cheap alternative– i was looking into it for my wedding and they wanted 3-4 dollars per cupcake- not okay we did a 4 tier cake instead- that cake was big enough to serve 175 people.


    my first wedding we had 2 sheet cakes from costco and the bridal party/family of groom and me got to eat a two tier cake( the 2 tier cake was a gift from one of my sisters-600 dollar gift.) if i knew how much it was i would have told her no but she did all the design and chose the cake for us…..

    i would shop around for the best price and best quality..

    Post # 14
    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We’re having a very small cake made to cut, then serving sheet cake as an option – but our venue is also providing more desserts as part of our package that I can even begin to describe! I think you can cut the cost on the cake “for show” for sure!  I also like the cupcake idea!

    Post # 15
    473 posts
    Helper bee

    Cake is important, yes, but I am unsure if a “wedding cake” is required. Especially if cake-cutting is not important to you, than of course you don’t need that big fancy cake. Obviously, you will need some sort of dessert.  A lot of people do dessert buffets now, with cake, pie, brownies, and all sorts of goodies. You could ask the women of your family to each make one of their signature desserts and serve that. But make sure that at least a few of those are in fact cakes!  Like a PP said, I expect some form of cake at a wedding!

    PS: That three-cake display is gorgeous.

    Post # 16
    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @HopefulSim:  Ooooh I like the 3 cakes! You dont have to have one big cake but you need something sweet and dessert-y!

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