Is December too late to send out thank you notes?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1231 posts
Bumble bee

Its never too late to send a thank you for any reason.  jmo

Post # 3
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Kld37:  It certainly seems late. Can you not take 10 minutes each night to knock out 2-3 Thank You notes? Can’t your husband help you out? I can understand that work and school keep you busy, but I have a hard time understanding why you wouldn’t have time to write notes until after you graduate?

Post # 4
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I agree, it’s never too late. I believe traditional etiquette is crazy generous and is something like a year.. so I definitely think you’re ok

Post # 5
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Never too late for thank yous.

Post # 6
3750 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would say it’s too late. One thank you card should take you maybe five minutes max to write, address, and seal. Even if you only wrote two a day, that would only be ten minutes of your life and you’d knock out almost 15 thank you cards per week. If you upped it to five per day, you’d spend less than half an hour a day doing thank you cards. Thank you cards should really be sent out within three months of the wedding date.

Post # 7
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Kld37:  it’s way too late. All thank you noted should be recieved, at the most, three months after the wedding. All of your notes should, in good taste, be mailed out by Thanksgiving. Any later than that is inappropriate. Everyone is busy and has a life. Make time to write thank yous to those who took the time to come to your wedding and buy you a gift. 

Post # 8
8587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I feel like that’s a pretty long time. I’ve already wrote up thank you cards for gifts we’ve received so far and we’re still a week out.

This is kind of one of those things you need to make time for. A few minutes a day won’t kill you.

Post # 9
45274 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would not be polite to wait until December. Etiquette isn’t dependent on the fact that you are busy with school or work. You found the time to get married. Your friends and family found the time to buy and send you gifts. You can make the time to do your thank you notes.

scarlettbegonias87:  You  do not have a year and never have had. You may be confused by the fact that guests technically have up to a hear to send a gift after the wedding. The guide is to do thank- you notes asap after receiving the gift.

Post # 10
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

Is it nice to wait until December? No. But its better to send a thank you note than not.

The time you posted on here could have had two thank you’s written. *(Not snarky, just serious)*

Post # 12
3750 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

“Contrary to popular myth, the happy couple does not have a year’s grace period.  All thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift. Ideally, a response should be written on the day you receive a wedding gift. If that’s not possible, set a daily goal. It’s a lot easier to write three or four notes a day than to have to write a hundred notes in a month after the wedding!”

Post # 13
5015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes, do them this weekend. 

Post # 14
7084 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Kld37:  Yes, I would consider December to be late (not too late as it’s never too late but definitely late). Surely you have a few minutes per night where you can get one or two done. Etiquette does not say you have up to a year to send it out, I start to wonder if I’ll be getting one after two months…

Post # 15
3269 posts
Sugar bee

Everyone is busy.  Seriously, everyone. 

Your guests are also busy.  They have school/work/family committments, and yet they found the time to go out, find a gift that they thought you would like, spent their hard earned money on it, wrapped it, and came to your events.

All you have to do is jot down 5 lines on a paper, and address and stamp an envelope.  You have the much better end of the deal.

3 months is the MAX time you should be taking, not what you are aiming for.

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