(Closed) Is "dixieland" an appropriate song to play?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@spicyshimmer:  Hell no. I would leave. 

There are so many other songs to choose from that honour his Southern heritage without having to resort to minstrel songs. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@spicyshimmer:  I’m from the South, my family goes all the way back to Georgia pre-civil war and I would say no, it is not appropiate to play at a wedding.

While the song may not be considered offensive in and of itself, it has come to be associated with a certain mindset. Just like the battle flag which once only resembled what side the soldiers fought for, it has come to represent hate because it has been used that way. examples: during integration those who opposed black students entering white schools would yell racist terms while holding the battle flag and singing songs like dixieland. I literally just finished a very emotion-filled semester that discussed what the battle flag represented and whether or not songs like dixieland were racist so this is all pretty fresh on my mind.

That being said, I still love the song because it’s part of my heritage, good or bad – but your guests will probably not see it that way. Leave it out and find another way to celebrate his southern heritage. Look up some southern wedding traditions, I’m sure you’ll find something that will lend itself to your wedding.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would drop whatever I was doing and leave immediately. I wouldn’t say anything or cause a scene, but I expect that any of my friends should know better and to learn they didn’t would make me very uncomfortable, even angry

Post # 7
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Newbee

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Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@edwinia:  I would like to see some sources that it was intended to make fun of southerners. Dixie was originally part of a black face minstrel in which the freed slave is pining for his home in the South. While that doesn’t make it much better I still don’t think that it’s “making fun of southerners” in the way you think it does. I would also be careful about referring to a grooms cake as tacky, that’s pretty offensive given that I’ve seen quite a few bees from all over who have had grooms cakes. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MlleFabuleux:  plus one.

there are a ton of great southern traditions he can incorporate without insulting people. No flags of the conferate and no Dixieland. 

Eta: I don’t know where he’s from, but Georgia on my mind is a great homage. There are tons more. My family is southern, and I would never play Dixieland. Just FYI.

 

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Newbee

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Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

The lyrics, and history, of the song are really offensive. However, I’m sure you can find another song that will fit perfectly.

Many times people in the south are unaware of the actual lyrics to those songs. For instance, I have always loved the song, “Carry Me Back to Old Virginny.” It makes me tear up listening to it. BUT, then I read the lyrics, they are so bad. I would show the lyrics, and the history, to your FI. He probably won’t be so keen on it then

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Newbee

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