Post # 1
My FI and I recently discovered something….We`re broke as a joke!
Naw, we’ve known for awhile we were poorer then poor and that is okay.
We’ve been planning this wedding with the idea in mind that we are going to do things a little out of the ordinary because we don’t have the funds to supply “the normalicy of a wedding.” (a.k.a – We’re not always going to follow “wedding etiquette.”)
One of the things we are thinking about is having the ceremony in one place and the reception at another. We found two sites that allow such a thing to happen! But…the reception venue is an hour away from our ceremony venue. Is it acceptable….reasonable even to have our guests drive an hour to our reception location?
- Summer wedding, July 15th.
- Guests will have to drive one hour to the ceremony site.
- There will be out of town guests coming, it will take them 4 hours to get to the ceremony site.
- Outdoor wedding.
- Intimate wedding party. Mostly family, some friends.
I feel bad asking my guests to drive an hour to the reception site since for most of them it will take an hour just to get to the ceremony venue but it seems this can be the only way just to keep our wedding costs down!
What do you bees think?
Post # 3
I think it might be a little too far, you run the risk of having guests choose between the ceremony or reception, depending on their drive. Since it’s majority family, I would speak to a few key people and see what their opinions are on the drive.
Post # 4
I think it’s a bit far. What I’d you give the option of chartering a bus (people could chip in if they choose this option). Maybe people would feel more inclined to do this, as it still allows people to be together, and drink (if there’s booze) and not have to drive for several hours in the day.
Post # 5
I’m not sure, but that’s a ton of driving in one day for the people who’re already driving 4 hours to get to the ceremony. I think the previous poster’s idea of speaking to some of your guests and getting their opinions is a good idea
Post # 6
Honestly? That’s a lot of driving for one day for the out-of-towners. Especially considering that it’s the hottest month of the year in most places and anyone with a subpar AC will sweat through their nice wedding attire. BUT you should really decide by asking some of your guests and seeing what they think. If you’re worried about getting an honest answer, maybe have your mom or another family memeber ask.
Post # 7
i also think it might be a little too far. it seems like your out of town guests would spend more time on the road that at your wedding. but as the previous poster said, ask your family and feel them out about it. if they don’t mind then you’re good to go 🙂
Post # 8
That’s a lot of driving, you risk having people either show up only to the wedding or only to the reception.
Post # 9
If it is mostly family (and close family at that), you are probably okay. DH’s cousin got married 3-4 hours away (in rushhour traffic too!) and all of the family members showed up. We’ve also been OOT guests and drove about 3 hours and it was tough but she did an afternoon wedding so we weren’t stuck driving back to the hotel late at night, tired and sleepy in an unfamiliar area.
I would caution, however, having also been a July bride, that we had bumper-to-bumper traffic in July on a weekend with people heading to vacations/enjoying the summer. Perhaps this is different in Washington. The weather was also quite hot in July, but in Washington, that’s not as much of an issue.
However, for friends that are debating between their other summer plans and your out-of-the-way wedding, there’s a chance they will pick the other plans over yours because of the drive. That happened to both weddings we attended that had a lot of driving; the general turnout wasn’t “great”.
Post # 10
I would try to keep the distance between the ceremony and reception location to less than a half hour drive. I would shop around more for ceremony and reception locations and see if you can change one or the other to make them a little closer together.
Post # 12
while i am all for having the ceremony and reception in two different venues i think an hour is a tad too far
Post # 13
It depends.. say theyre driving an hour west for the ceremony, do they then have to drive an hour west again for the reception, or do they have to drive back east (closer to where they came from)?
Post # 14
I think that it’s too far to drive.
Post # 15
Its a little far.. is there a hotel near by guest can stay at?
Post # 16
@Lacelibs: They would have to drive back down closer to where they came from.
@4years3months7days: Yes there is. ^_^