Does it weird you out? and which is less eyebrow raising?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What do YOU think is normal/acceptable?
    Younger man/older woman : (20 votes)
    6 %
    Younger woman/older man : (41 votes)
    13 %
    Younger man/older man : (19 votes)
    6 %
    Younger woman/older woman : (21 votes)
    6 %
    All of it is okay : (126 votes)
    39 %
    All of it is gross : (50 votes)
    15 %
    obligatory other : (6 votes)
    2 %
    depends... : (43 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    2400 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    IMO no I don’t think it’s okay. My mom who is 37 is dating someone 64. He has a son who is 38. I love my step dad(they’ve been together for 13 years) but I still don’t think it’s right. I mean, I understand being alittle more mature then your age and wanting to date someone a little older but theres a line that shouldn’t be crossed.

    Post # 4
    3237 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I am married to man who is 18 years older than me. I don’t see why that wouldn’t be ‘okay’. I’m not with him for money. He isn’t with me because he wants arm candy. We fell in love and decided to get married.

    I’ve never understood the problem with age. Unless you are under age then who am I to tell anyone who they can and can’t love?

    Post # 5
    5909 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    …I think people start to wonder at the appeal when one party is risking a fractured pelvis with every intimate encounter.

    Post # 6
    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think the 20yo daughter is what makes this situation not okay.  The daughter is so close in age to him that it gets very weird and complicated.  If she didn’t have a daughter who is so close in age, then I think it would be acceptable (but not my preference!)

    Post # 7
    1817 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @Birdee106:  “Unless you are under age then who am I to tell anyone who they can and can’t love?”


    @Woodstock:  “Knowing him… he’s scraping the bottom of the barrel just so he can date someone… But what do I know, it could be love.”

    Then good for him that he found someone, right?

    Also, maybe they’re not in it for love, and that’s ok too (as long as they’re both on the same page).


    Post # 8
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think this thread could end up offending some who do have a huge age difference so I’ll leave my opinion out of this. I’m 28 and I can’t imagine but to each his/her own.


    Post # 9
    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If both are adults, then what’s the problem?  Some 40 yr olds display the maturity of 20 yr olds and vise versa.  To me age is a poor measure to judge compatibility.  

    Post # 10
    8389 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m not sure if it’s okay or whatever, but I just don’t care what other people do in their relationships.  I think pickles are gross, but I don’t care if other people eat them.

    Post # 11
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I don’t judge. My parents have an 18 year age difference. My dad’s oldest son is only a year younger than my mother. But hey, they’re happy, and have been for 35 years now.

    And the gender doesn’t matter. Older man or woman, younger man or woman… I have no place to judge.

    Post # 12
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    Of course it’s okay. If you don’t agree, great, enjoy your life never dating anyone younger/older but keep that superficial and bigoted stuff out of your interactions with others.

    Post # 13
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It’s all OK as long as everyone is at the same capacity- I mean nobody should be taken advantage of in the relationship.  Sometimes that has nothing to do with age, but sometimes it does. 

    Post # 15
    1410 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I honestly don’t care unless I think (or know for a fact) that one is with the other solely for money. We have a friend in his late 50s who has millions and his wife is 38….they have a lengthy prenup b/c even he thought she was with him for his money.

    I’m 4.5 years older than DH and I’ve never been into “younger” guys. His previous fling before me was w/a woman who was 43 and he was 28. She had a 23 yo daughter that DH said he should have been dating….but he’s always been attracted to older women.

    Post # 16
    1101 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    As long as everyone is a consenting adult I don’t see what the big deal is. Older people aren’t automatically gross old crones unworthy of love. Gary Oldman is old enough to be my father and I would still hit it any day of the week.

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