Post # 1
I notice a lot of younger gals date older.. and I mean much older guys. I always think ew, gross… but it seems to be more accepted….
on that note… one of DH’s friends just told him he is dating a 45yo woman. His friend is 24 and this woman has a 20yo daughter.
Knowing him… he’s scraping the bottom of the barrel just so he can date someone. He’s lonely and wants to find love. Nothing wrong with that.. but seriously I want to smack him and say “DATE SOMEONE YOUR OWN AGE!” This woman is SOOOO much older than him… I know she’s just in it for a lay and someone to make herself feel younger. But what do I know, it could be love.
So what does everyone think?
Is it okay for a 24yo to be dating a 45yo? Is it only okay if it’s a younger guy and a older girl. Or a younger girl and an older guy? Younger girl/older girl? Younger guy/older guy?
Remember we’re talking a 21 year age difference!
Post # 3
IMO no I don’t think it’s okay. My mom who is 37 is dating someone 64. He has a son who is 38. I love my step dad(they’ve been together for 13 years) but I still don’t think it’s right. I mean, I understand being alittle more mature then your age and wanting to date someone a little older but theres a line that shouldn’t be crossed.
Post # 4
I am married to man who is 18 years older than me. I don’t see why that wouldn’t be ‘okay’. I’m not with him for money. He isn’t with me because he wants arm candy. We fell in love and decided to get married.
I’ve never understood the problem with age. Unless you are under age then who am I to tell anyone who they can and can’t love?
Post # 5
…I think people start to wonder at the appeal when one party is risking a fractured pelvis with every intimate encounter.
Post # 6
I think the 20yo daughter is what makes this situation not okay. The daughter is so close in age to him that it gets very weird and complicated. If she didn’t have a daughter who is so close in age, then I think it would be acceptable (but not my preference!)
Post # 7
@Birdee106: “Unless you are under age then who am I to tell anyone who they can and can’t love?”
@Woodstock: “Knowing him… he’s scraping the bottom of the barrel just so he can date someone… But what do I know, it could be love.”
Then good for him that he found someone, right?
Also, maybe they’re not in it for love, and that’s ok too (as long as they’re both on the same page).
Post # 8
I think this thread could end up offending some who do have a huge age difference so I’ll leave my opinion out of this. I’m 28 and I can’t imagine but to each his/her own.
Post # 9
If both are adults, then what’s the problem? Some 40 yr olds display the maturity of 20 yr olds and vise versa. To me age is a poor measure to judge compatibility.
Post # 10
I’m not sure if it’s okay or whatever, but I just don’t care what other people do in their relationships. I think pickles are gross, but I don’t care if other people eat them.
Post # 11
I don’t judge. My parents have an 18 year age difference. My dad’s oldest son is only a year younger than my mother. But hey, they’re happy, and have been for 35 years now.
And the gender doesn’t matter. Older man or woman, younger man or woman… I have no place to judge.
Post # 12
Of course it’s okay. If you don’t agree, great, enjoy your life never dating anyone younger/older but keep that superficial and bigoted stuff out of your interactions with others.
Post # 13
It’s all OK as long as everyone is at the same capacity- I mean nobody should be taken advantage of in the relationship. Sometimes that has nothing to do with age, but sometimes it does.
Post # 14
I agree that it’s up to them to decide. I just found it questionable.. then it got me thinking.. would it be more okay if he was the older one??? I’m also worried he’s going to get hurt b/c he is in it for love/relationship I’m just not sure she in it for anything other than making herself feel better. I can just see her dropping him real fast.
Post # 15
I honestly don’t care unless I think (or know for a fact) that one is with the other solely for money. We have a friend in his late 50s who has millions and his wife is 38….they have a lengthy prenup b/c even he thought she was with him for his money.
I’m 4.5 years older than DH and I’ve never been into “younger” guys. His previous fling before me was w/a woman who was 43 and he was 28. She had a 23 yo daughter that DH said he should have been dating….but he’s always been attracted to older women.
Post # 16
As long as everyone is a consenting adult I don’t see what the big deal is. Older people aren’t automatically gross old crones unworthy of love. Gary Oldman is old enough to be my father and I would still hit it any day of the week.